Don't Ask for the Dead Man's Golf Clubs: What to Do and Say (And What Not to) When a Friend Loses a Loved One - Softcover

Kelly, Lynn

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0761121862 ISBN 13: 9780761121862

Publisher: Workman Publishing Company, 2000

Synopsis

Coping with death is never easy. It comes at all the wrong times, to all the wrong people. Even the deaths of those who say they are ready to go are very hard on family and loved ones. As friends of the bereaved, what can you do and say to bring some measure of comfort?

Drawing on her own experience of being widowed at a young age, and combining it with the words of survivors who have lost mothers and children, husbands, grandparents and siblings, Lynn Kelly offers a simple but profound little book of advice. Don't Ask for the Dead Man's Gold Clubs--so called because in fact people will ask--is an invaluable guide to troubling times. There are four sections: What to Do Now, What to Do Over Time, What Not to Do, and the particularly difficult situations of Suicide, Stillbirth, and Miscarriage. The advice is practical, heartfelt, direct, insightful. Let your friend know how you feel. Express sympathy to all the family members. Talk about the dead person and not be afraid to say his or her name. Write a fond memory or send a picture. Bring food. Listen. Record a new phone message. Remember holidays. Keep giving hugs. And never: Criticize arrangements. Assume that it's a blessing. Make parallels with animals. Say I know how you feel. Do something without asking. And don't ever, ever ask for the dead man's golf clubs.

t is the human experience shared, and how to be a true friend at the time of greatest need.

About this title

From the Back Cover

IAn extraordinarily helpful little bookO (Jane Brody, The New York Times)

ItIs hard to know how to help a friend who is grieving. Drawing on experience and wisdom from people who have lost husbands, wives, parents, children, and siblings, this book offers hundreds of helpful, succinct, and heartfelt suggestions on how to provide comfort, now and over time. It explains what to say and do and what not to say and do. Plus what to write, how to deal with the holidays, the importance of hugs O and why never, ever to ask for the dead manIs golf clubs.

About the Author

Lynn Kelly is the founder of Kelly Communications, a public relations/advertising agency. She has three grown children and lives outside of Denver, Colorado.

Edition details

• Publisher: Workman Publishing Company
• Publication date: 2000
• ISBN 10: 0761121862
• ISBN 13: 9780761121862
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 128