Resurrecting Sex: Resolving Sexual Problems and Rejuvenating Your Relationship - Hardcover

Schnarch, David; Maddock, James

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 006019359X ISBN 13: 9780060193591

Publisher: HarperCollins, 2002

Synopsis

In this remarkable sexual health and wellness book, Dr. David Schnarch, world-renowned sex and marital therapist and author of Passionate Marriage, offers a groundbreaking approach to resolving sexual difficulties and the relationship problems they cause. By showing couples how they can turn their worst sex and relationship disasters into personal growth and spiritual connection, Dr. Schnarch offers couples the best sex of their lives.

In addition to taking an unflinchingly honest, realistic, and erotic approach to sex, Dr. Schnarch reveals the complicated emotional interactions hidden within couples' most private moments. Resurrecting Sex speaks of compassion, partnership, generosity, and integrity in adult sexual relationships, offering hope to millions of people who are struggling with sexual difficulties.

Uplifting, provocative, and heartfelt, the book is organized into four sections:

• A crash course in sex
• Explanation of how sexual relationships really work
• Medical options and bionic solutions
• Vignettes of couples changing their sexual relationships

Resurrecting Sex addresses all major sexual issues, including male erection problems such as rapid orgasm and delayed orgasm; women's problems with arousal and lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, and low desire; full coverage of Viagra (for both men and women); and other sex-enhancing drugs and medical options. Rather than dwelling on sexual techniques, this sympathetic book shows how to cure the rejection, hostility, and emotional alienation that often accompany sexual problems. Its unique method helps couples develop the love, affection, and commitment that prevent divorce and strengthen families.

About this title

About the Author

David Schnarch, Ph.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist and director of the Marriage and Family Health Center in Evergreen, Colorado. He is founder of the Sexual Crucible Approach(r) to integrated sexual and marital therapy, and the Passionate Marriage Approach(r) for couples. Dr. Schnarch's textbook Constructing the Sexual Crucible is used as a primary text in graduate training programs across the country. He was the first recipient of the Professional Standards of Excellence Award from the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT} and chair of professional education for eight years. Dr. Schnarch currently serves on the editorial board of AAMFT's Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy. He lives in Evergreen, Co1orado.

From the Back Cover

In this remarkable new book, Dr. David Schnarch, world-renowned sex and marital therapist and author of Passionate Marriage, offers a groundbreaking approach to resolving sexual difficulties and the relationship problems they cause. By showing couples how they can turn their worst sex and relationship disasters into personal growth and spiritual connection, Dr. Schnarch offers couples the best sex of their lives.

In addition to taking an unflinchingly honest, realistic, and erotic approach to sex, Dr. Schnarch reveals the complicated emotional interactions hidden within couples' most private moments. Resurrecting Sex speaks of compassion, partnership, generosity, and integrity in adult sexual relationships, offering hope to millions of people -- golden-anniversary marriages, newly formed couples, and singles alike -- who are struggling with sexual difficulties.

Uplifting, provocative, and heartfelt, the book is organized into four sections:

• A crash course in sex
• Explanation of how sexual relationships really work
• Medical options and bionic solutions
• Vignettes of couples changing their sexual relationships

Resurrecting Sex addresses all major sexual issues, including male erection problems such as rapid orgasm and delayed orgasm; women's problems with arousal and lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, and low desire; full coverage of Viagra (for both men and women); and other sex-enhancing drugs and medical options. Rather than dwelling on sexual techniques, this sympathetic book shows how to cure the rejection, hostility, and emotional alienation that often accompany sexual problems. Its unique method helps couples develop the love, affection, and commitment that prevent divorce and strengthen families.

Generous of spirit, enlightened, and insightful, Resurrecting Sex is destined to make the world a better place to fall in love.

Reviews

Whether the difficulties arise out of middle-aged boredom, serious illness or emotional troubles, Schnarch (Passionate Marriage), director of the Marriage & Family Health Center in Evergreen, Colo., offers a comprehensive guide for couples with intimacy problems. The book includes easily digested chapters on the basics of sex, how sexual relationships work, the use of drugs and surgery, psychological and emotional issues and orgasm. In a straightforward and comforting tone, Schnarch emphasizes the emotional aspect of sexual problems (even when there is an underlying physiological cause) and guides couples through the often difficult changes they have to make in their relationship in and out of bed. Using examples from among his own clients, he explores the way anxiety and tension in other aspects of a marriage can carry over into sexual relationships and gives advice about how couples can better approach each other. While much of his counsel isn't unique, Schnarch's positive, candid approach is appealing, and his tone is authoritative without being threatening. In fact, Schnarch says, "In the course of my life I've had every sexual dysfunction a man can have... I know about embarrassment, self-rejection, blaming myself or my partner, and withdrawing when I 'failed.' " There are no quick fixes or promises of overnight transformation, but those who want to make substantive changes in their relationship should first reach for this book.
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This self-help guide to sexual dysfunction offers fascinating and complex insights into how relationships maintain themselves and change while also covering the usual fixes like Viagra and hormones. Schnarch (Passionate Marriage), a psychologist and sexual/marital therapist, focuses here on an oft-overlooked issue: that anxieties cannot be avoided and hence the only choice is between productive anxieties (dealing honestly with one's feelings) and useless ones (seeking a partner's approval too much). His approach teaches the effective use of anxiety in relationships and sexual change, plus "holding onto yourself" being honest about yourself and your values, confronting yourself, and doing what you think is right when a relationship is troubled. He describes how sex does and doesn't work, how relationships work, how mechanico-pharmacological helpers work, and how to combine these helpers to address particular dysfunctions, including the effects of illness. Throughout, Schnarch stresses the normality of sexual and relationship problems, noting briefly his own past experiences as a patient. He does not promise instant ecstasies and accepts that some couples may not even find sex important. This realistic and multifaceted approach belongs in all public libraries. Martha Cornog, Philadelphia
Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Edition details

• Publisher: HarperCollins
• Publication date: 2002
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 006019359X
• ISBN 13: 9780060193591
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 336