When Someone You Love Is Angry: A 7-Step Program for Dealing with Toxic Anger and Taking Back Control of Your Life - Softcover

Gentry, W. Doyle

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0425198111 ISBN 13: 9780425198117

Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group, 2004

Synopsis

Clinical psychologist and anger expert W. Doyle Gentry offers compassionate, practical insight to those with angry loved ones, providing coping strategies that help strengthen emotional intimacy and establish boundaries-and avoid being held hostage to a partner's angry words and behavior.

When Someone You Love Is Angry combines the latest research with real-life testimony, resulting in a survival guide for those exposed to toxic anger, outlining a unique seven-step program to minimize the emotional damage of loving, but angry, relationships:

- Reaching out for support
- Abandoning the eight myths about love and anger
- Recognizing and putting a stop to abusive behavior
- Avoiding facilitation of the anger syndrome
- Refraining from angry responses
- Innoculating oneself against stress
- Exploring one's options

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About the Author

W. Doyle Gentry, Ph.D., is an author, educator, scientist, consultant and clinical psychologist, whose career spans 30 years. His scholarly work-which includes over 100 professional and scientific publications-is cited as an authoritative source by top anger researchers and therapists. He lectures and gives workshops extensively, both in the United States and abroad. He is the Editor-in-Chief of the prestigious Journal of Behavioral Medicine, a post he has held for more than 25 years.

Reviews

A simple 7-step program to deal with an emotionally or physically abusive loved one (spouse, parent, sibling or child) seems too easy to be effective. But Gentry is not a lightweight pop author; he is editor in chief of the Journal of Behavioral Medicine, and has been working with victims of what he calls "toxic" anger ("anger that is experienced far too often, is far too intense and lasts far too long") for decades. Believable case studies illustrate how Gentry’s seven steps can work, and he accepts the irrationality of the love that makes people reluctant to leave such relationships (though if the other steps fail, he advises, it may be necessary to leave). Questionnaires and tables help readers evaluate their situation and answer such questions as "how angry is too angry?" He then offers sensible, tested steps, not to change the angry person, but to manage the anger and one’s response to it, such as getting a support network and controlling one’s own anger. Anyone in a toxic anger situation will benefit from Gentry’s calm, wise advice.
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Edition details

• Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
• Publication date: 2004
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0425198111
• ISBN 13: 9780425198117
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 208