When Kids Call the Shots: How to Seize Control from Your Darling Bully -- and Enjoy Being a Parent Again - Softcover

Grover, Sean

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0814436005 ISBN 13: 9780814436004

Publisher: AMACOM, 2015

Synopsis

Are your kids pummeling you with demands and bossing you around with impunity? Have your once-precious preschoolers become rebellious, entitled, and disrespectful to authority? How did we get here? What went wrong? While there are plenty of so-called experts who might try to validate your convictions that you have done all you can to “fix” your “difficult” children, the hard truth is, they’re not doing you any favors by placing the responsibility solely on your children.Parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors. To put it another way, if you want to fix your rebellious and disrespectful child, you need to start by fixing yourself. In When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume their leadership roles once again. Parents will discover:· Three common bullying styles used by kids· Parenting styles that contribute to power balances· Critical testing periods in a child’s development· Coping mechanisms that backfire· Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario· And much more!The solution to any problem begins with learning to control what you can control. In parenting, you’ve already learned how impossible it is to control your kids. So begin by controlling you!

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Book Description

Rebellious, entitled, disrespectful, many kids pummel their parents with demands, and boss them around with impunity. Experts might label them "difficult" and advise how to "fix" them. But parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors. Fixing the child requires fixing yourself.

In When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume leadership roles. With a liberating message and perceptive advice, the book explores:

Three common bullying styles (defiant, manipulative, anxious) used by kids · Parenting styles (guilt-prone, anxiety-fueled, fix-everything) that contribute to power imbalances · Critical testing periods in a child's development · Coping mechanisms that backfire · Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario · And more

Caving in to tantrums and threats breeds more of the same. Learn to stop the cycle of abusive behavior and make parenting a pleasure again.

From the Back Cover

If you’ve picked up this book, you’re probably at your tipping point. Behavior that used to seem excusable—he’s just spirited; she’s a little lawyer—has become a huge source of stress in your life.

But parenting doesn’t have to be this hard. When Kids Call the Shots opens your eyes to the root cause of your child's bossy behavior, with a liberating message and perceptive advice that puts your family on a healthier, happier path. With this sanity-saving book, you’ll:

· Recognize the three most common bullying styles that our kids use against us—anxious, defiant, and manipulative—and learn strategies to restore your leadership

· Understand how your own insecurities and personal history have shaped your parenting choices

· Discover the three parenting styles—guilt-prone, anxiety-fueled, and fix-everything—that are most likely to provoke disruptive behavior in children

· See how troubling behaviors are often triggered by conflicts between your child’s personality and your parenting style

· Be alert to the critical “testing” periods in children’s development that fuel conflicts with their parents

· See how increasing self-care and eliminating burnout can strengthen your parental leadership role

· Know exactly what to do when your child acts out

· Reclaim your parent power, and bring back the joys of family life

“Inspired and practical thinking by one of the finest therapists in the field.” —Julie Y. Low, MD, Board-Certified Child & Adolescent NYU Faculty

“Masterful lessons in the delicate art of parenting.” —Marianne Pearl, author of A Mighty Heart and In Search of Hope

“Sage advice that parents will be able to use immediately.” —Jean Kunhardt, MA, LMHC, Director, Soho Parenting

Sean Grover, LCSW, is a psychotherapist with 20 years’ experience working with adults and children, and he maintains one of the largest private group therapy practices in the United States. He has designed award-winning youth programs and has been quoted in Newsweek, New York Magazine, NPR, and elsewhere about parent-child relationships. For information on parenting workshops, articles, and videos, or to contact Sean, visit www.seangrover.com.

Edition details

• Publisher: AMACOM
• Publication date: 2015
• ISBN 10: 0814436005
• ISBN 13: 9780814436004
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 224