When Love Dies: The Process of Marital Disaffection (Perspectives on Marriage and the Family) - Hardcover

Kayser, Karen

 
9780898620863: When Love Dies: The Process of Marital Disaffection (Perspectives on Marriage and the Family)
Hardcover
ISBN 10: 0898620864 ISBN 13: 9780898620863
Publisher: The Guilford Press, 1993

Synopsis

When a marriage is still young, the prospect of "falling out of love" seems an unlikely possibility. However, for some spouses the loving feelings experienced early on can diminish to the point where marital disaffection--an emotional estrangement--sets in. The breakdown of the emotional bond does not usually occur abruptly, but more often evolves over months and even years of growing dissatisfaction with the relationship. What actually happens, then, between the beginning of a marriage--full of love, hope, and caring--and the point where alienation and indifference set in?
When Love Dies is based on two rich sources of information gathered by the author. Karen Kayser first analyzes in-depth and revealing interviews with 49 spouses who recount their feelings, thoughts, and actions as they fell out of love with their partners. Chapters trace the slow dissolution of love and its impact on a marriage, from the onset of marital disaffection to its final stages. Kayser then incorporates data from a random sample survey, comparing troubled spouses with non-disaffected spouses and exploring the relationships among marital disaffection, psychological well-being, commitment, attribution, and gender.
When Love Dies examines the concept of matrimony from broad theories of marriage as a social institution to the most specific nuances of spousal interaction. Kayser shows that by studying the dynamics that produce disaffection, partners are able to focus on ways to better understand what is needed to maintain love in marriage. Identifying the phases of disaffection, including significant turning points, can alert spouses and clinicians that it is time to confront problems of alienation. Clinical recommendations for repairing marriages are offered for each phase of the disaffection process. The book also provides a scale of marital disaffection that is of practical use to clinicians and researchers.
Combining meticulous research, revealing interviews, and insightful analysis, When Love Dies is a valuable text for instructors of courses on marriage and the family, and essential reading for all clinicians who work with couples.

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About the Author

Karen Kayser, M.S.W., Ph.D., is an assistant professor in the Graduate School of Social Work at Boston College. She has many years of experience as a marital and family therapist and is coauthor of The Love Exchange and Marriage and the Family: Studying Close Relationships.

From the Back Cover

When a marriage is still young, the prospect of "falling out of love" seems an unlikely possibility. However, for some spouses the loving feelings experienced early on can diminish to the point where marital disaffection - an emotional estrangement - sets in. The breakdown of the emotional bond does not usually occur abruptly, but more often evolves over months and even years of growing dissatisfaction with the relationship. What actually happens, then, between the beginning of a marriage - full of love, hope, and caring - and the point where alienation and indifference set in? When Love Dies is based on two rich sources of information gathered by the author. Karen Kayser first analyzes in-depth and revealing interviews with 49 spouses who recount their feelings, thoughts, and actions as they fell out of love with their partners. Chapters trace the slow dissolution of love and its impact on a marriage, from the onset of marital disaffection to its final stages. Kayser then incorporates data from a random sample survey, comparing troubled spouses with nondisaffected spouses and exploring the relationships among marital disaffection, psychological well-being, commitment, attribution, and gender. When Love Dies examines the concept of matrimony from broad theories of marriage as a social institution to the most specific nuances of spousal interaction. Kayser shows that by studying the dynamics that produce disaffection, partners are able to focus on ways to better understand what is needed to maintain love in marriage. Identifying the phases of disaffection, including significant turning points, can alert spouses and clinicians that it is time to confront problems of alienation. Clinicalrecommendations for repairing marriages are offered for each phase of the disaffection process. The book also provides a scale of marital disaffection that is of practical use to clinicians and researchers. Combining meticulous research, revealing interviews, and insightful analysis, When Love Dies is a valuable text for instructors of courses on marriage and the family, and essential reading for all clinicians who work with couples.

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1. Love in Contemporary Marriage
2. Beginning Disappointments
3. Between Disappointment and Disaffection
4. Reaching Disaffection
5. What Causes Love to Die?
6. A Comparison of Disaffected and Nondisaffected Spouses
7. Restoring Love in a Disaffected Marriage
Appendices
References

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Publisher
The Guilford Press
Publication date
1993
Language
English
ISBN 10 
0898620864
ISBN 13 
9780898620863
Binding
Hardcover
Edition number
1
Number of pages
191