Going the Distance: Secrets to Lifelong Love - Hardcover

Lonnie Garfield Barbach, Ph.D.; David L. Geisinger, Ph.D.

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0385261128 ISBN 13: 9780385261128

Publisher: Doubleday, 1991

Synopsis

A guide to enriching and enlivening monogamous relationships employs examples from case studies of happily monogamous couples to explain how to nurture relationships through years of change

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Reviews

Psychotherapists Barbach (For Each Other, 1982, etc.) and Geisinger team up here to write in praise of monogamy--ever-more appealing as the sexual revolution turns nasty. The authors' premises are that we all bring the scars of old psychic wounds to any new relationship, that a good relationship is a healing one, and that even people with prior negative experiences can learn the skills necessary for a healthy bond. According to Barbach and Geisinger, what counts is chemistry, companionship, trust, respect, acceptance, and shared values. No surprises there--in fact, whether any secrets to a successful relationship are revealed in this book is debatable. However, although the authors plow familiar ground in their discussions of making relationships work and of negotiating and conflict resolution, their material is well organized, clear, and occasionally humorous, and the case histories they include illustrate their points effectively. The text seems to be aimed at the fairly sophisticated adult, but it's appended by a simplistic 50-question ``Compatibility Index,'' ostensibly designed to help couples assess their prospects for an enduring relationship. Slick repackaging of standard advice. -- Copyright ©1991, Kirkus Associates, LP. All rights reserved.

Barbach ( For Yourself , LJ 3/1/75) and Geisinger ( Kicking It , LJ 5/1/79, o.p.) have written a very perceptive and practical book on helping relationships to endure. Their emphasis on monogamy distinguishes this from other titles, and since society seems to be embracing sexual conservatism, it should be important reading for the 1990s. Three sections discuss healing after failed relationships, entering and nurturing relationships through the ritual of courtship, and commitment on a lifetime basis. Numerous examples of contemporary couples help illustrate specific points, but the many names tend to be distracting. However, the authors counteract this by maintaining an authoritative and insightful tone throughout. Recommended.
- Elizabeth DeMarco, Onondaga Cty. P.L., Syracuse, N.Y.
Copyright 1991 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Edition details

• Publisher: Doubleday
• Publication date: 1991
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0385261128
• ISBN 13: 9780385261128
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 295