When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life - Hardcover

Secunda, Victoria

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0385298838 ISBN 13: 9780385298834

Publisher: Delacorte Press, 1990

Synopsis

Identifies five types of difficult mothers and the reactions they produce in their children, and offers advice on improving the mother-child relationship

About this title

About the Author:

Victoria Secunda is the author of When You and Your Mother Can’t Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man In Your Life, and Losing Your Parents, Finding Your Self: The Defining Turning Point of Adult Life. Additionally, her writings have also appeared in Harper’s Bazaar, Glamour, and Women’s Day. She lives in Connecticut.

From Publishers Weekly:

In her well-researched study freelance journalist Secunda draws on 100 interviews with grown daughters in which they describe early painful relationships with their mothers, protracted in their adult emotional lives and memories. To help repair the damage done to the psyches of daughters whose mothers are characterized as, for instance, the Avenger, the Doormat, the Smotherer, the author suggests a measure of separation from the mother--"divorce" if need be--designed to rid the daughter of guilt, restore her self-esteem and prepare her for her own motherhood. Secunda advises daughters to forgive their fallible mothers, "who did the best they could," and attempt a balance based on generosity and self-preservation. Nevertheless, this study tends to treat daughters as hapless victims, underestimating the pressures imposed on mothers of yesterday and today. Major ad/promo; first serial to Redbook; BOMC featured alternate; author tour.
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About this edition

• Publisher: Delacorte Press
• Publication date: 1990
• ISBN 10: 0385298838
• ISBN 13: 9780385298834
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 406