Between Two Worlds : The Inner Lives of Children of DivorceMarquardt, Elizabeth
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Twenty-five years ago, Judith Wallerstein began talking to a group of 131 children whose parents were all going through a divorce. She asked them to tell her about the intimate details of their lives, which they did with remarkable candor. Having earned their trust, Wallerstein was rewarded with a deeply moving portrait of each of their lives as she followed them from childhood, through their adolescent struggles, and into adulthood. With The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Wallerstein offers us the only close-up study of divorce ever conducted -- a unique report that will change our fundamental beliefs about divorce and offer new hope for the future.
Wallerstein chooses seven children who most embody the common life experiences of the larger group and follows their lives in vivid detail through adolescence and into their love affairs, their marriage successes and failures, and parenting their own children. In Wallerstein's hands, the experiences and anxieties of this generation of children, now in their late twenties to early forties, come to life. We watch as they struggle with the fear that their relationships will fail like those of their parents. Lacking an internal template of what a successful relationship looks like, they must invent their own codes of behavior in a culture that offers many models and few guidelines. Wallerstein shows how many over-came their dread of betrayal to find loving partners and to become successful, protective parents -- and how others are still struggling to find their heart's desire without knowing why they feel so frightened. She also demonstrates their great strengths and accomplishments, as a generation of survivors who often had to raise themselves and help their parents through difficult times.
For the first time, using a comparison group of adults who grew up in the same communities, Wallerstein shows how adult children of divorce essentially view life differently from their peers raised in intact homes where parents also confronted marital difficulties but decided on balance to stay together. In this way she sheds light on the question so many parents confront -- whether to stay unhappily married or to divorce.
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce should be essential reading for all adult children of divorce, their lovers, their partners, divorced parents or those considering divorce, judges, attorneys, and mental health professionals. Challenging some of our most cherished beliefs, this is a book that will forever alter how we think about divorce and its long-term impact on American society.
"Wallerstein, who believes that how and when divorcing parents break the news makes a big difference in how their children cope afterward, offers specific suggestions to couples about what they might say. Indeed, one of this book's virtues is the way it combines research and analysis with advice to real people facing the breakup of their marriages."
Margaret Talbot, New York Times, 10/01/2000
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Book Description: Hyperion Books, Boston, Massachusetts, U.S.A., 2000. Hardcover. Book Condition: New. FLAWLESS COPY, PRISTINE, NEVER OPENED -- 352 pages; clean and crisp, tight and bright pages, with no writing or markings to the text. -- DESCRIPTION: Publishers Weekly - Twenty-five years ago, when the impact of divorce on children was not well understood, Wallerstein began what has now become the largest study on the subject, and this audiobook, which McIntire reads with compassion and warmth, presents the psychologist's startling findings. By tracking approximately 100 children as they forge their lives as adults, she has found that contrary to the popular belief that kids would bounce back after the initial pain of their parents' split, children of divorce often continue to suffer well into adulthood. Their pain plays out in their relationships, their work lives and their confidence about parenting themselves. Wallerstein argues that although the situation is dire, there is hope to be found at the end of good counseling and healing. Unfortunately, in her desire to communicate a lot in a highly accessible format, Wallerstein verges on oversimplification at times. Nonetheless, hers is an important contribution to our understanding of what is a central social problem. Based on the Hyperion hardcover -- TABLE OF CONTENTS: Acknowledgments * Preface * Introduction * Pt. 1 Parallel Universes: Karen and Gary * 1 When a Child Becomes the Caregiver * 2 Sunlit Memories * 3 Growing Up Is Harder * 4 What If They'd Stayed Together - and What If They Can't? * 5 When There's No One to Set an Example * 6 Setting an Example * Pt. 2 The Legacy of Divorce: Larry and Carol * 7 The Wages of Violence * 8 Our Failure to Intervene * 9 Order Out of Chaos * 10 Family Ties * 11 Undoing the Past * Pt. 3 The Parentless Child: Paula * 12 Growing Up Lonely * 13 Court-Ordered Visiting, the Child's View 174 14 Sex and Drugs * 15 Evolving Relationships * 16 The Custody Saga Continues * Pt. 4 The Vulnerable Child: Billy * 17 The Vulnerable Child * 18 The Stepfamily * 19 Picking Up the Pieces, One by One * Pt. 5 My Best Case: Lisa * 20 Is Not Fighting Enough? * 21 Children of Divorce * 22 Conclusions * Appendix * Notes * Index. Bookseller Inventory # 34316 Bookseller & Payment Information | More Books from this Seller | Ask Bookseller a Question |
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