"This one book can make a big difference in your life. It's filled with the kind of spiritual and practical wisdom that can bring peace to your inner and outer worlds."
- Tian Dayton, author, therapist
Do you feel like something is missing in your life?
Do you feel like you're always playing "catch up?"
Do you feel stressed out a lot of the time?
If so, there is a way to make your hectic life a happy one and to feel fulfilled instead of frazzled at the end of the day. Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse, who sparked a movement with her book Learning to Love Yourself, sheds new light on the all-important issue of balance in this breakthrough book.
Rather than tout outward solutions like multitasking or investing in a Daytimer, she helps flip the focus where it needs to be--inward. She explains that every one of us possesses 6 innate powers, that when neglected, will result in a lack of clarity (Where did I put my keys?); a lack of passion (Not tonight, I'm too tired); and a feeling of being overwhelmed (There's no way I can get that report done by five).
Using enlightening self-assessment questions, practical exercises and journaling pages, she shows readers how to harness each power to make true life changes in just 8 weeks.
It's entirely possible to live the life you want. You can have less stress and more passion; less frustration and more fulfillment --this book will show you how.
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Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse, is a nationally known consultant, educator and author. She was the founding chairperson of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics. She is a family therapist who has conducted workshops around the world and has consulted with the military, school systems, business and industry, treatment centers and corporations. She is a past winner of the Mary Mann award as a top communicator. She has appeared on "The Phil Donahue Show," "The Oprah Winfrey Show" twice and "Good Morning America.' She lives in Las Vegas.
Mark Bryan is a cofounder of The Artist's Way and author of The Artist's Way at Work and The Prodigal Father.
Choosing Our Closest Friends
It's easy to see we need to be mindful of our relationships. Each of us only has twenty-four hours to work with every day. We have to subtract time for sleeping, personal hygiene, eating and work, exercise and prayer and meditation right off the top. Then we deduct auto care, commuting and appointments, paperwork and shopping. Then we have to allocate time to relationships, starting with our inner circle and working out to the other levels of friendship.
Making time for our relationships requires considerable focus and energy. When we see how little time we actually have, it's clear that we cannot spend even a few minutes on toxic relationships. They are the relationships with family members or friends that drain us of good feeling or energy. We simply do not have the time or extra energy to devote to relationships that are unmanageable, unsatisfying and unrewarding, and we often double our problems by choosing friends with similar problems.
As our lives change, and we change, we can add or subtract from our families of choice as circumstances dictate. Sometimes people move away, they lose interest in us or we lose interest in them. Sometimes people die. Sometimes interests change, and what we have in common with others changes. The family of choice relationship chart helps us to take stock, evaluate and clean house.
Some say that this is a cold and calculating way to look at relationships. My belief is that the relationships I want to invest in are so important to me that I need to save my energy for them. It's not important to be popular. It is important to experience intimacy and fulfillment in chosen relationships.
We need to seek out people with whom we can be honest and expect honesty in return. They need to be easy to be around. They need to understand that when we are sometimes inconsistent, negligent and busy that we still care. We need to give them that same understanding. We can be quiet with a true friend. It is enough to be together. Sometimes there will be hysterical laughter. With true friends, giving and taking comes naturally and without pressure.
Trust, Sharing and Intimacy
All happy, intimate relationships contain the following elements: trust, respect, encouragement, forgiveness, sharing of feelings, fun, sex and a spiritual quest. It is only in romance novels that great relationships happen spontaneously. A great relationship really happens as two people come to know and trust each other fully and make the choices that allow intimacy to flourish.
The cornerstone of intimacy is shared feelings, and one of the most important elements in sharing is trust. Trust builds slowly in a relationship and depends on honesty. It's like storing up an energy reserve on which the couple will draw when they face the challenges that come in every relationship. The more they trust, the more intimacy they will have.
When trust is violated, it takes a long time to rebuild. Trust can only be rebuilt with continued actions that demonstrate that trust has been reestablished. It's not enough just to plug a line back into the socket to renew the flow of energy between two partners. Instead, the whole energy infrastructure of the relationship has to be rebuilt, from power plant to wall outlet, and tested repeatedly for reliability.
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