Making Divorce Work: 8 Essential Keys to Resolving Conflict and Rebuilding Your Life - Softcover

Mercer, Diana; Wennechuk, Katie Jane

Softcover

ISBN 10: 039953623X ISBN 13: 9780399536236

Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group, 2010

Synopsis

Eight essential keys to resolving conflict and rebuilding your life.

This unique and empowering guide gives divorcing couples the skills to manage their divorce successfully, handle the legal and emotional issues harmoniously, and redefine and preserve the positive elements of their relationship. Informed by eight mediation concepts developed and used by the authors in their practice, the process outlined in this book will allow divorcing couples to deal rationally with the issues rather than allowing fear, anger, and grief to dictate their actions.

Making Divorce Work leads couples to experience divorce as a celebration of the end of a relationship that served them well and provides the tools to deal with virtually every aspect of divorce-from money and custody to grieving and pain-to be proud of the way they handled their divorce and to start their new lives from a better place.

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About the Author

Diana Mercer is the founder of Peace Talks Mediation Services in Los Angeles, California. Mercer has been featured in Consumer Reports, the Wall Street Journal, Consumer Reports Money Adviser, and the Ladies’ Home Journal. She has been published in the Los Angeles Daily Journal, as well as the American Bar Association’s ABA Journal, the ABA’s ADR Journal, and the Los Angeles Times. She has written numerous articles on divorce and child custody for continuing legal education programs.

A graduate of Indiana University School of Law, where she received the American Jurisprudence Award for Excellence, Mercer is a member of the Mortar Board Honor Society for service and academics.

Mercer is the co-author of Your Divorce Advisor: A Lawyer and a Psychologist Guide You Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce with Marsha Kline Pruett, Ph.D.

Katie Jane Wennechuk is a certified divorce mediator. As a marketing professional, Wennechuk has enjoyed a successful career in business development for a variety of industries.

From the Back Cover

Why go from "'till death do us part" to a "fight to the death?"

Mercer and Wennechuk's book adapts mediation techniques for anyone to use to keep the peace in their divorce. This book is meant for consumers and it's full of examples of how to put the keys into action so that readers won't just read about what to do---they can put it right into action.

You can get divorced without losing your shirt or your sanity. Given that so many marriages end in divorce, divorce without devastation is an idea whose time has come. Making Divorce Work gives you the tools and inspiration to renegotiate your relationship with your spouse, put an end to unproductive arguments and behaviors, determine a fair win-win settlement, and move on from your marriage happy, healthy and whole. You will learn:

· 8 simple keys to resolving conflict...even if your spouse won't cooperate
· 8 peace practices to keep you sane no matter what
· To create a divorce mission statement to serve as your beacon
· Ways to deal with fear, anger and grief
· How to forgive yourself and your spouse
· What you want and how to get it
· How to take control of your divorce instead of letting your divorce take control of you.

From the Inside Flap

Peace Talks Mediation Services' team of attorneys and therapists offers a constructive, forward thinking and peaceful ending to relationships.

Marriages may end, but families endure.

Peace Talks' goal is to take everything that people hate about the family law system and do the opposite. Our mission is to create peace in the world one family at a time.

Reviews

This common-sense guide to surviving the stress and disappointments of divorce approaches the fear factor involved in such a big life upheaval with practical steps to facilitate healing. Setting the "peaceful divorce" as the ultimate goal to aim for, the authors offer easy-to-follow advice like giving your ex the benefit of the doubt and carefully following "8 Peace Practices." One will remind readers of the critical role of self-care: "We recommend that you deal with your divorce the same way you would deal with facing a serious heath crisis." In addition to insightful lists and journaling topics, Mercer and Wennechuk prompt readers to create their own "new beginnings mission statement." Useful chapters on grief and forgiveness all underscore the necessity of taking the high road whenever possible. "Think of the people you've met who can't wait to tell you how awful their former spouse is. They don't realize that this reflects on them...after all, who would marry the monster they describe?"
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Edition details

• Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
• Publication date: 2010
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 039953623X
• ISBN 13: 9780399536236
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 272