Living in Process: Basic Truths for Living the Path of the Soul - Softcover

Schaef, Anne Wilson

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0345435672 ISBN 13: 9780345435675

Publisher: Wellspring/Ballantine, 1999

Synopsis

"Life is a process. We are a process. The universe is a process," notes renowned writer and lecturer Anne Wilson Schaef. In Living in Process, Schaef offers us a bold, new way of engaging in life--by shifting our obsession with "product" to a mindful participation in "process." Schaef teaches us an action philosophy that will reconnect us with our deep, long-forgotten spirituality--filling our souls and setting our spirits free.

What is process? It is the way of doing, not what is done. It is living life in three dimensions, from the inside, instead of trying to control it from the outside. It is a living, moving, evolving energy. It is deeper than thought, more concrete than concept, more fluid than facts.

Drawing on inspiring real-life stories, the experiences of professionals worldwide who have participated in her Living in Process training, and her close association with native peoples from around the globe, Schaef shares her evolutionary model for maintaining our balance in the midst of life's seismic upheavals. With her inimitable wit and charm, she guides us to a larger spirituality and a rediscovery of our personal power. For Living in Process is a moment-by-moment revealing of, and reveling in, our life as mystery--and an honoring of its challenges, truths, and joys.

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About the Author

Anne Wilson Schaef, Ph.D. has gained an international reputation for her work in feminist theory, psychology, and recovery. In the early eighties, she gave up her work as a traditional psychotherapist and began journeying around the world to meet with indigenous spiritual leaders who have shared their wisdom with her and recognized and honored her as spiritual teacher and healer. Today she devotes her time to leading Living in Process extended residential trainings and writing. The center for Living in Process is in Boulder, Montana.

From the Back Cover

"This is mindfulness at its fullest . . . I am inclined to hold Living in Process very near to my heart and soul until I have absorbed every morsel of truth."
--NAPRA ReView

"A penetrating vision . . . One of America's most sagacious and perceptive writers on the soul's challenge to find a way of being in the world."
--WENDELL CHARLES BEANE
Historian of Religions and Former Chair
University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh

"A vital and precious guide . . . A plea for honesty, love, compassion, and respect for the human inner process."
--FREDERICK FRANCK
Author of The Zen of Seeing
And To Be Human Against All Odds

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s a process. We are a process. The universe is a process," notes renowned writer and lecturer Anne Wilson Schaef. In Living in Process, Schaef offers us a bold, new way of engaging in life--by shifting our obsession with "product" to a mindful participation in "process." Schaef teaches us an action philosophy that will reconnect us with our deep, long-forgotten spirituality--filling our souls and setting our spirits free.

What is process? It is the way of doing, not what is done. It is living life in three dimensions, from the inside, instead of trying to control it from the outside. It is a living, moving, evolving energy. It is deeper than thought, more concrete than concept, more fluid than facts.

Drawing on inspiring real-life stories, the experiences of professionals worldwide who have participated in her Living in Process training, and her close association with native peoples from around the globe, Schaef shares her evolutionary model for maint

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"Living our Process in Human Relationships"
Excerpt from Living in Process by Anne Wilson Schaef

When we live our process, we are not self-centered, and we are not defined by others. Others may not always like our respecting our process, and they will like it when we are respecting theirs.

        I ran into a friend I hadn't seen for a long time and she looked marvelous. The last time I'd seen her she was depressed and angry and complaining about her husband and seemed to spend a lot fo time in this state. I remarked on how well she looked, and said that I was pleased to see her so happy.
        "Oh, I've just spent two weeks in a cottage all by myself at the beach. It was absolutely marvelous," she exclaimed.
        Knowing that she and her husband had plenty of money, and seeing the effect that being at the beach had on her, I said, "Why don't you get a cottage at the beach so you could go there whenever you want?"
        "That's out of the question," she said. "My husband hates the beach. He likes the mountains. We have a place int he mountains. I am a married woman and one has to make compromises," she growles, returning to her angry , depressed state.

        It's difficult to believe that this is what the Creator asks of us in this intimacy of relationships.
        Too often, we have structured our relationships so they cannot meet the needs of those within them. Often, typical relationships that could be meaningful and growth-producing are busy with seven simultaneous relationships.

THE SEVEN RELATIONSHIPS

1&2. Each person has a relationship with their spirituality -- their self. These two relationships are essential primary relationships and are necessary for any other relationships to occur.

3&4. these two relationships are each person's fantasy relationship woth the other. In healthy relationships these relationshps can be fun and playful and are usually chared: "I see you as my knight in shining armor." "You aree poetry in motion." These fantasy relationships can enrich relationships when both individuals know that they are clearly fantasies and not real or important. It's only when one or both partners keep these fantasy relationships secret and/or project them onto the other that the relationship is in trouble. Honesty is critical. If the relationship cannot tolerate honesty, it's in trouble.

5&6. These are the mask relationships. Mask relationships are made up of my mask relating to your mask and are the hallmarks of dysfunctional relationships. Most relationships have some aspect of masked selves to them. Relationships, and hopefully intimacy and reality, can melt the masks fairly quickly and the relationships evolve. There are some mariiages and other relationships that are built entirely on maks relationships, and one feels a progressive deadness in those relationships.

7. This is the real relationship that exists. This realationship may never be present in some lives, and it is always a blessing when it is. This realtionship is the one that mirrors, reflects, and augments our primary relationship with our living process. When experiences with another human being, this relationship is very precious. This relationship is a process, not a "thing."

Edition details

• Publisher: Wellspring/Ballantine
• Publication date: 1999
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0345435672
• ISBN 13: 9780345435675
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 384