Why You're Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You if You Promised Not to Get Mad - Softcover

Katz, Evan Marc; Holmes, Linda

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0452287383 ISBN 13: 9780452287389

Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group, 2006

Synopsis

This book isn't about catching men or reeling anybody in. Catching is for nine-year-olds playing freeze tag, and reeling is for trout. This is about you, considering the possibility that you're tripping over your own feet, no matter how much of an amazing, smart, hot, totally worthwhile ass-kicker you may be as a general rule. Some food for thought:

-Don't be the "men are pigs" woman. She's boring. She's unhappy. And the good men don't want her.
-Don't demand the right to set arbitrary rules, let alone change them every five minutes. Act like a crazy person and you'll be treated like one.
-Realize when he doesn't want to talk and give him that space. Men don't usually feel the need to share as much. Respect that or watch him shut down even more.

. . . In other words: If you're looking for a different approach, this book has one.

About this title

About the Author

Linda Holmes is a columnist for Television Without Pity and MSNBC.com and a frequent contributor to TV Guide.

Billed as a "personal trainer for smart, strong, successful women," dating coach Evan Marc Katz has been helping singles find love since 2003. Dozens of his clients have gotten married, started families, and found happiness - after only a few months of phone coaching.
 
Katz started his career in customer care at JDate, during which he wrote his first book, "I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating" (Ten Speed Press, 2004). His follow-up venture, E-Cyrano, was the first company that wrote online dating profiles for thousands of frustrated singles. Quickly, Katz realized that people needed support in all aspects of dating, and expanded his suite of services into dating coaching.
 
But like many experts who say one thing and do another, Katz began to notice his own hypocrisy. His second book, "Why You're Still Single - Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad" (Plume, 2006), was a critical success, yet the dating coach was ignoring the very same advice that was leading his clients to love.
 
It wasn't until Katz took his own wisdom that he met his future wife - and became a much better dating coach in the process. By opening up to a new kind of partner, Katz proved that to get different results in love, you have to make different choices. He's very glad he did.
 
These days, Katz works primarily with the clients with whom he most identifies - smart, strong, successful women who have everything... except a lasting relationship.
 
Evan Marc Katz is married and lives in Los Angeles with his wife. His third book: Why He Disappeared - The Smart, Strong, Successful Woman's Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever is available on his website.

Review

"The book doesn't take the tone of I'm So Good at this Relationship Thing and You Suck! that a lot of books engage in but proves that we are all just trying to make sense of this thing called love."

----VixenTales - book review

"I. Loved. It. None of this 'don't ever call a man' crap. No 'keep your legs crossed for-evah' nonsense. This book addresses singles as rational, intelligent people who just happen to be on their own."
---WhenWeWereLiars - book review

"Plainspoken and to the point, the guide is simple, practical, and above all, positive...There are enough small gems in these pages to reinvigorate even the most pitiful dating repertoire."
---CurledUp.com - book review

"A book by two astute, exceptionally observant single people who discuss the ways singles manage to stay single...Any woman looking to change her single state could benefit from this book."

---The Flatland Oracles -book review

I do have to say that reading self-help books is against my nature, but there's a lot of wit here...I almost stopped reading in Chapter 1 and said, "That's it! I've been diagnosed." ---CharmingButSingle - book review

Edition details

• Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
• Publication date: 2006
• ISBN 10: 0452287383
• ISBN 13: 9780452287389
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 176