The One Thing Holding You Back: Unleashing the Power of Emotional Connection - Hardcover

Cushnir, Raphael

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0060897392 ISBN 13: 9780060897390

Publisher: HarperOne, 2008

Synopsis

"By the time you finish this book, there will be nothing holding you back."—from the Introduction

Most people have a vision for their lives that they're not pursuing, half-heartedly pursuing, or pursuing with all their might yet somehow falling short. This vision can be modest or grand. It may involve breaking free of a destructive habit or finding a truly healthy relationship. It might have to do with making a real difference in the world or helping to lead a company to extraordinary success. In The One Thing Holding You Back, Raphael Cushnir, a leading voice in the world of personal and professional development, reveals that whenever people aren't living their dreams it's because they're not yet willing and able to feel specific emotions related to those dreams. Once we access and understand these emotions, our dreams can and will come true.

Cushnir asserts that mere emotional awareness, commonly referred to as emotional intelligence, is not enough. For maximum benefit we must directly and consistently connect with our emotions. In particular, we need to connect with the emotions we routinely avoid, resist, or attempt to dismiss. It's these emotions that possess the key to our greatest goals. And learning to connect with them is another rarely taught but essential skill.

The One Thing Holding You Back provides real solutions that can be implemented immediately and without external support and includes true stories of people who have put Cushnir's process to work and transformed their lives. Delivering a step-by-step program in accessible language, this landmark book will turn the obstacles in front of us into tremendous opportunities for achieving the life we always wanted.

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About the Author

Raphael Cushnir has shared his unique approach to personal growth and fulfillment with millions of readers in O magazine, beliefnet, and Spirituality and Health. He is the author of three previous books, lectures worldwide, and is a faculty member of the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, and the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies. In addition, he coaches individuals and teams at Fortune 100 companies, governmental offices, religious organizations, and leading nonprofits.

From the Back Cover

"By the time you finish this book, there will be nothing holding you back."—from the Introduction

Most people have a vision for their lives that they're not pursuing, half-heartedly pursuing, or pursuing with all their might yet somehow falling short. This vision can be modest or grand. It may involve breaking free of a destructive habit or finding a truly healthy relationship. It might have to do with making a real difference in the world or helping to lead a company to extraordinary success. In The One Thing Holding You Back, Raphael Cushnir, a leading voice in the world of personal and professional development, reveals that whenever people aren't living their dreams it's because they're not yet willing and able to feel specific emotions related to those dreams. Once we access and understand these emotions, our dreams can and will come true.

Cushnir asserts that mere emotional awareness, commonly referred to as emotional intelligence, is not enough. For maximum benefit we must directly and consistently connect with our emotions. In particular, we need to connect with the emotions we routinely avoid, resist, or attempt to dismiss. It's these emotions that possess the key to our greatest goals. And learning to connect with them is another rarely taught but essential skill.

The One Thing Holding You Back provides real solutions that can be implemented immediately and without external support and includes true stories of people who have put Cushnir's process to work and transformed their lives. Delivering a step-by-step program in accessible language, this landmark book will turn the obstacles in front of us into tremendous opportunities for achieving the life we always wanted.

Reviews

Counselor and lecturer Cushnir (Setting Your Heart on Fire; Unconditional Bliss) has developed a four-step formula for achieving success and unlocking undeveloped potential. His ideas will be familiar to readers of popular psychology. He advises first connecting to an emotion, experiencing fully the corresponding physical sensation in the body, and waiting until the sensation changes before examining and analyzing. The next steps follow a continuous loop: identify the issue, imagine the worst thing that could happen, visualize the situation, feel the associated emotions, and continue the process until able to move forward. Using examples from his clients, Cushnir applies this process to problems of addiction, compulsion, and communication in relationships and in the workplace. Useful tips are given for when it may be wise to regulate emotions or postpone expressing feelings. In a final section, Cushnir imagines the benefits if emotional connection were taught in schools and used in politics. Appendixes answer questions and summarize principles, but no bibliographical references or suggestions for further reading are given. Cushnir's genius lies in his compilation of easy-to-follow principles, highlighted core concepts, and key refinements. Recommended for popular psychology collections in public libraries.—Lucille M. Boone, San Jose P.L., CA
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Cushnir (Unconditional Bliss) introduces fascinating and iconoclastic ideas about health and healing in this book, which argues that emotions are physical. Our bodies are the only places they can ever be found. The author, a spiritual teacher, suggests treating depressions, addictions and compulsions by identifying uncomfortable physical sensations in the body as roots of suppressed emotions. His process—finding the flinch—allows people to acknowledge and connect to internal sadness, fear or anger (whenever emotions are shunned or considered inappropriate, they rule most forcefully behind the scenes), slow down and allow the feelings to arise and depart. What remains is a softer, expansive frame of mind where one can identify deeper patterns or unearth old stories without any resistance. Emotions don't need to be felt forever, or obsessively, but just long enough to have their say, contends Cushnir, who fleshes out his core concepts with a welcome abundance of profiles; case studies of using his techniques to quit everything from cigarettes to sexual addiction, and practical tips and exercises. (Jan.)
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Edition details

• Publisher: HarperOne
• Publication date: 2008
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0060897392
• ISBN 13: 9780060897390
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 240