Mommy, Were You Happy The Day I Was Born?

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There Sylvia Lasalandra-Frodella has written a touching, heartfelt and, frequently, humorous response to the question that most children ask at some point in their young lives: "Mommy, were you happy the day I was born?" Sylvia's young daughter Melina is eager to find out the answer, and her mom's response is even more emotionally charged because she suffered from a severe case of postpartum depression during Melina's early years. "Castles...they might crumble Dreams may not come true But you are never all alone Because I will always, always love you." -- "In My Arms" Artist: Plumb

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Sylvia Lasalandra-Frodella currently serves on the President's Advisory Council of Postpartum Support International and as a Community Outreach Director for, a web site posted by women's reproductive mental health expert Susan Dowd Stone, MSW, LCSW, to help educate and inform women, families and health care providers about the often unexpexted challenges of mood changes during pregnancy, the postpartum and throughout a woman's reproductive life. "A Daughter's Touch," her memoir about the often-hidden tragedy of postpartum depression (PPD) is a scathing, and often hilarious, account of her near-fatal struggle with PPD and details the harrowing, and often bizarre, frustrations she experienced with doctors, psychiatrists, agencies, friends and family as she fought for her own life of her daughter. The short film Sylvia adapted from "A Daughter's Touch" won awards for "Best Short Drama" and "Best Director" at the New York International Independent Film & Video Festival in 2005, and was a featured selection at Cannes tht same year. A Spanish translation of the book has also recently been completed, and is now available under the title; "El Toque Magico De Una Hija." Sylvia spends much of her time promoting awareness of PPD with her dear friend and fellow survivor Mary Jo Codey, former First Lady of New Jersey, and has stood alongside actress Brooke Shields, encouraging women and families to seek help and support when suffering with PPD. She lives in New Jersey with her husband Michael and beautiful daughter Melina.


Ms. Sylvia Lasalandra Frodella has done it again! Having challenged the stigma associated with PMAD s in her candid bestselling book, A Daughter s Touch, she has now decided there needs to be an endpoint to the mother guilt! Specifically, she feels that: * That there needs to be a time when mother and child acknowledge and celebrate the relationship that inevitably emerges with the restoration of health. * That we need to slam and expose the idea that love and happiness were absent at birth because the agony of PMAD s may have obscured such feelings. Mommy, were you happy the day I was born? , goes straight to the question recovered mothers often fear... Have I somehow irreparably damaged my child because I could not be fully emotionally present at birth? How do I answer this question? We read so much about the guilt associated with PMAD s. Guilt that the partner is overburdened, guilt about needing help, guilt about the financial costs of recovery, guilt about disappointing loved ones when this unwanted response to motherhood emerges. This guilt does absolutely NO good and may protract recovery. Please raise your hand if you have never experienced mother guilt despite the best possible birth experience? What, no hands? I didn t think so. Thankfully, babies and children are incredibly resilient and weather transient emotional storms like the little troopers they were meant to be! But maternal guilt can be a haunting, persistent presence for recovered mothers despite ensuing healthy years of joy and boundless shared love. It can cause second guessing about behavior, development, personality traits, and feelings of somehow having to make it up to the child. Sylvia s not buying it. So she wrote a book for her precious daughter Melina to pre-emptively answer, once and for all, a question that might arise one day. Sylvia Lasalandra s book Mommy were you happy the day I was born? is a touching dialogue between mother and daughter which takes place on a single normative day in their joyous life. While basking in each other s obvious love and attention, the child gradually gains confidence to ask the question her little heart has pondered. And the answer is incredibly powerful in its refusal to deny what was and always will be present. The sun behind a cloud has still risen. Love behind pain is still present. Sylvia wanted to create a permanent record about this aspect of PMAD s tendency to make moms second guess their own truths. The smoke and mirrors of PMAD confusion is a destructive mirage. One which makes a mother doubt herself and her worthiness to experience maternal love. Sylvia understands this better than most. She is, after all, a PMAD survivor and nationally known PPD advocate. She has brought audiences to tears with her honest revelations about what she endured. And one day, her grade school daughter will be old enough to read her book, understand her mother s mission and face her own child. This may be a book for Melina but it is also for every mother who has dreaded this question and been silenced by phantom guilt. What I love most about this book is that PMAD s don t get top billing. Activities like shopping, story telling, prayers at bedtime and brushing teeth walk us through their daily ritual. In the mother-daughter discussion, there is no specific reference to PMAD s. When the question is posed Mommy were you happy the day I was born? , the dialogue that ensues could have been generated by any number of life circumstances causing disruption around birth. Instead, the book emphasizes the supremity of the maternal spirit, the resiliency of mother and child and leaves no doubt that illness is no match for the visceral connection that prevails, despite the great pain that may have come before. Congratulations Sylvia! Susan Dowd Stone, MSW, LCSW

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Sylvia Lasalandra, author of the book A Daughter's Touch, has recently published a children's book based on her experience with postpartum depression. It's called "Mommy, Were You Happy the Day I Was Born?" She created the book especially for her daughter Melina. One of the lovely things about it is that she doesn't go into the gory details of PPD, which I don't think is necessary to do with a young child, but very briefly touches on "not being able to show love the way she wanted to" when her daughter was an infant... - Katherine Stone

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Sylvia Lasalandra-Frodella
Published by Quattro M Publishing (2011)
ISBN 10: 0578078635 ISBN 13: 9780578078632
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