Why Mr. Right Can't Find You: The Surprising Answers that will Change your Life...and His - Softcover

Kearns, J. M.

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0470154594 ISBN 13: 9780470154595

Publisher: Wiley, 2008

Synopsis

The book on this page is the first edition of Why Mr. Right Can't Find You, published in 2008, and is now out of date. The newly revised, updated Second Edition of Why Mr. Right Can't Find You is now available on Amazon as a paperback and as a Kindle book. It says "Second Edition" on the cover, and is wholly revised, including the smartest, most current guide to online dating, including the real scoop about Tinder. The cover image shows a woman walking past a man sitting in a café.

About this title

About the Author

J.M. Kearns, PhD, is the best-selling author of four non-fiction books and a novel. He also teaches philosophy at Rowan University. His books have been published in Canada and the U.S., the UK, Australia, China, and France and featured on Oprah & Friends and in Glamour, Cosmopolitan-UK, Maclean's, The Toronto Star, and many other media. His novel The Deep End was published in the United States in 2014. 

J.M. Kearns lives in Cape May, New Jersey with his partner Debra.

For more on J.M. Kearns and his writings, please visit jmkearns.com.

From the Back Cover

"If you've been on the lookout for ages but still haven't found the One, this is for you... you'll be in the arms of your true love in no time!" - OK! Magazine

Mr. Right is out there now - and the woman he wants is You.

Yes, you...as you are right now.

Why Mr. Right Can't Find You exposes the classic myths of dating and reveals the surprising secrets of true compatibility. giving you the tools to eliminate the Mr. Wrongs and, more importantly. to recognize the perfect man for you. No more playing games or second-guessing. with this book you will discover that any time is the right time to meet Mr. Right, that online dating can be the most successful way to find a partner, and, above all, that you ideal mate is out there now, looking for you. You just have to give him a little help...and this book tells you how.

Witty and down-to-earth, this practical guide will turn everything you thought you knew about mating and dating on its head.

From the Inside Flap

How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore?

Many single women think:
"I'm not seeing him anywhere; therefore he doesn't exist. (The good man I would like to be with.) Or if he does exist, he doesn't want me. Men want 'Perfection'."

But in reality, your dream man is out there looking for you. Why hasn't he found you? Because he can't do it alone. He needs you to believe he exists, and to help him find you. Mr. Right needs your help.

It just isn't true that all men are looking for the media's "perfect woman." Whatever your personality,n body type, or age, there are men out there who think you are fabulous. So don't worry about what "most men want"; use this book to find the worthy men who want you.

Why Mr. Right Can't Find You will show you exactly how to reach out to where your dream partner can reach you. You'll also get expert advice to give you an edge in the remarkable opportunity that is online dating. And a hilariously truthful guide to the riddle of compatibility, to help you recognize Mr. Right-for-you.

Our self-help culture has put up a wall between men and women, making it hard of them to hear each other's voices. Why Mr. Right Can't Find You tears down this wall, revealing that men are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars!

Reviews

Practical, encouraging and giddily optimistic, regular guy Kearns is convinced that "the world is full of lonely winners," but that the hunt for Mr. Right is often unsuccessful because women are taught, consciously and otherwise, not to make themselves available, and thus "don't give themselves enough of a choice." Kearns directs the lovelorn to embrace every opportunity to meet people, no matter how trivial the occasion, and not just when you're "ready for a Vogue cover shot." As women's own barriers to meeting people are the first that must come down, Kearns gently undermines the conventions and insecurities that keep them from actively and effectively seeking a mate, including self-defeating myths ("Serious relationships never begin in bars") and media-inspired body-image issues. Part one takes apart the myriad rituals of courtship, including chapters on "How Women Choose Men" and vice-versa, "The Perfect Place to Meet" and "Going Out Alone." He then tackles the "True and False Signs of Compatibility" across a number of axes (sense of humor, sex, goals), and devotes part three to destigmatizing and demystifying the online dating scene with a detailed step-by-step primer. Personal anecdotes round out this thorough, thoughtful and entirely upbeat dating guide.
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Edition details

• Publisher: Wiley
• Publication date: 2008
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0470154594
• ISBN 13: 9780470154595
• Binding: Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 280