A Life Let Go: A Memoir and Five Birth Mother Stories of Closed Adoption

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Closed adoption, heralded as the answer to the problem of unplanned pregnancy, shows its other side in A Life Let Go, A Memoir and Five Birth Mother Stories of Closed Adoption. These women tell how they experienced unplanned pregnancy in the restrictiveness of the last decades of the twentieth century. All gave up a child in closed adoption—the only option—understanding they would never see them again, a dark contract made under great duress.

The women:

1972: Patricia is not yet 16 when her parents learn she is pregnant. They decide she will stay hidden in the house and give the baby up for adoption.

1983: Nancy, lost and wandering in her early twenties, is anxious to to do the “right thing” when she becomes pregnant.

1964: Evelyn, married only a short time, becomes pregnant. When her husband says he is not ready, she believes she must choose between him and her baby and she gives the child up for adoption. Two months later, she is pregnant again.

1959: Marti, married mother of two, is already struggling to keep from having a nervous breakdown when she learns she is pregnant with her third child.

1969: Dena, a rebellious teen, is pregnant and marries the abusive birth father. After a brutal beating, her family sends her halfway across the country to live with her aunt and physician uncle. Dena loses her fight to keep her child.

1969: Kate, a young unmarried woman from a loving family, is ready to raise her baby and her family will support her decision, but a social worker talks her into placing the baby for adoption.

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After being found by the daughter she gave up for adoption, Patricia helped develop and run a support group for birth families, adoptees, and adoptive parents for eleven years. She now lives with her husband on their organic farm in Williams, Oregon. In addition to freelance editing and occasional farmwork, she devotes most of her time to writing fiction, memoir, and poetry. You can find out more at: www.PatriciaFlorin.info

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"In A Life Let Go... Patricia Florin dares to tell the truth, the painful truth, about women who got pregnant and were coerced by society's rules to let their babies be adopted. This important book is a heart wrenching narratives about Patricia's own experience and the experience of other women who could not keep their babies. If you have any connection to adoption, you must read this outstanding, well written book." - Joe Soll, LCSW, psychotherapist and author of Adoption Healing... a path to recovery "Collection of compelling stories told with great insight and compassion, each one so different, yet all reveal the devastating impact of closed adoption and the tragedy of living in a rigid, judgmental society. It is impossible not to feel deeply for each of the mothers, so much so that other mothers will find comfort and support for their own stories, adoptees will gain greater understanding of why they were never forgotten, and adoptive parents will feel empathy rather than fear for their child's original mother. Highly recommended." - Carol Schaefer, author of The Other Mother and Searching... "As an adoptive parent of the 1960s, reading A Life Let Go by Patricia Florin was painful and illuminating. Florin explores her own and other birth mothers' experiences from the time of conception through delivery and "giving the child up" for adoption... This is must reading for adoptive parents and important reading for adoptees... and an occasion for appreciating and celebrating the shared experiences of its author, Patricia Florin." -Herbert Long, Th.D.; Diplomate, Process Oriented Psych.; Former Dean of Students and Peabody Lecturer, Harvard Div. School; Adjunct Faculty, Marylhurst Univ. "A Life Let Go invites us into the amazing transformation possible when the trauma of giving up a baby is healed through love, honesty, and courage in this heart rending and inspiring true story of a pregnant teen hiding in the house, frozen and blind to all possibility beyond invisibility, as a baby grew in the dark and a mother weds herself to shame.... I highly recommend these stories of women who have given up their babies due to social mores, family pressure, or emotional and financial limitations....This intimate confessional inspires compassion and deep healing." - Becky Hale, Psychotherapist "Imprisoned by a secret... In A Life Let Go, Florin recounts in heartbreaking detail how she became a shadow in her own home ... and surrenders her child to adoption. She yearns to know what became of her daughter, but the closed adoption bars her from knowing even her name. When her daughter finds her years later, Florin confronts the secrets and reconciles the past. She finds comfort in a circle of women who have surrendered children to adoption and skillfully weaves their stories into this memoir of loss, recovery and the enduring power of love." - Janet Oelklaus, NW Calif. Rep., AAC

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