Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0736921354 ISBN 13: 9780736921350

Publisher: Harvest House Publishers, 2008

This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones.

Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage―and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text.

A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.―a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.

• S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money
• A = Assemble a Support Group
• N = Nip Excuses in the Bud
• I = Implement Rules/Boundaries
• T = Trust Your Instincts
• Y = Yield Everything to God

Foreword by Carol Kent (When I Lay My Isaac Down)

About the Author:

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

www.settingboundariesbooks.com

Awards

Winner of the Selah Award for Best Book of the Year for Setting Boundaries with Food in 2013

Review:

"If you've experienced the sweet relief of sudden shade after foolishly attempting to cross scorching hot pavement barefoot, expect the same sweet emotional comfort from Bottke's book."
—Marion Bond West, author of Praying for My Life

"Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is packed full of practical, useable, workable ideas and is a welcome tool for parents of grown children, and parents in pain. I know many families will be helped, and many parents will feel like their sanity and their life has been given back to them."
—Pam Farrel, bestselling author of Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti and The 10 Best Decisions Every Parent Can Make

"Allison Bottke's transparent writing jumped off the pages and into my heart. I didn't feel looked down on or preached to while reading. Instead, I experienced a bond with a woman who has the guts to show us, 'This is where I've been. This is how crazy it got. We don't have to live this way.' She puts those beautiful life-changing Twelve Steps back inside me where they belong."
—Julie Garmon, freelance writer

"From the opening pages of this book, readers know Allison Bottke understands firsthand the struggle which parents have setting boundaries with their adult children. This book combines the personal stories from Allison with practical hands-on help to escape the insanity and move toward hope and healing. She mixes her own heart-stirring experiences with sage advice from many others. This book is easy to read and yet for some will involve tears. It is a much needed resource that hopefully counselors and many others will read, then recommend to others."
—W. Terry Whalin, author of more than 60 books