Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships - Softcover

Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0310243149 ISBN 13: 9780310243144

Publisher: Zondervan, 2002

Synopsis

Learn when to say yes and when to say no to your spouse to make the most of your marriage.

Only when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another.

Boundaries are the "property lines" that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning bestseller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage - and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for.

Boundaries in Marriage will help you:

• Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse
• Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage
• Protect their marriage from different kinds of "intruders"
• Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries - or work with one who doesn't

You don't have to let your marriage head toward separation or divorce. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

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Review:

Establishing and understanding boundaries are crucial to the success of a marriage, according to authors Cloud and Townsend, who cowrote the award-winning and biblically-based book Boundaries. For example, boundaries help us understand where one person ends and the other begins, the authors claim: "Once we know the boundaries, we know who should be owning the problem we are wrestling with," they write. "This issue of ownership is vital to any relationship, especially marriage." But more significantly, couples need to claim and take responsibility for the "treasures that lie within their individual borders," such as: "feelings, attitudes, behaviors, choices, limits, desires, thoughts, values, talents, and love." Based on the book that elevated them to national prominence, Cloud and Townsend caution readers not to use this self-help manifesto as a means to change one's spouse. Rather, this is a book about taking responsibility for oneself in all aspects of life, but especially within the boundaries of marital commitment.

From the Publisher:

Two lives becoming one--that's the marriage ideal. But couples who have been married for a while know it's not easy. Two individuals are involved, with different needs, ways of communicating, strengths and weaknesses, wounds and blind spots. In the process of knitting two souls together, it's easy to tear the fabric. Toss in the potential for friction from other sources, and setting boundaries in marriage becomes crucial. Now counselors and best-selling authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend apply the principles of their Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, to help couples experience marriage at its best, as a haven of mutual love, care, appreciation, and growth. They show why true, joyous unity in marriage requires that both partners define and maintain their integrity as well as respect their mate's personal boundaries. Boundaries in Marriage will show couples: Why boundaries are so important for a thriving, productive marriage How values form the structure and architecture of marriage How to protect a marriage from intruders, whether parents, other people, affairs, or personal idols Why each partner needs to establish personal boundaries, and how to go about it How to work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries--and how to work with one who doesn't Boundaries in Marriage uses biblical principles to provide solutions for marriage struggles. For couples with a few years under their belts and for those just entering marriage, Boundaries in Marriage is a book that can help couples safeguard against relational fractures, mend existing cracks, and make even the best marriage better.

About this edition

• Publisher: Zondervan
• Publication date: 2002
• ISBN 10: 0310243149
• ISBN 13: 9780310243144
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 256