Doing the Right Thing: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents, Even If They Didn't Take Care of You - Hardcover

Satow. Ph.d, Roberta

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9781585423927: Doing the Right Thing: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents, Even If They Didn't Take Care of You
Hardcover
ISBN 10: 1585423920 ISBN 13: 9781585423927
Publisher: Tarcher, 2005

Synopsis

A guide for estranged adult children of aging parents defines care giving as a developmental stage that provides an opportunity to work out unresolved issues, counseling readers on such topics as establishing boundaries, forgiveness, sibling dynamics, the effect of gender on the elderly, and the impact of eldercare on an offspring's marriage. 20,000 first printing.

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About the Author

Roberta Satow, Ph.D., is chairperson of the Department of Sociology at Brooklyn College and is a practicing psychoanalyst in New York City. In addition to authoring Gender and Social Life, she has written numerous articles on sociological and psychoanalytic subjects.

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Satow's insightful manual asserts that with proper preparation, middle-aged baby boomers charged with sick or elderly parents, even estranged ones, can find caring for them a rewarding, or at least tolerable, situation, one that need not erode anyone's integrity or sanity. Psychoanalyst and Brooklyn College sociology professor Satow's personal experience with her own difficult mother suggests that such care may actually mend long-conflicted relationships. She intercuts her clearly written advice with brief illustrative stories taken from interviews with 50 caregivers. As Satow airs and analyzes the complex array of feelings that can be brought on by the massive responsibilities of caring for an aged parent, duties made worse by previous or current selfish or manipulative behavior, she suggests coping strategies for becoming "more conscious about what [we experience] in the process of care giving." Satow's sympathy and useful advice will offer conflicted caregivers straightforward help in dealing with their ambivalent feelings toward parents who are in a terminal phase of life. Her belief that "it is normal and okay to feel ambivalent at times" about one's role is indeed reassuring.
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Publisher
Tarcher
Publication date
2005
Language
English
ISBN 10 
1585423920
ISBN 13 
9781585423927
Binding
Hardcover
Edition number
1
Number of pages
288
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    61 ratings by Goodreads

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