100 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Grieving: For Men Living With Loss

Some grief books are meant to be read quickly.
This one is meant to be kept.

100 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Grieving is a quiet, honest paperback written from a male perspective—by a man who stayed, cared, and learned the hard truths of loss without a script.

It isn’t a guide.
It isn’t a recovery plan.
And it doesn’t ask you to move on.

Instead, this book offers 100 short reflections—each one naming something many men discover alone after loss. The exhaustion. The silence. The anger, guilt, relief, and confusion. The pressure to be strong when you’re breaking quietly. The fear that living again might mean letting someone go.

Each entry stands on its own. You can open this book anywhere. Read one page. Close it again. Come back when you need to. It was written for moments when concentration is limited and grief feels heavy in the body.

This paperback edition is for readers who want something tangible—something to underline, return to, or keep close during long nights and quiet mornings.

This book is especially for:

• Men who have lost a partner, spouse, or loved one

• Caregivers navigating life after staying until the end

• Readers who don’t connect with therapy language or platitudes

• Anyone whose grief has been mistaken for strength

This is grief as it is lived, not explained.

All profits from this book are donated to WOLO, in honour of Georgie, and to support others living with loss long after the funeral is over.

If you have loved deeply, lost profoundly, and are still here—this book was written for you.

Wade Armitaneu writes about grief, caregiving, and life after loss.
After spending years caring for his wife through terminal illness, Wade began writing to give language to experiences many people live through but rarely see reflected honestly: anticipatory grief, relief, guilt, anger, survival, and the complicated reality of continuing to live.
His work is known for its clarity, restraint, and refusal to soften grief into something more comfortable for others. Rather than offering advice or timelines, Wade's books focus on recognition — the relief of seeing one's inner experience named without judgement.
He is the author of What No One Told Me About Watching Them Die, Grief and Relief, Watching Them Die: The Journal Edition, Letters to the One I Lost, and 100 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Grieving.