Dr. Janet Lapp Why Won't They Listen To Me

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Why Won't They Listen To Me

 
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This book was the one you wished you had read before becoming a parent, or before accepting that leadership position at work. But here you are. Something isn t working as well as you thought it was going to, or that you wished it would. You wonder how you can make it work. You certainly meant well. You did your best. Every parent does. In fact, all humans operate at their highest available level. If they could have done better, they would have done better. What might have happened? The perceived demands of a busy and fragmented society have led to the phenomenon of Quick-Fix parents, who have inadvertently resorted to quick-fixes for their children, instead of taking the time to set appropriate boundaries and model appropriate skills. It is time for a re-examination of the family fabric, a reminder of basic skills and attitudes toward raising children who can connect to family and society, and who are able to respect the boundaries set for them. Failure to develop these leadership skills inevitably leads to teens and young adults who fail to be able to connect meaningfully and to develop an awareness of societal boundaries. This book is important to read now. Too many kind and loving families have ended up with children who are disrespectful to family guidelines and hurtful to parents, siblings and later, society. They believe their kids got out of control by accident. Although parents believe that this outcome is accidental, they need to know that it is predictable and preventable. The principles contained therein are as appropriate to leadership at work as they are at home. The same scenarios described in the book are en force in organizations across America, wherever two or more people are interacting. The dynamics are the same, the actors differ. This book will walk you through the basics of getting back in control, of re-establishing the natural pack order. In Part I, you ll start right off learning how to get other people to listen to you, and how to get others to change. You ll find out how to begin the change process, and how to establish new ground rules. You will see if your style is one of the nine styles of parenting that might have helped create the problem. You may recognize some of your child s behaviors from the descriptions and the real-life examples. Part II will take you through the five basic leadership skills you ll need to help solve the problem. Part III will dig deeper into underlying issues, so you might understand how this all came about. There are special sections on specific problems such as truancy, lying, tantrums, teasing and bullying. This book is hopeful, and encouraging, understanding and forgiving. Over the years, I have seen so many families restored using the principles in this book. It is a testimony to the power of the human spirit, that no matter how difficult things have become, they can always improve.

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Dr. Janet Lapp is a change expert and licensed Psychologist who helps people and companies to adapt to change in a positive and productive way. A former University professor, researcher, clinician, and registered nurse, she was born and raised in Canada, and her PhD with Honours is from McGill University in Montreal. For over 25 years, she has inspired and encouraged over 1,500 government agencies and Fortune 100 clients in English, French and Spanish, from Russia to Argentina to Hong Kong, to adopt a mindset toward change and adapt to whatever forces and challenges face them. She has been admitted into the CPAE Speakers Hall of Fame ... the Oscar of Professional Speaking, and one year was rated by Toastmasters as one of the top three speakers worldwide. She is the creator and host of the CBS-series Keep Well , has been nominated for local Emmy Awards, and has appeared regularly on INN, ABC, CNN, and NBC affiliates. She is author of five books: Dancing with Tigers, Plant your Feet Firmly in Mid-Air (a change management book used by both Ritz-Carlton and IBM sales for their change efforts), Positive Spin, Why Won t They Listen to Me? (leadership), and Lead at the Edge of Change (adapting to fast change). For more information: Info@Lapp.com

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Dr. Lapp is one of the foremost public speakers in America today. She uses humor and great storytelling to empower the reader to take the majestic choices necessary to tranform his or her life. This is an easy read that warms the heart. --Customer Review

The part of why people change was an eye-opener for me. People will change to what you want them to do when at least two of these three conditions are met: The fear of changing is less than the pain of staying the same.They see that the reward of doing it your way is greater than the reward of doing it their way. They have emotionally attached to you. You have earned their trust. It hit me that I was just bossing my kids around and forgetting the basics of how and why people want to do things. These truths aren t new probably but they are said so simply that it really gets through. Same as looking at resistance as interesting and not getting mad at it. Resistance lets us learn about ourselves. This was a really helpful book. --Customer Review

The part of why people change was an eye-opener for me. People will change to what you want them to do when at least two of these three conditions are met: The fear of changing is less than the pain of staying the same.They see that the reward of doing it your way is greater than the reward of doing it their way. They have emotionally attached to you. You have earned their trust. It hit me that I was just bossing my kids around and forgetting the basics of how and why people want to do things. These truths aren t new probably but they are said so simply that it really gets through. Same as looking at resistance as interesting and not getting mad at it. Resistance lets us learn about ourselves. This was a really helpful book. --Customer Review

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