Curiosity Killed The Spat: The Melfox Method for Relationship Health Through Effective Conflict Resolution - Softcover

Mellon, Joseph Jay

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0615906141 ISBN 13: 9780615906140

Publisher: Grumpy Gills Publishing, 2013

Synopsis

In a time when at least 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, the grim reality of failed and failing relationships can feel inevitable. After all, what hope is there for love when a vow to stay together forever seems to mean so little? Conflicts and resentment are tearing apart more couples than ever-or, worse yet, keeping them unhappily trapped together for the sake of the kids, finances, or personal beliefs. Desperate wives, husbands, and significant others turn to relationship self-help books to try and salvage their partnerships, but these books largely focus on dealing with the fights and hurt feelings that arise, rather than getting to the true root of the matter. This results in simply masking the symptoms of an unhealthy relationship, rather than healing the wounds from the inside out.Through Curiosity Killed the Spat, Joe Mellon hopes to change all that. Rather than being a simple relationship advice book, this is a full-fledged relationship education and restoration manual. The bold, straightforward style is ideal for anyone who is currently in a failing relationship, has ever weathered the storm of a broken partnership, or even someone who wishes to prevent it from happening in the future. With an innovative five-part program called The Melfox Method, Mellon presents a proactive guide designed to restore and preserve the intimacy, trust, and understanding in just about any relationship.Environment: Before the healing begins, you need to set the stage. In this section, you learn about the universal nemesis of healthy relationships, and how weeding it out begins with you and your partner staying on the same side.Information: In order to be successful at conflict resolution, it is important to establish empathy and come to a mutual understanding of the root cause of the conflict. Through challenging and clarifying what your partner says, and having your partner do the same, you will have the information you need to resolve any conflicts that may arise.Egoity: How do you protect yourself when you are feeling vulnerable? By shutting yourself off, making mean remarks, or cracking sarcastic jokes? These defensive reactions are a normal and natural warning system that, when controlled, can be used to pinpoint the root of the conflict to be resolved.Interaction: Next, it's time to put your lessons to work. Discover how you and your partner can combine Information and Egoity into successful, conflict-busting sessions.Outcome: Finally, get a glimpse of the fruits of your labor. Learn about the expected results and diverse benefits you can enjoy from understanding and practicing The Melfox Method.From the newly single to the happily married, everyone has something to learn from Curiosity Killed the Spat. Through this comprehensive guide, learn how to get to the root of any relationship issue, while battling the true nemesis of successful partnerships. Your current and future relationships will thank you.

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From the Author

Welcome to Curiosity Killed The Spat - a book that introduces a brand-new step-by-step system to help restore and preserve intimacy, trust, and overall health in your relationship. In fact, if you're not careful, it will totally change the way you look at relationships. Many myths and mysteries are exposed and secrets revealed.This book will take you on an entertaining and informative journey into the very heart and soul of relationships. It answers questions I've always had regarding the restoration and preservation of intimacy. Maybe you have the same questions.The foundation of this book came from all the painful lessons I learned from past relationships and my burning desire to understand why they failed. What I had been taught about relationships from family, friends, books, and TV was not answering my questions. I was no longer able to accept the traditional ineffective remedies for couple problems and their anemic approaches to conflict resolution as viable solutions. And I can't imagine that I am alone.Our collective epidemic divorce rate should be testament enough that our present methods of maintaining intimacy and healthy relationships are simply not working. There is definitely something not right when one-half of lifetime ('til death do us part) commitment vows are shattered.And what about all the unhappy couples in committed relationships that would mercifully end if not for situational circumstances? Since they haven't figured out how to fix their relationship with each other, many couples feel emotionally imprisoned. They stay in a miserable, often mostly sexless relationship just because they feel financially trapped, don't want to upset or leave their children, or simply don't want to be on their own.Does that sound familiar? Are you just as tired as I am of trying to sweep resentment under the rug, yet still walking on eggshells? It seems to me that we could use a fresh perspective when it comes to conflict resolution and maintaining healthy relationships. So I put on my engineer's lab coat, slipped on my pocket protector, grabbed my clipboard, and waded into the murky, mysterious world of interpersonal relationships. I treated this like just another engineering project: Define the primary problem, gather the facts, ponder alternatives, and develop a viable solution.I wasn't looking for affirmations or interesting observations, or to be told to go on date night. I needed answers. I needed to know fundamental aspects of relationships problems like:* Why do we lose attraction with our partner?* What is the real nemesis of relationships?* Why do we typically act so selfishly when we argue?* Why do we feel the need to suppress our true feelings and desires?Questions like these had to have answers. Playtime was over. I needed to know what was really going on. And it's amazing what can be discovered when there is a relentless drive to understand and uncover answers.Curiosity Killed The Spat introduces The Melfox Method - a bold, brand-new, comprehensive approach to understanding relationships and effective conflict resolution. The 5-part system is presented with the help of stories, metaphors, and real-life examples that aim to entertain and inspire. The Melfox Method clearly identifies the universal "enemy" of relationships, the agent of change, the regulating force, a proposed solution, and its expected results.In researching and writing this book, I focused on stripping away any preconceived notions we have regarding relationships and figuring out what makes them tick at their core. Like getting rid of an unwanted bush, the focus is on exposing the root cause of relationship problems, not whacking at their branches.

About the Author

Author Joseph Jay Mellon has been preparing his entire life to write the comprehensive relationship guide, Curiosity Killed the Spat. With a Bachelor of Science degree in Industrial Engineering, he is a trained problem solver with professional experience as an industrial engineer, accountant, and systems manager. As a plaque on his wall says, an engineer’s responsibility is to “list the questions, gather the facts, and solve the problem”–an approach that also applies strongly to his take on personal relationships. He is also a Certified Marriage Educator (CME) through the National Marriage Centers, in association with the National Premarital Institute. Through organizations like these, Joe has conducted countless interactive lectures about The Melfox Method and effective conflict resolution.

About this edition

• Publisher: Grumpy Gills Publishing
• Publication date: 2013
• ISBN 10: 0615906141
• ISBN 13: 9780615906140
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 330