Circle Round: Raising Children In Goddess Traditions - Hardcover

Starhawk

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0553100165 ISBN 13: 9780553100167

Publisher: Bantam, 1998

Synopsis

Harvesting the first tomato from the garden.  Marking new and full moons.  Saying grace and evening prayers.  Losing the first tooth.  All these are part of Goddess celebration--and this lovingly written book shows the way to share the celebration with children.

As a one-of-a-kind resource for people of many faiths and beliefs, Circle Round encourages us to gently open children's awareness to the sacredness of life, our connection to Mother Earth, and our responsibility to preserve Her gifts.  At a time when child-rearing is intensely affected by the stresses of modern life, Starhawk, Diane Baker, and Anne Hill offer new ways to foster a strong sense of family, whether that family is headed by a single parent, stepparents, same-sex parents, or loving communities of friends.  Here then are new traditions, meaningful and symbolic, to bring to your home.

Of paramount importance in Goddess tradition is the wheel of life, the never-ending cycle of birth, growth, love, fulfillment, and death.  Each turn of the wheel is presented here, in eight holidays spanning the changing seasons, in rites of passage for life transitions, and in the elements of fire, air, water, earth, and spirit as they embody ever-changing nature.  And each holiday, rite, and element section is enriched with songs and rituals, step-by-step craft and cooking projects, family-oriented activities and read-aloud stories for you and your children to share.

On December's Winter Solstice try baking Wish Bread with your child, putting in hopes and dreams for the coming year.  For Beltane in May you may choose to say a blessing for mothers or make an altar of flowers in bloom.  If your teenager is going off to college, the Leaving Behind and Carrying With rituals may ease anxiety.  Water play is important as you give your toddler a bath.  And you may want to encourage your older child to grow a plant and experience firsthand the life-giving power of the earth.

Crafted with your limited free time in mind, Circle Round offers an array of easily adaptable material to fit your own needs and worldview.The result is a sourcebook filled with wisdom--and the hope that you will add a piece of Goddess tradition to your family's life, to honor Mother Earth and bring Her presence to your home and your children's world.

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About the Author

Starhawk, author of The Spiral Dance,The Fifth Sacred Thing and Walking to Mercury and one of the foremost voices of the women's spirituality movement, lives with her husband, stepchildren, and Goddess-children in San Francisco, where she works with the Reclaiming collective.  

Diane Baker, a writer and attorney specializing in child abuse and mental illness issues and co-founder of the Reclaiming collective, lives in Berkeley, California, with her husband and two children.  

Anne Hill, teacher, writer, musician, and mother of three children, works with the Reclaiming collective and lives in Sebastopol, California.

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he first tomato from the garden. Marking new and full moons. Saying grace and evening prayers. Losing the first tooth. All these are part of Goddess celebration--and this lovingly written book shows the way to share the celebration with children.

As a one-of-a-kind resource for people of many faiths and beliefs, Circle Round encourages us to gently open children's awareness to the sacredness of life, our connection to Mother Earth, and our responsibility to preserve Her gifts. At a time when child-rearing is intensely affected by the stresses of modern life, Starhawk, Diane Baker, and Anne Hill offer new ways to foster a strong sense of family, whether that family is headed by a single parent, stepparents, same-sex parents, or loving communities of friends. Here then are new traditions, meaningful and symbolic, to bring to your home.

Of paramount importance in Goddess tradition is the wheel of life

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

What Is Goddess Tradition?

Not long ago I (Starhawk) was part of a circle of women celebrating the First Blood ritual of my Goddess-daughter Shannon.  We walked a labyrinth cut into a meadow on a ridge of the coastal mountains; we strung necklaces of blessings and beads; we bathed her in a clear stream trickling through a grotto of moss-covered rocks.  The ritual felt as ancient as the spirals we traced on her back and shoulders with henna paste, and at the same time as contemporary as the self-tanning cream her mother added to the paste to make the designs last longer.  In that way, our ritual was a perfect expression of the old/new character of the Goddess tradition itself: primeval as the big-bellied sculptures of Paleolithic cave dwellers, modern as the thousands of Pagans linked on the Internet.

Goddess tradition is indeed both the oldest and youngest of spiritual paths.  For as long as human beings have existed, the numinous powers of conceiving, birthing, feeding, and bleeding have stirred the imagination wherever people lived in close relationship with the earth.  For generations, the European-based expressions of that long tradition were suppressed or forgotten.  But over the last twenty years, as our ecological and social crises have deepened, more and more women and men have been newly drawn toward a spirituality that puts the earth at center.

Most Pagans, therefore, have come to the Goddess in adult life.  We are faced with the challenge of rearing our children in traditions in which we ourselves were not raised.  The heart of our ritual for Shannon, for example, was the time we spent telling stories about our own first menstruations, which were not celebrated with gifts and magic.  Our tales were charged with the awkward feelings and embarrassment of the women of our generation, born at midcentury into a world in which rituals such as Shannon's were mentioned only in anthropology texts.  We stand between two worlds: the world of our parents and grandparents, in which rituals such as Shannon's are unthinkable, and the world of our daughters and sons, grandchildren, and Goddess-children, for whom we hope such celebrations will become the norm.

How, then, do we answer our children when they ask questions about life and death, about causes and origins, about right and wrong?

In this section we present the basic worldview and some of the core myths of the Goddess tradition.  If you are brand-new to Goddess tradition, the following discussion will help you understand the concepts and values that underlie our stories and rituals.  If you have many years of experience creating ritual on your own, what follows will clarify our interpretations.  If you identify strongly with some other spiritual tradition, or with none at all, you will find here both differences and points of similarity with your own beliefs.

The stories and explanations that follow are meant not as gospel but as a workable framework for rituals and traditions that we hope will develop many unique expressions reflecting your own encounters with the sacred and the needs of your own community.


Goddess Tradition: Explanations for Children

Who Is the Goddess?

The earth is a living being whom we call the Goddess.  Everything around us is alive and part of her living body; animals and plants, of course, but also some things that may not ordinarily seem to be alive, such as rocks, mountains, streams, rivers, stars, and clouds.

Even though we are separate people, all of us are part of her, just as each of your fingers is a part of your hand.  And the earth herself is part of the larger living body of the universe, just as your hand is part of your arm, and your arm is part of your body.

Each living being is important and sacred, the way each part of your body is important to you.  When something is sacred, we must take care of it and respect it.  Human life is sacred to us, and so are the plants and the animals and all the elements that make life possible.  If one thing is hurt, it hurts us all--just as when you cut even the tip of your little finger, you feel the pain all over.

The Goddess is always close to us.  You touch the Goddess whenever you hug somebody, climb a tree, smell a flower, or pet a cat.  The water we drink, the food we eat, and the ground we walk on are all part of the Goddess.

We also believe in many different Goddesses and Gods, whom we call by many different names.  They are all spirit parts of the living universe, and there are many beautiful stories about them.  To Pagans, each Goddess and God is a different way of trying to understand the universe.  The universe is so enormous that our minds cannot understand it all at once, only in parts.  We know that different people have different names they use for Goddesses and Gods, and that's good.  The universe-being is like a great jigsaw puzzle.  Each of us has a piece of the puzzle, and the more pieces we place together, the more we can understand about the whole.  No one group or piece has all the picture; no one idea is right for everybody.  The Goddess tradition teaches us to respect other beliefs and ways of thinking.

The Goddesses and Gods can help us in different ways.  When we call on a particular Goddess or God, it's as if we stepped into that piece of the jigsaw puzzle.  In the movie Mary Poppins, the children step into a chalk picture and it comes alive and takes them into another world.  Calling on a particular Goddess or God is a bit like that.  In our imagination, that piece of the puzzle comes alive for us, and we learn something only that Goddess or God can teach us.  In this book, the many stories about different Goddesses and Gods are like magic pictures we can enter.

The Circle of Life

Life is a circle.  We are born, we grow up, and we die.  But death too is part of the circle, not a final end.  When we die, we are told, our spirit goes to a place where we can rest and grow young again, and be with the Goddess and the old Gods.  We call this place Summerland, or the Isle of Apples, or the Land of Youth, and we imagine it as a beautiful land across a dark sea, outside of ordinary time.  There we can think about what we learned in this life and what we might do in our next life.  When we are ready, we are reborn in some new form.  When someone we love dies, we are sad because we can't see them and talk to them in our daily lives anymore, and we will miss them.  But we are not afraid for them, because we know that they will be in a place of peace and love and beauty.

We can't see the dead, or talk to them, except in our minds, but some of us do have dreams or visions of the dead.  Sometimes we receive very clear messages from them.  Some of us remember other lifetimes or know things that we learned in other lives.  But mostly we know that life is a circle because we see how everything in nature moves in circles.

The moon is born as a silver crescent, grows to be round and full, and wanes away to darkness, only to be born again.  The seasons change from warm to cold and back to warm, or from rainy to dry to rainy.  Baby plants grow up as green shoots from the earth, grow tall, blossom, set seed, and die.  The seed falls to the earth and goes underground, only to rise again in the spring.

Magic

Pagans practice magic.  That doesn't mean we can just wave a wand and turn mice into horses.  We wish we could! If you listen to the word magic, it sounds a lot like imagine.  Magic is a way of training our imagination to make pictures and sounds and feelings and even smells in our minds that are so clear they almost seem to be real.  When we say we practice, we're not kidding, because it takes a lot of practice, just as it does to become a good dancer or baseball player.  Luckily imagination is something kids are naturally good at, better even than grown-ups.

Magic can't turn straw into gold.  But with magic, we can change the way we feel about things, and sometimes that can change things outside us too.  Magic can change the energy around us, and when energy changes, new things can happen.  And magic can help us remember that we are part of the Goddess, that we are important and sacred and loved.

We use magic for healing, and for helping things go better in our lives and in the world around us.  We believe that using magic to harm somebody is not only wrong but stupid.  Whatever you send out with magic, whatever you create, that same kind of energy will return to you three times over.  So if you use magic for good, for helping and healing, good will come to you.  But if you use it to gain power over others, or in harmful or greedy ways, you are asking for harm to come to you.

The Elements

The four elements--air, fire, water, and earth--are especially sacred, because they are the things all life depends on.  We all need air to breathe.  Even the fish who live underwater need oxygen to survive.  We all need water to drink.  All life and growth on earth feeds on the sun's fiery energy.  All our food, the minerals, and solid parts of our bodies come from the earth.

Whenever we begin a ritual, we call on the four elements because we know that everything depends on them.  Each element goes with a different direction.  Air is in the east, fire in the south, water in the west, and earth in the north.  Where we live, on th...

Edition details

• Publisher: Bantam
• Publication date: 1998
• ISBN 10: 0553100165
• ISBN 13: 9780553100167
• Binding: Hardcover
• Language: English
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 464