Do I Get My Allowance Before or After I'm Grounded?: Stop Fighting, Start Talking, and Get to Know Your Teen - Softcover

Van Petten, Vanessa

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0452297419 ISBN 13: 9780452297418

Publisher: Plume, 2011

Synopsis

Vanessa Petten bridges the communication gap between teens and parents.

Every parent fears "losing" their child. But in this revolutionary book, youthologist Vanessa Van Petten translates what parents want to say into what teens want to hear.
At 16, Vanessa Van Petten started her award-winning website, RadicalParenting.com, in reaction to sudden friction with her parents. Today, Vanessa and more than one hundred teen contributors help thousands of parents build and maintain healthy, strong, mutually fulfilling relationships with their teenage children-by providing prescriptive advice straight from the source.
From classic fights like dating and chores to 21st Century issues such as sexting and cyberbullying, this comprehensive book provides step-by-step guidance on every worry, including:

• Lying 
• Peer Pressure 
• Social Networking 
• Sex 
• School 
• Drugs

It's never too late to reconnect. Vanessa Van Petten helps you learn what's really going on in your child's life, and most importantly- understand when to put your foot down and when to let go.

About this title

From the Author

In this breakthrough parenting book which is a guide to understanding teenagers, author Vanessa Van Petten gives parents tricks and advice that is radically different than any other parenting book. Every topic is brought onto the table, as Van Petten delves into teenage sex, underage drinking, video games and teen drug use. Her candor and personal anecdotes help inform and calm parents' fears by telling them how to prevent these issues from happening to their own children.Parents will discover:
* Why teenagers do drugs, break curfew and rebel; and how to stop this destructive behavior by building trust.
* How to stop your teenager from pulling away so that you can have a better relationship; open communication and real emotional connection; and empower your teen to become a happier, more productive, more successful adult.
And much more...

From the Back Cover

Publisher's Weekly Review:"Van Petten, founder of the popular Web site RadicalParenting.com, offers parents a candid view of the contemporary teen's world in this eye-opening text. Van Petten uses actual stories about teens and their often anxious, angry, or befuddled parents to introduce each chapter. Pointing out that she is neither a parent nor a teen (nor a doctor, therapist, or counselor), the college-grad author has nevertheless earnestly investigated her subject and includes current research on teens as well as hundreds of "real quotes, interviews, e-mails and advice from actual teens." Van Petten explores a variety of timely subjects, including peer relationships, teen/parent communication, bullying, technology, and "risky business" (smoking, drinking, sex, and more). Her outlook on technology and "Internet savvy" is particularly incisive, emphasizing not only the hazards of "time-suck" activities (i.e., Facebook, chatting on IM, and texting) but also the many social and academic benefits of the digital universe. Like a crafty spy, Van Petten comfortably segues from parent to teen perspective, and while noting that each adolescent is unique, she skillfully opens doors to the collective teen psyche."-Publishers Weekly

Edition details

• Publisher: Plume
• Publication date: 2011
• ISBN 10: 0452297419
• ISBN 13: 9780452297418
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 320