Some Parts are NOT for Sharing - Softcover

Federico, Julie K

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1606966030 ISBN 13: 9781606966037

Publisher: Children's Services Author Julie Federico, 2009

Synopsis

Travel with a pair of friendly fish as they learn about what parts of our bodies we share with others. Children will learn what the boundaries of appropriate touching are in a very non-threatening way. Former School Counselor Julie Federico begins the imperative conversation of personal boundaries in Some Parts are not for Sharing. Children will enjoy learning about their bodies as they get some important information from a pair of fish. Parents will marvel at the simple straightforward language and use of sea creatures that create this message all children must hear. This book is also available in Spanish.

About this title

From the Author:

I wrote this book after hearing children recount child abuse stories that happened to them when they were young.  I was a middle school counselor for years my students were 11-14 years old.  The abuse they were recounting happened usually from 2-8 years old.  I wrote Some Parts are NOT for Sharing on the level of an infant to an 8-year-old.  This book will frighten no one.  People write awful reviews and say, "This book does not say anything!"  This is the point; this book is the tip of the iceberg it is not the entire iceberg.  If it were it would not be for small children.  The point of this book is to educate your children about child abuse before some other "loving family member" does.  Most children are not harmed by strangers.  In all of my years of counseling not one child reported that they were harmed by a stranger.  Mom's boyfriend was the biggest perpetrator followed closely by stepfather.  Knowledge is power please, please, protect your children.  To read the book before you buy it visit juliefederico.comYour body is a no trespassing zone. Your body is sacred, your body is your own. Many parts of our bodies we share with others. It feels good to share these parts of our bodies. Hugs are wonderful, holding hands can make your day more special. We share all of the parts of our bodies except the private areas. The private areas are any area a swimsuit covers. This book will teach you what to do if some touches you in the no trespassing zone or the private areas. (page break)
Some adults, teenagers, and children do not use good judgement and unfortunately touch other children in these places. They may continue to touch you in the no trespassing zone even after you have told them to stop. It does not feel right when someone touches you in these areas. Trust this feeling, it is not right. It is not okay. It is not your fault that they are deciding to use bad judgement. It is not your fault that they are deciding to use bad judgement.

The person touching you may make you feel like it is your fault and they will definitely tell you, "Not to tell anyone, this is our secret." This is a lie, this is a huge lie. No trespassing zone touching should always be reported. If you do not report it, it will not stop. Reporting is not calling the local news. Reporting it is telling a trusted adult. A trusted adult can be; a parent, grandparent, neighbor, teacher, school bus driver, doctor, friend, step-sister or anyone that you trust. The most important thing to remember when telling the story is to repeat the story to someone else if the person you tell does not get help. If they get help they will be calling law enforcement or human services.
If the person you tell, tells you not to tell anyone, tries to discount your story by saying something like, "He would never do that, our family has known him since I was in high school." Or they do not get help for you, tell someone else, tell someone else. Keep telling the story until you find someone who will listen to you.

This story is the most important story you will ever tell. If you do not tell your life will continue to spin around in a crazy way that will leave you feeling hopelessly lost and bad. Feeling bad about yourself and feeling bad for what happened.

This is NOT your fault. It never becomes your fault, but it defiantly becomes your business when you choose to tell no one. It can change your life in many dark ways if you choose not to tell anyone. In the back of this book are phone numbers you can call if you can not find a trusted adult to tell the story to.

Telling the story is the most important thing you can do to get help. Telling the story can save your life and save you from many, many dark days.

I do not know why this happened to you or why the person making poor judgement choose to violate you. This is NOT your fault, it is their fault. Since it is their fault they may try to talk you out of telling anyone. They may buy you gifts to keep you from telling. They may threaten to harm you or your family if you tell. This is wrong. This is NOT your fault. Please get to higher ground and seek safety.

Tell today and get away. You deserve a better life. A better life is just a phone call or conversation away. Your body is your own, parts of your body are private and not for sharing. If someone harms you once this is unexpected. But if they did it once, expect them to do it again at some point. If you remain silent and keep secrets that are never meant to be kept this is not good for you. The person will know that they can control you and will keep violating you if you do not tell. Tell today and get away. This situation is NOT your fault. You deserve a better life, a safer life. A better life awaits......find someone that will get your help.

Julie Federico
juliefederico.com
Phone Numbers to report Child Abuse: Call 911
Childhelp: Prevention and Treatment of Child Abuse   childhelp.org

National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) Staffed 24 hours a day.

State toll-free numbers for specific agencies designated to receive and investigate reports of suspected child.
childwelfare.gov/pubs/reslist/rl_dsp.cfm?rs_id=5&rate_chno=W-00082
Child Abuse Reporting Numbers by State

Alabama
Local (toll): (334) 242-9500
Website: dhr.state.al.us/page.asp?pageid=304

Alaska
Toll-Free: (800) 478-4444
Website: hss.state.ak.us/ocs/default.htm
Arizona
Toll-Free: (888) SOS-CHILD (888-767-2445) website: de.state.az.us/dcyf/cmdps/cps/default.asp

Arkansas
Toll-Free: (800) 482-5964
Website: state.ar.us/dhs/chilnfam/child_protective_services.htm

California
Website: dss.cahwnet.gov/cdssweb/ChildProte_186.htm
Click on the website above for information on reporting or call Childhelp® (800-422-4453) for assistance.
Colorado
Local (toll): (303) 866-5932
Website: cdhs.state.co.us/cyf/Child_Welfare/cw_home.htm

Connecticut
TDD: (800) 624-5518
Toll-Free: (800) 842-2288
Website: state.ct.us/dcf/HOTLINE.htm
Delaware
Toll-Free: (800) 292-9582
Website: state.de.us/kids/
District of Columbia
Local (toll): (202) 671-SAFE (202-671-7233)
Website: cfsa.dc.gov/cfsa/cwp/view.asp?a=3&q=520663&cfsaNav=|31319|
Florida
Toll-Free: (800) 96-ABUSE (800-962-2873)
Website: dcf.state.fl.us/abuse/
Georgia
Website: dfcs.dhr.georgia.gov/portal/site
Click on the website above for information on reporting or call Childhelp® (800-422-4453) for assistance.
Hawaii
Local (toll): (808) 832-5300
Website: hawaii.gov/dhs/protection/social_services/child_welfare/
Idaho
Toll-Free: (800) 926-2588
Website: healthandwelfare.idaho.gov/site/3333/default.aspx
Illinois
Toll-Free: (800) 252-2873
Local (toll): (217) 524-2606
Website: state.il.us/dcfs/child/index.shtml
Indiana
Toll-Free: (800) 800-5556
Website: in.gov/dcs/protection/dfcchi.html
Iowa
Toll-Free: (800) 362-2178
Website: dhs.state.ia.us/dhs2005/dhs_homepage/children_family/abuse_reporting/child_abuse.html
Kansas
Toll-Free: (800) 922-5330
Website: srskansas.org/services/child_protective_services.htm
Kentucky
Toll-Free: (800) 752-6200
Website: chfs.ky.gov/dcbs/dpp/Child_Safety.htm
Louisiana
Website: dss.state.la.us/departments/ocs/FAQ_-_Child_Protection_Investi.html
Click on the website above for information on reporting or call Childhelp® (800-422-4453) for assistance.

From the Back Cover:

"What a wonderful and important                                              
book to begin to teach children about
body safety."
Kathryn Wells, MD
Child Abuse Pediatrician Denver Health
"Thank you for speaking the truth. We
need your voice and wisdom. ..."
Marilyn Van Derbur
author of Miss America By Day
MissAmericaByDay.com

About this edition

• Publisher: Children's Services Author Julie Federico
• Publication date: 2009
• ISBN 10: 1606966030
• ISBN 13: 9781606966037
• Binding: Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 28
• Illustrator: Russell Eddie