This is my first relationship. What should I do?
I don't know who to trust. Which guys can be trusted?
My best friend and I like the same guy. Should we remain friends?
Has everyone had sex except me? How long should I wait?
No one defines your life but you.
After publishing her first book, The Blueprint for My Girls, author Yasmin Shiraz conducted workshops with girls across the country. She was flooded with questions the girls had about love, relationships, and intimacy, questions they didn't feel comfortable asking their family and friends. She realized that her role as the "old enough to advise you, young enough to keep it real" big sister could help girls stay grounded as they experienced dating, relationships, and intimacy for the first time. In this book, Yasmin tackles the pressures of dating, breaking up, and friendships -- as well as HIV, pregnancy, and abuse. By sharing her own mistakes Yasmin helps girls answer the tough questions without being preachy.
It's the perfect guide to help young girls decide for themselves what they want from relationships, guys, and love.
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Yasmin Shiraz is the author of several books including the Retaliation series which includes Retaliation and Accused as well as the critically acclaimed Blueprint for My Girls Series which includes The Blueprint for My Girls and The Blueprint for My Girls in Love. She is the author of the Tisha Ariel Nikkole novels which include Exclusive and Privacy. When not writing books, she actively produces films and documentary series that tackle social issues.
Chapter One: Phase 1
Dating
The beginning phase of every good relationship is the time in which you get to know each other. In this phase you learn about each other's thoughts, fears, and feelings. It's the foundation of a relationship that could blossom in the future. Without any pressures or expectations, dating can be a rewarding experience.
How will I ever get a boyfriend ifall the girls in school are prettier or
dress better than I do?
Rule 1
Comparing yourself to other girls is a dead end.
She sits across from you in math class. Every time you have on a new outfit, so does she. Every time you come to school with a fly hairdo, she arrives the next day with an even better one. It seems like everything you do, she's doing, and everything you want to do, she's doing. You can't outdo her, but it seems like she's outdoing you without any effort. But there's one point that you're forgetting: your life is not about the girl in math class. Your life is not about anybody but you. The only person that you should ever be willing to compare yourself to is YOU. And not only that, the person that you are comparing yourself to is probably also comparing herself to you. No matter how perfect someone seems on the outside, everyone has insecurities. The key is to get over them and love yourself anyway.
My Testimony
I'm five-three, and I used to be obsessed with being taller. It seemed to me that girls who were three or four inches taller looked so much better in their clothes. In high school, I worried about the length of my hair. It was shoulder length, but if I looked at a girl whose hair was longer, I felt that my hair was not long enough. When I started dating, I compared myself to other girls even more because I wanted to know what kind of girls guys liked. But when I reached my junior year in high school, I decided to focus on the things that I felt made me stand out and feel good about me. I began to cherish certain aspects about myself that I hadn't seemed to care about before, like my smile, having dimples, the natural waves in my hair. Then I started getting compliments on my hairstyles, the clothes that I wore, and how I carried myself. The more I took interest in myself, the more I realized that God created me the way He wanted me to be. And if guys weren't gonna like me for who I was, then they didn't deserve me anyway.
Blueprint
I can't focus on what other girls look like. God made me the way that I am.
Your Testimony
Is there a girl who you often compare yourself to at school? Put yourself in her shoes and make a list of the things she probably admires about you.
Copyright © 2005 by Yasmin Shiraz
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