Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again after a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One - Hardcover

Gray, John

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0060175982 ISBN 13: 9780060175986

Publisher: Harper, 1998

Synopsis

Is it possible to find love again after a breakup, death, or divorce?

The end of a relationship can sometimes feel like the end of the world. Devastation, loneliness, and bitterness are some emotions that exist due to a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one. But with the help of this compassionate guide, Dr. John Gray expresses that you will survive and tells you how to find love again.

While the process of healing is similar with both sexes, there are distinct differences between the ways men and women heal their bruised hearts. In Mars and Venus Starting Over, Dr. Gray offers gender-specific advice on how to:

• Deal with pain
• Find forgiveness
• Discover the strength to let go
• Rebuild confidence
• Rise to the challenge of finding fulfillment again

Filled with gentle guidance, healing practices, and compassionate wisdom, Mars and Venus Starting Over will help men and women explore the meaning of loss, find their way through the healing process, and discover the secret to moving on.

About this title

About the Author

John Gray, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading relationship experts, and an authority on improving communication styles for couples, companies, and communities. His many books have sold more than fifty million copies in fifty different languages worldwide. John lives with his wife and children in northern California.

From the Back Cover

Starting over after a painful breakup, a divorce, or the loss of a loved one can be the most challenging experience of a lifetime. Drawing on insights derived from twenty-eight years of counseling thousands of men and women in making wise choices in the process of healing their hearts, John Gray has once again written a groundbreaking book--one that abundantly provides guidance and comfort to those who find themselves single again. With the processes John Gray has developed in counseling and leading workshops, Mars & Venus Starting Over opens the door to finding a rich and fulfilling lifetime of love once again.

The first section of the book addresses the part of the healing process that is basically the same for men and women. Dealing with the pain of a breakup or loss is not easy, and John Gray makes it clear that although the pain of loss is an inevitable part of life, suffering is not. He explains that the heart often lags behind the mind, that we must experience our grief in order to become whole again. He compassionately shows us how to find forgiveness and explains how good endings make good beginnings.

Although the healing process is fundamentally the same, starting over on Venus is often different from starting over on Mars. Women tend to push love away to avoid getting hurt again. On the other hand, men often get involved right away, but have trouble committing. Part two, "Starting Over on Venus," explores the twenty-three common challenges women face, which include the new pressures of dating, glorifying our past, staying stuck in grief, overromanticizing, women who do too much, fear of intimacy, and putting children first. Part three, "Starting Over on Mars," deals with sex on the rebound, work, money, and love, living out fantasies, holding back, being in a hurry, bigger is better, and self-destructive tendencies--to name a few of the land mines men face on the road to healing.

Mars & Venus Starting Over will inspire you to rise to the challenge of healing your heart and to move on to find an even greater love. You will fulfill your soul's deepest purpose--to love and to be loved.

There is hope! You will find love again...

John Gray has helped millions of men and women develop better relationships with his phenomenal New York Times bestseller Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.

Now he turns his attention to the millions of people who find themselves single again and compassionately presents a process for healing a broken heart. Here are just some of the issues and challenges John Gray covers in this supportive and practical guide to becoming whole again:

• Emotiontal Lag Time

• Grieving the Loss of Love

• Getting Unstuck

• Good Endings Make Good Beginnings

• The Feeling Better Exercise

• Finding Forgiveness

• Saying Good-bye with Love

• The 90-10 Principle

• Processing Our Hot Spots

• 101 Ways to Heal Our Hearts

Starting Over

• Date Around, but don't Sleep Around

• Glorifying Our Past

• Overromanticizing

• Focusing on the Negative

• Who Needs a Man?

• Women Who Do Too Much

• Fear of Intimacy

• My Children Need Me

• All or Noting

Starting Over on Mars

• Sex on the Rebound

• Work, Money, and Love

• Positive Addictions

• We Don't Have to Stop Loving

• Soul Mates Are Not Perfect

• Can't Live With Them and Can't Live Without Them

• Holding Back

• Bigger is Better

• Self-Destructive Tendencies

Edition details

• Publisher: Harper
• Publication date: 1998
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0060175982
• ISBN 13: 9780060175986
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 352