Intimacy and Solitude - Hardcover

Dowrick, Stephanie

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0393036278 ISBN 13: 9780393036275

Publisher: W W Norton & Co Inc, 1994

Synopsis

A psychotherapist examines the link between intimacy and solitude, explaining how to move from an enjoyment of being alone to true intimacy and discussing the need for intimacy, relations between man and women, and male and female attitudes toward intimacy. 10,000 first printing.

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About the Author

Stephanie Dowrick was co-founder and managing director of The Women's Press from 1977 to 1982. She has training in analytic psychotherapy and psychosynthesis, as well as in Gestalt therapy and marital and individual counselling.

From Kirkus Reviews

Co-founder of the Women's Press in England and practicing psychotherapist Dowrick reflects on the interdependent nature of intimacy and solitude. Drawing upon a grab bag of theories from Kohut, Winnicott, Fairbairn, Lacan, and others, as well as citing numerous case studies of heterosexual and homosexual men and women culled from her psychotherapeutic practice, Dowrick contends that the capacity to tolerate solitude is predicated on one's ability to be intimate with others. Intimacy begins at home--specifically, in the experience of being securely held as an infant and child, which determines one's ability, as an adult, to stand alone as well as to develop close ties with others. Self-knowledge and self-trust, learned in childhood, become the foundation for the healthy personality. Paradoxically, the less one needs others, the more easily one can embrace them. Dowrick includes relevant anecdotes about her own life, explaining that losing her mother at the age of eight made her fearful of establishing intimate ties with others, anxious about her ability to mother her own two children, and occasionally ineffectual in dealing with her more troublesome patients. But the author is not among those who believe that childhood is fate. Quoting the concentration camp survivor and founder of logotherapy, Victor Frankl, she concurs that ``Facts are not fate. What matters is the stand we take toward them.'' With guidance and insight, it seems, one can overcome the legacy of a difficult childhood. Learned, sensitive, and compassionate: self-help fare at its best. -- Copyright ©1994, Kirkus Associates, LP. All rights reserved.

Edition details

• Publisher: W W Norton & Co Inc
• Publication date: 1994
• ISBN 10: 0393036278
• ISBN 13: 9780393036275
• Binding: Hardcover
• Language: English
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 320