Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers: Parenting with Love, Laughter, and Limits - Hardcover

Elias Ph.D., Maurice J.; Tobias Psy.D., Steven E.; Friedlander Ph.D., Brian S.

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0609602985 ISBN 13: 9780609602980

Publisher: Harmony, 2000

Synopsis

The authors of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting focus their attention and expertise on the toughest parenting job of all: raising emotionally intelligent teenagers.
Just when parents think they've successfully navigated the baffling challenges of raising young children, they're astonished to find those same kids have become teenagers -- an entirely new genus altogether! Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers provides specific strategies for applying the insights of Daniel Goleman's best-seller, Emotional Intelligence, to this most challenging stage in parenting.

Not only do raging hormones make everything more intense for teenagers, but they have their own special issues concerning identity, self-confidence, peer pressure, and responsibility, including individuating from their parents. Drs. Elias, Tobias, and Friedlander, all respected experts in child behavior, have written a clear, informative book of sound advice to help parents  raise knowledgeable, responsible, nonviolent, and caring teenagers who will mature into well-adjusted young adults.

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers is  packed with real-life scenarios, practical strategies, the answers to the questions parents ask most frequently, and even questionnaires and quizzes. All of this useful information is drawn from the authors' professional and personal experiences and is given with warmth and humor.

There is a great chapter for parents and teens to read and laugh over together and one that addresses teens who are particularly tough to raise. The authors, professionals and parents who have seen it all, know how to help you and your teenagers communicate.

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Review:

Leave your son an answering machine message from his incomplete English paper or send your daughter an e-mail from her overdue science assignment. These are two of the refreshing suggestions about how to happily cope with a hormone-charged teenager who is ignoring his/her homework in Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers. A trio of psychologists have written a practical and humorous book to deepen the parent-teen connection, raise knowledgeable and emotionally wise teenagers, and to make home an oasis from the stress of adolescence.

Summarizing the insights from Daniel Goleman's bestselling Emotional Intelligence, the authors focus on emotional and spiritual, rather than intellectual, development. They tackle teen issues of schoolwork, car keys, mall malaise, grungy rooms, scary friends, sex, and drugs with their "Four L" plan (love, laughter, limits, and linkages). The pages are packed with instructive scenarios, quizzes, and wise, engaging strategies for parents and teens. One unique chapter--lampooning the ways of parents--is written for parents and kids to read and laugh about together. The authors offer a "24 Karat Golden Rule," which underlines the spirit and substance of the book's emotional toolbox for parents: "Do unto your children as you would have other people do unto your children." --Barbara Mackoff

From the Back Cover:

"A welcome help for any parent who seeks to raise a self-aware, responsible, empathetic, and effective teenager."
-- Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence

"Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers is a hopeful, optimistic, and realistic guide to loving, raising, and laughing with your hormone-charged teenagers. Through cool tips and quizzes, creative conversational maps, and relationship-building strategies, the book invites you to model good SEL behavior and engage with your teenager in the teenage tango! The book assures you of the possibility of a win-win and honest relationship for both parent and teenager. The authors clearly practice what they teach, as the book pulls you into its process by encouraging parents to turn attention to themselves in self-reflection and to turn attention to their teenagers by seeing their perspective, understanding their feelings, and still, in the final analysis, loving them, talking to them, and setting limits."
-- Robin Stern, Ph.D., The Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership and the Center for Social and Emotional Education

"Thank you to Drs. Elias, Tobias, and Friedlander! Speaking as the parent of a thirteen-year-old and a psychologist who designs programs for teenagers, I think this is the best book on parenting teenagers that I have ever read. It is wise, practical, engaging, and humorous. The authors offer sound advice, powerful vignettes, and strategies that parents can immediately put into action. This book is uplifting and confirming."
-- Roger P. Weissberg, Ph.D., executive director, Collaborative to Advance Social and Emotional Learning (CASEL), and professor of psychology and education, University of Illinois at Chicago

"Reading and integrating the messages in Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers will put you on the path to making a parent-teen connection that is 'cool' beyond compare."
-- From the Foreword by Gotham Chopra

About this edition

• Publisher: Harmony
• Publication date: 2000
• ISBN 10: 0609602985
• ISBN 13: 9780609602980
• Binding: Hardcover
• Number of pages: 272