From Kirkus Reviews:
The moving memoir of a woman who discovered she had breast cancer when she was eight months pregnant--and the same age as her mother was when she died of breast cancer in her 40s. In a period of less than three weeks, Feldman (an editor at Publishers Weekly) had her baby's birth induced and her breast removed. The baby was healthy and the operation successful. A year later, she had her second breast removed as a prophylactic measure- -to ward off the 50%-60% chance that the cancer would reoccur. Those are the unadorned facts. But this is a tale of quiet courage, told by a woman who, as a teenager, had watched her mother slowly die because her cancer had been misdiagnosed until it was too late. Although Feldman also had seen a sister-in-law and a friend die of breast cancer, she had friends who had survived, strong support from her husband's family in England and from her own in Philadelphia, and an extraordinary husband. There was also plenty of money, good health coverage, and help at home for the baby. She had the luck--or the good judgment or the savvy or the drive--to find talented and compassionate doctors, including obstetrician, surgeons, and oncologist. That most of them were women for this most female of experiences may not be a coincidence. But this is also a diary of fear, loss, anger, confusion, and frustration. In an effort to still the anxiety of repeating her mother's experience, she explores her mother's stoical last years and wonders why mystery surrounded the operations and hospital sojourns. ``Talking wasn't done in those days,'' explains an older woman who had survived. Feldman makes up for that generation's silence by talking with simple honesty, without self-pity, about her three weeks in hell. -- Copyright ©1994, Kirkus Associates, LP. All rights reserved.
From Library Journal:
This medical memoir is the latest of the recent personal accounts of breast cancer that have flooded the market, among them Joyce Wadler's My Breast (LJ 9/15/92), Juliet Wittman's Breast Cancer Journal (LJ 3/1/93), and Musa Mayer's Examining Myself: One Woman's Story of Breast Cancer Treatment and Recovery (LJ 10/1/93). This trend stems from the fact that 182,000 American women are diagnosed each year with the disease. What makes this book special is that Publishers Weekly Book News editor Feldman, in addition to having a family history of breast cancer (her mother died of the disease), was eight months pregnant when diagnosed. Her story of an induced delivery, subsequent biopsies, and a mastectomy cannot fail to move the reader while educating at the same time. Writing in a personal, easy-to-understand style, Feldman draws you close to her and makes you want to do more for her and others with this devastating illness. Of all these recent books, You Don't Have To Be Your Mother speaks most compellingly to the emotional agony of experiencing a life-threatening disease. Highly recommended.
--Janet M. Coggan, Univ. of Florida Libs., Gainesville
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