Love Smart: Find the One You Want- -Fix the One You Got

McGraw, Dr. Phil

ISBN 10: 0743551893 ISBN 13: 9780743551892

Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio, 2005

Synopsis

Dating as you know it is simply one of the most inefficient, nonproductive, haphazard and hit-and-miss ways to try and achieve one of the most important objectives of your life. It's time to do something different.

-- Dr. Phil

If you are sleeping single in a double bed, or walking down the street thinking, How do I meet that guy?; if you're on your twentieth date and he's no more committed than when you first exchanged cell phone numbers; if everyone you know is getting married for the second time and you can't even get a first date; if you love the one you're with but the relationship needs some spark...then this audiobook is for you.

In Love Smart, Dr. Phil tells people who are dissatisfied with their love lives to stop making excuses and start taking action! Dr. Phil knows that you deserve a committed relationship, and it is within your control to have the one you want. First you need to determine what you want in a partner, plot your course and get out there and create velocity in your pursuit of a loving connection. Love Smart explores new possibilities, new places to meet people and activities to get involved in where you'll find interesting people. Or if you are simply looking to rekindle the relationship you are already in, Dr. Phil will tell you how to turn up the flame.

Dr. Phil says there are no exceptions: There is somebody for everybody, and everybody deserves a relationship filled with love and excitement. Love Smart offers you the plan to find not just any relationship, but the committed, loving, joy-filled relationship you've been waiting for.

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Review:

13-digit ISBN is 9780743272094 Targeted primarily at single women looking for a clear formula that leads in the direction of marriage, Love Smart also aims to refresh current marriages that feel a bit lacking. Whether readers find it helpful will depend partially on their sense of humor—Dr. Phil titles one chapter "Bag 'em, Tag 'em and Take 'em Home", a pretty fair example of the rest of the jokes and the general attitude of the book's advice. Marriage is what it's about, and the dating game has specific rules that, once learned, any "player" can use to succeed. While not quite as strict as the infamous The Rules, this is a manual that treats marriage as a prize, winnable only by those who regard old-fashioned rules as the only possible set.

An early exercise suggests that women make detailed lists of the qualities they're looking for in a mate; five broad categories cover everything from social skills to physical appearance. Once a clear picture is formed of the ideal partner, it all boils down to marketing. Dr. Phil discusses conversation skills such as developing "icebreaker" questions and even digs up some of the old-school techniques that suggest checking headlines just to offer up-to-date topics, and making sure to ask questions about your date, rather than revealing much about yourself. Suggestions for internet dating are included in a separate chapter, and later chapters go into specific questions that cover personal background and relationship history in great detail.

The combination of new school humor with old-fashioned advice will appeal to women who are looking for both a plan for partnership and goofy jokes to lighten the pressure. Dr. Phil offers both in spades. Jill Lightner

About the Author:

Dr. Phil Mcgraw is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Ultimate Weight Solution, Self Matters, Life Strategies, and Relationship Rescue. He is the host of the nationally syndicated, daily one-hour series Dr. Phil. One of the world's foremost experts in the field of human functioning, Dr. McGraw is the cofounder of Courtroom Sciences, Inc., the world's leading litigation consulting firm. Dr. McGraw currently lives in Los Angeles, California, with his wife and two sons.

About this edition

• Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio
• Publication date: 2005
• ISBN 10: 0743551893
• ISBN 13: 9780743551892
• Binding: Audio CD