Parent in Control: Restore Order in Your Home and Create a Loving Relationship with Your Adolescent - Softcover

Bodenhamer, Gregory

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0684807777 ISBN 13: 9780684807775

Publisher: Touchstone, 1995

Synopsis

Using common scenarios to demonstrate specific parenting techniques, a onetime probation officer offers a straightforward, tested program for maintaining control over adolescents without harsh discipline.

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About the Author

Gregory Bodenhamer, author of Back In Control, is a nationally renowned expert on parenting difficult children. A former probation officer, Bodenhamer is a consultant and trainer for schools, police departments, and court agencies. He was also the director of the Back in Control Center in Portland, Oregon, a parenting program geared toward parenting in these tough times.

From the Back Cover

Parent in Control is based on a highly successful program that has helped thousands of parents regain control over their out-of-control adolescents - whether they wreak havoc at home, in school, or in the community. Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents were forced to endure - until now. In this straightforward, hard-hitting, yet compassionate book, Gregory Bodenhamer, a nationally renowned expert on childhood behavior problems, shows parents how to combat an arsenal that ranges from blatant verbal challenges to physical violence, without resorting to harsh disciplinary measures, expensive counseling, or hospital-based programs. Bodenhamer, a former juvenile probation officer, draws on over twenty years of experience working with difficult children between the ages of 12 and 17 and their parents to offer techniques that work in as little as a few weeks. He covers a wide range of problems - whether your teen is simply ignoring household rules, or perhaps lying, or stealing - to more harmful problems, such as drug and alcohol abuse or unsafe sexual activities. Using real-life scenarios, complete with actual dialogue, Bodenhamer walks you through potentially explosive situations, points out errors most parents frequently make, and provides tested solutions to averting immediate danger - and preventing it from happening again.

Reviews

Bodenhamer, a former probation officer who is director of the Back in Control Center in Portland, Ore., believes we are confronting "the worst behaved generation of children in American history." For parents who need to retake charge of their children, he suggests a three-point focus based on "rule-based discipline, supervision and emotional attachment." Offering sound, practical advice on dealing with provocative and manipulative verbal challenges raised by teenagers and early adolescents, he presents a convincing case for giving highly detailed "job descriptions" to teens (if McDonald's has a 600-page operations manual for its employees, parents shouldn't shy from explaining precisely how to take out the garbage). Bodenhamer directly faces such incendiary issues as sex, substance abuse and peer pressure (including that from gangs). Frequently, however, he sounds a reactionary note, as when he rails against the American Civil Liberties Union as the nation's "most persistent enemy of adult authority" and cites "an inherited link between impulsive and immature unwed teenager parents and the impulsive and immature children to whom they give birth." While there is valuable help here, much of it sounds like the stuff of talk radio.
Copyright 1995 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Edition details

• Publisher: Touchstone
• Publication date: 1995
• ISBN 10: 0684807777
• ISBN 13: 9780684807775
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 192