The Infertility Companion: Hope and Help for Couples Facing Infertility (Christian Medical Association) - Softcover

Sandra L. Glahn; William R. Cutrer

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0310249619 ISBN 13: 9780310249610

Publisher: Zondervan, 2004

Synopsis

Endorsed by the Christian Medical Association.A Comprehensive Christian Guide to the Challenges of Infertility• Medical • Ethical • Emotional • Marital • Spiritual • BiblicalInfertility changes everything, shattering dreams and breaking hearts. But hope is available―today more than ever. The Infertility Companion draws on the Bible and on current medical knowledge, including the latest research, to shed light on such questions as:•Can people of faith ethically use high-tech infertility treatments?•How do we make moral, biblical decisions about medical treatment, third-party reproduction, stem cell research, and embryo adoption? •Is God punishing me? •Does God even care?•Will adoption increase our chances of getting pregnant?•How can we reduce the stress of infertility on our marriage relationship?•How can we keep sex from becoming a chore?These theologically trained authors have taught at a variety of conferences on infertility, pregnancy loss, and adoption, and they have helped thousands of couples to face the future through their message of encouragement. The Infertility Companion includes discussion questions and a workbook suitable for individuals, couples, or small groups. Full of practical tips and true stories, this book will guide couples past the ethical pitfalls of assisted reproductive technologies as they travel the difficult road ahead.An all-encompassing guide for the Christian infertility patient. Where other books fall short, this “companion” aids the patient not only with the physical and emotional aspects of this journey, but also helps answer the tough spiritual and ethical questions that arise in a couple’s desire to conceive.―Julie Watson, Conceiving Concepts

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About the Authors

Sandra Glahn, ThM, is adjunct professor at Dallas Theological Seminary, her alma mater. She is the coauthor of eight books, including the CBA bestseller and Christy Award finalist, Lethal Harvest. She is also editor-in-chief of the award-winning magazine Kindred Spirit. Glahn is currently pursuing a PhD in aesthetic studies at the University of Texas at Dallas. She serves on the board of the Dallas Christian Medical/Dental Associations and the advisory board of Hannah's Prayer.

William R. Cutrer, M.D., is an OB/GYN and an ordained minister. He is the Gheens Professor of Christian Ministry and the director of the Gheens Center for Marriage and Family at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky. He serves as the medical director at A Woman's Choice Pregnancy Resource Center. He is the author of Choice Today: A Pregnancy Resource and Under the Fig Leaves, and coauthor of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage and The Infertility Companion. He has also coauthored the novels Lethal Harvest, Deadly Cure, and False Positive.

From the Back Cover

Endorsed by the Christian Medical Association.

A Comprehensive Christian Guide to the Challenges of Infertility
• Medical • Ethical • Emotional • Marital • Spiritual • Biblical

Infertility changes everything, shattering dreams and breaking hearts. But hope is available--today more than ever.

The Infertility Companion draws on the Bible and on current medical knowledge, including the latest research, to shed light on such questions as:

•Can people of faith ethically use high-tech infertility treatments?
•How do we make moral, biblical decisions about medical treatment, third-party reproduction, stem cell research, and embryo adoption?
•Is God punishing me?
•Does God even care?
•Will adoption increase our chances of getting pregnant?
•How can we reduce the stress of infertility on our marriage relationship?
•How can we keep sex from becoming a chore?

These theologically trained authors have taught at a variety of conferences on infertility, pregnancy loss, and adoption, and they have helped thousands of couples to face the future through their message of encouragement.

The Infertility Companion includes discussion questions and a workbook suitable for individuals, couples, or small groups. Full of practical tips and true stories, this book will guide couples past the ethical pitfalls of assisted reproductive technologies as they travel the difficult road ahead.

An all-encompassing guide for the Christian infertility patient. Where other books fall short, this “companion” aids the patient not only with the physical and emotional aspects of this journey, but also helps answer the tough spiritual and ethical questions that arise in a couple's desire to conceive.--Julie Watson, Conceiving Concepts

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

WHEREWE'VE BEEN Your Companions in 'the Ditch'Sandi's Journey: Knots and TanglesI am Sandra, daughter of Ann, daughter of Velma, daughter of Ella, all the way back to Eve. But the genes carried down through my ancestors will stop with me.When I was a little girl, I never dreamed that I might be unable to have children. In my childhood home in Oregon's Willamette Valley, by mid-April the plum trees had sprouted purple blossoms and the whole world seemed to bloom with new life. Foals, calves, and lambs appeared in the fields. By Mother's Day, everything had either given birth or was celebrating hope, and I assumed that I would someday join in that process.I was the fourth of five children. When I reached adolescence and started babysitting---which I loved---I became increasingly aware that many people have more children than they anticipate. I figured that, if anything, I'd fall into that group.Fast-forward to age twenty-seven. My adoration of spring turned to dread as I felt out of sync with the rest of the world. While everything around me celebrated new life, I experienced spring more as an injury--- almost as an indictment. With tear-stained cheeks, I watched birds build nests and lay eggs in our trees and thought of how children described me as 'nobody's mommy.' Mother's Day---that dreaded 'M-Day'--- came as the crowning insult.My husband, Gary, and I had been married seven years, and he was starting his last year of seminary training (master's degree) in Dallas, Texas. In addition to our jobs---he at a law firm, I as a writer at an insurance company---and his studies, we served as part-time staff at our church, ministering to college students. After working full-time to put my husband through graduate school, I dreamed of quitting my job and staying home to take care of our children. Friends and family were asking when we'd start having babies, and it was finally time to get an 'all clear' from my physician.Dr. Bill Cutrer, my medical doctor, was also a seminary student, and he had a reputation for being a godly man with technical expertise. So I made the new-patient appointment, and after our consultation, he told me everything looked great. The next six months were wonderful. There's something magical about making love with the expectation that you'll produce something as marvelous as a child. The plans and dreams arrived in full force. I mentally picked out nursery colors. For graduation we got a car---a new station wagon big enough for the family we were going to have. I told a few close friends we were trying. We saved up all we could for the day when I could quit work.Nine months passed with no success. I had expected to get pregnant the first month, but I told myself we'd been too busy. Then months turned into a year. But I wasn't too worried.Another six months passed, though less quickly, and my sister confided to me that she was going through fertility testing. Apang of concern started gnawing inside me. Mary recommended a book about infertility, and I read it. Afterward I wrote in my journal, 'The infertility fear is getting greater. There's a lot of denial on my part. I'm finally having to come to grips with the fact that there's a problem.' I cried for the first time when someone asked when we were going to start a family. Three days later I wrote, 'I'm facing that we may not have kids. It's tough. But his mercies are there, too.' A church in British Columbia interviewed Gary by phone for a pastoral position. Aweek later I wrote in my journal, 'My strong preference would be to stay in my current job until I know I can have kids. The Lord knows.'The job didn't pan out, and we both kept working. After eighteen months had passed, I returned to see Dr. Cutrer for what was supposed to be a belated annual checkup. All went fine until near the end, when he asked me a few questions.'I think I just need to relax,' I told him. 'We've been trying to get pregnant, but we've probably been too busy to hit it right.' Looking up with gentle eyes, he rolled closer. 'How long have you been trying?''About eighteen months.' I had believed the myth so many people had told me: 'Just relax and you'll get pregnant.'He spoke in a soothing tone. 'No. Perhaps it's time to stop 'just relaxing.' There are a few simple things we can try. The pace is up to you.' We could take it fast or slow, he told me, starting with the easiest, simplest test: a semenalysis on my husband.Not a chance. We're not infertile! I thanked him politely and left for another eighteen months.Threads of GriefThe time passed with increasing emotional pain. It got harder to deny the reality. So I finally returned to the doctor. By that time, I had heard a lot more about 'Dr. Bill,' as many of his patients called him:'He stayed up with us all night rather than rush a C-section.''He came in on the weekend to do our insemination.''He prayed with us during our rough delivery.'Dr. Bill had a reputation for being a kind and compassionate man of God. I wish I could say we hit it off from the start, but at the time, I resented what I perceived as 'doctor worship' on the part of many of his patients, so I determined to be distant.Gary and I decided to begin the testing process. Dr. Bill began by testing Gary, who appeared to have no problem. Then Dr. Bill ran a lot of blood tests and did some studies to make sure I was ovulating. After

Edition details

• Publisher: Zondervan
• Publication date: 2004
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0310249619
• ISBN 13: 9780310249610
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 320