Since Dr. Spock published Baby and Child Care in 1941 there has been a seemingly endless stream of books with advice on parenting. In spite of that great effort-much of it wise and useful-parenting has not become easier, and outcomes for our children do not seem to be improving. According to many authorities, they are worsening.Authors Harkey and Jourgensen strongly suggest that a major flaw in most parenting advice is the assumption that one child is much like another, and one parent is much like another. Instead, the unique and highly individual temperament of the child makes a world of difference in how that child learns and socializes, how he or she responds to discipline, learns self-control, reasons, and makes decisions about life. Parent temperament, in turn, has a profound influence on actual parenting style, no matter what theoretical model the parent follows. In the first volume of a two volume set-Raising CuddleBugs, BraveHearts, WorkerBees and ButterFlies: Measuring and Understanding Temperament in Children-the authors give parents a well researched questionnaire for measuring temperament in children, and a thorough description of temperament differences in children's behaviors.In Volume II, subtitled Adult Temperament and Parenting Styles, parents are shown how to explore and understand their own temperament, and how to look at the effects of parent temperament on their expectations for their children and on their own parenting style. The most accepted research model for good parenting is described, and parents are challenged to "stretch" toward this model while staying within their own temperament comfort zone.
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Allow the child to sleep with parents as long as he needs to? Breast feed up to the third or fourth year? Discipline only with sensitive understanding and discussion? No, no! A firm routine is critical, with highly regular hours, a well defined schedule? Allow the child to cry until ready to go to sleep if necessary? Let the child learn to self-soothe? Discipline with swift and certain punishment for all misdeeds?
What is going on here? Why do parenting experts disagree so radically? The little secret is found in temperament—the temperament of the child, the parent, and even the parenting expert. Parenting is an extension of the same qualities we bring to personal relationships, decision making, conflict resolution, and structure in work and play. A gentle and tender parent with a quiet, gentle child will do things very differently than a firm, decisive parent with a highly rambunctious child—and often rightly so.From the Inside Flap:
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"These two volumes used together provide a much needed insight into how the temperaments of a particular child and his or her parents work together (or against each other) to set the tone for harmony or discord that can last a lifetime. The authors developed and standardized questionnaires to measure both how parents view a child’s temperament and how they view their own. From these measures, descriptions of various personality types are used to explain behavior resulting from certain traits. Parents who participated in the standardization were amazed at how accurate the profiles are and what can be learned to ease the parenting task. Oprah Winfrey should put these volumes on her "Must Read" list for every parent.
Marcia Lasswell Professor of Psychology; Past President of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy
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