Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself from Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What You Really Want - Softcover

Hassler, Christine

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1608683842 ISBN 13: 9781608683840

Publisher: New World Library, 2016

Synopsis

We all face setbacks we cannot control, yet we often forget that we have a choice about how to handle those setbacks. The Expectation Hangovers we feel in the wake of disappointment, failure, or loss can become doorways to tremendous opportunities and life-changing gifts.

Managing your expectations is not about lowering your standards. Master coach Christine Hassler explains how to pursue the right goals for the right reasons and also what to do when things don’t work out as expected. By the time you finish this book, you’ll understand why setbacks happen and have a clear course of action to pursue your dreams.

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About the Author

Christine Hassler is a speaker, life coach, spiritual counselor, podcast host, and the bestselling author of 20 Something Manifesto and 20 Something, 20 Everything. She is known for inspiring radical self-reflection while offering practical direction. Christine lives in Los Angeles and travels the world leading transformational retreats.

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Expectation Hangover

Free Yourself from Your Past, Change Your Present & Get What You Really Want

By Christine Hassler

New World Library

Copyright © 2014 Christine Hassler
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-60868-384-0

Contents

Foreword by Lissa Rankin, MD, 
Introduction, 
PART ONE: EXPECTATIONS, 
Chapter One: My Expectation Hangovers, 
Chapter Two: The Whats and Whys of Expectation Hangovers, 
Chapter Three: What Does Not Work, 
Chapter Four: Awareness and Acceptance, 
PART TWO: TREATMENT PLAN, 
Chapter Five: A Holistic Prescription for Treating Your Expectation Hangover, 
Chapter Six: The Emotional Level, 
Chapter Seven: The Mental Level, 
Chapter Eight: The Behavioral Level, 
Chapter Nine: The Spiritual Level, 
PART THREE: PREVENTION, 
Chapter Ten: Managing Your Expectations, 
Chapter Eleven: Quick Fixes That Work, 
Conclusion, 
Acknowledgments, 
Notes, 
Index, 
About the Author, 

CHAPTER 1

MY EXPECTATION HANGOVERS

"I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing." — Agatha Christie

I am no stranger to Expectation Hangovers.

Before the ink was dry on my college diploma, I moved to Los Angeles to pursue my dream of working in the entertainment industry. I was driven by a tremendous expectation of myself to be wildly successful to compensate for the insecurity I had been plagued with since childhood. By the ripe old age of twenty-five, I had an office with a view, an assistant who answered my phone, an expense account, a real salary, power lunches, television industry screenings, clients, and business cards. I dated and attended industry events. I even spent New Year's Eve with George Clooney — now there is a midnight kiss I will never forget! From the outside, it looked like I "had it all." There was just one problem: I was absolutely miserable.

Where were the happiness and worthiness I thought all my goals would deliver? Every day, I tried to talk myself into liking my job. I felt obligated to stay because I had worked so hard to get there, but I dreaded each day. I started getting migraines, rode up the elevator to work with knots in my stomach, and was irritable all the time. To save myself from a total meltdown, and others from the bitch I all of a sudden was becoming, I quit.

Leaving my prestigious career changed my external circumstances, but I still found myself miserable. Burned out and craving a total change of direction, I became a personal trainer — I thought it might be my "passion." Wrong again. I then had nine different jobs in two years, constantly searching for something that would make me feel better about myself. During that time, I went into thousands of dollars of debt; got diagnosed with an "unknown autoimmune disorder"; stopped speaking to my mother after I made a decision that did not fit her expectations of me; and got dumped by my fiancé six months before our wedding. So there I was, now at twenty-seven: heartbroken, in debt, sick, at odds with my family, and lacking direction in my career. Nothing had turned out the way I expected, despite my meticulous planning and overachieving. Major Expectation Hangover.

One pivotal night I found myself, for the first time ever, contemplating how I could end my life. That was a terrifying thought, but I felt so incredibly hopeless and lost I did not know what to do.

And then something happened.

Suddenly and seemin

Edition details

• Publisher: New World Library
• Publication date: 2016
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1608683842
• ISBN 13: 9781608683840
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 248