Same Game Different Rules : How to Get Ahead Without Being a Bully Broad, Ice Queen, or "Ms. Understood" - Softcover

Hollands, Jean

Softcover

ISBN 10: 007140760X ISBN 13: 9780071407601

Publisher: McGraw-Hill, 2002

Synopsis

As featured in Elle, Bust, the Boston Globe, the New York Times and on "Today," "Good Morning America," and the Oxygen television network In this groundbreaking book, top executive coach and bestselling author Jean Hollands explains how being a "Bully Broad" is not the way to business success for women. Tough, assertive, authoritative, often intimidating, Bully Broads were once the driving forces behind some of this era's most successful companies. Unfortunately, Hollands explains, these same qualities that propelled women up the corporate ladder can ruin them in today's relationship-building, teamwork-oriented corporate culture. Drawing upon her 20 years of experience coaching thousands of executives at many top companies, Holland's Same Game, Different Rules includes 25 rules that help women pass through, or completely avoid, the Bully Broad stage without compromising their goals or sacrificing their hard-won power and success.

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You are a smart, ambitious, no-nonsense businesswoman with her eye on the prize­­a two-fisted, go-getter who always gets results. Your superiors openly praise your competence and brains, and you are beloved by your company's clients.

Now for the bad news: those same qualities that, so far, have earned you so many kudos could very well destroy all your chances of future success.

In Same Game Different Rules, top executive coach Jean Hollands addresses a dangerous obstacle that continues to thwart many a talented woman's ambition­­the "Bully Broad" factor. Tough, assertive, authoritative, often intimidating, Bully Broads have been the driving forces behind many of the most sensational success stories of the New Economy. Unfortunately, many of these exceptional women are discovering, too late, that the very qualities that propelled them up the corporate ladder can just as easily ruin them in today's relationship-building, teamwork-oriented corporate culture.

Are you a Bully Broad, or in danger of becoming one? And if so, what can you do about it?

Or are you someone at the mercy of this intimidating woman­­her colleague, her husband, her subordinate, or worse yet, her boss? Discover what you can do to understand this woman and then to confront her with easy-to-use tools.

Writing for women in every career stage, Jean Hollands offers her prescription for getting ahead without being perceived as a Bully Broad, Ice Queen, or Ms. Understood. Drawing upon her twenty years of experience coaching thousands of executives at many of the nation's top shops­­including Cisco Systems, Intel, Hewlett Packard, Wells Fargo, Sun Microsystems, and Netscape­­she identifies the four main types of Bully Broad­­the Sounding-Off Tyrant, the Sarcastic Aggressive, the Selectively Quiet, and the Silent Judge. She provides self-quizzes for determining if you or someone you know is a Bully Broad, or in danger of becoming one, and for gauging the effect that that Bully Broad has on co-workers. Ice Queens are cousins of the Silent Bully, so they are discussed at various points in the book. Hollands develops a set of indispensable rules for playing and winning the game in the new world of work, including:

• Don't burn bridges­­ever.
• You can't control everything­­perfectionism kills.
• Down girl! You don't need to confront at every turn.
• You don't own the company­­and it's not your money.
• Don't judge­­enjoy!
• Listen up until you want to throw up.

Just as importantly, Jean Hollands arms you with proven strategies and a set of powerful tools for integrating your emotions and intellect, channeling your reckless energy more productively, becoming more efficient and less stressed, and working with others to repair damaged relationships at work.

Don't let shaky "people" skills derail your career and undermine all you've worked so hard for. Read Same Game, Different Rules and learn powerful lessons on how to work with difficult people who may scare you or overwhelm you. The final payoff will be methods to achieve your goals and derive more satisfaction from your work and your life without compromising your high standards.

About the Author

Jean Hollands is founder and president of Growth & Leadership Center, a consulting firm that specializes in executive coaching. Her "Bully Broad" workshops have been featured in BusinessWeek, Business 2.0, and Red Herring.

Edition details

• Publisher: McGraw-Hill
• Publication date: 2002
• ISBN 10: 007140760X
• ISBN 13: 9780071407601
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 256