Tales from the Bed: A Memoir - Softcover

Jenifer Estess; Valerie Estess

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0743476832 ISBN 13: 9780743476836

Publisher: Atria Books, 2005

Synopsis

Jenifer Estess is a beautiful, successful, thirtysomething New Yorker with dreams of starting her own family when she is diagnosed with ALS, a fatal disease. Doctors tell her to max out her credit cards and prepare to die. That is precisely when Jenifer starts to live -- dreaming deeper, working harder, and loving endlessly. A girlhood pact with her sisters Valerie and Meredith -- nothing will ever break us apart -- inspires Jenifer as she faces down her most vicious enemy.
Beautifully written and wholly inspiring, Jenifer's memoir forces us to reconsider society's notion of "having it all," and illustrates, more than anything, the power of memory, work, and, most of all, love.

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About the Author

Jenifer Estess was the CEO and founder of Project A.L.S. She lived in New York City, where she spent her best times with Jake, Willis, Jane, James, Kate, and the rest of her family.

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Chapter One

March 17, 1997, was a very windy day in New York City. Walking up Amsterdam Avenue to the gym that morning, I wanted to turn around and go home. The old me would have. My apartment was dark and inviting, my bed was warm, and the gym would be there tomorrow. But then I thought of the Muffin Shop, which was opening in an hour. If I worked out for an hour, I could stop by on the way home for a muffin and coffee to go. One of the great pleasures for me was sitting at my new kitchen table with my muffin and coffee, planning the day. I had a big day ahead of me, so I kept going.

I'd been listening to Annie Lennox a lot on my Walkman. She was instrumental in some of the recent changes for the better I'd made in my life. Annie didn't sing -- she spoke to me. "Please get your butt on the treadmill, Jenifer," she said. I always loved that English accent. Right-ee-o, Annie.

After six months, I had worked up to thirty minutes of running at 5.0 on the treadmill. Then I'd stretch and do a hundred, make that seventy sit-ups on the mat. I looked around the gym for my friend Billy Baldwin, who did sit-ups with me, but he wasn't there. The sit-ups were harder that morning, which was strange because I had a pretty strong stomach. I had to stop a few times. A handsome trainer walking by asked if I was okay. I said that I certainly thought so. He winked at me and kept going. Sixty-seven...sixty-eight...Talk to me, Annie. I dripped sweat. Hard-core athletes dripped sweat like this. I thought I was getting into some kind of shape. My sister Valerie would be proud.

Back at home I sat at my new table, feeling its smooth, sturdy contours. It had been a major purchase for me, the perfect Williams-Sonoma starter for a woman on the verge. I had my whole table in front of me, my blueberry muffin in hand, and a boy in my eyes. I hadn't met the boy yet. That would be happening tonight at Raoul's, a popular restaurant in Soho. My friends Martha and Merrill were going to spy on my date and me from another table. If it felt right, I'd give Martha the high sign, and the four of us would go dancing from there. Dating was something I didn't do much of in my twenties. I think people were a little worried about me. I kept saying I wasn't ready, I wasn't ready. Then, when I realized I'd never be ready, I told my friends to fix me up, and suddenly there was an all-points bulletin out for an eligible guy for me. On some level, I still thought that blind dates were for losers, but I was learning to keep my eye on the prize. What I wanted most was to love someone and to have children. Maybe tonight was a step in that direction. It probably wasn't going to be West Side Story, but maybe it would be. Could be...

I sipped my coffee, forever my drink of choice. It was all about this kind of loving self-discipline: one muffin at a time, not two, eaten like a human being sitting at my gorgeous new table, not out of the bag on the run. Most of my friends were married and having babies or inviting me to showers or lamenting not getting married. I was starting to bask in self-reliance -- I was working hard, step-by-step, to make my dream life a reality. My design for living was simple: I drew on the lessons of my girlhood. I was taking good care of my body. I was making a safe, comfortable home for myself. I was on a roll work-wise. The ideas came fast and furious: Maybe for my next birthday I'd register at Bloomingdale's. Why should I have to wait for a fiancé to get a couch?

"Oofah," I said, pushing back from the breakfast table. I was really late for work. I suddenly remembered the loofah brush and lavender soaps I'd picked up from Crabtree & Evelyn for my date. They were still in a shopping bag on the floor in my closet. When I bent down to get it, I got stuck in a crouch. As I got to my feet, and it took a minute, my burgundy silk shirt hanging from above fell into the Crabtree bag. Surely that was a sign. I'd do the burgundy silk shirt tonight, with my black jeans, and the brown suede jacket...or my black Donna Karan coat. The coat was dressier, a three-quarter length, and gorgeous. Keep him guessing with the combination of dressy on the outside and totally casual-comfortable underneath.

Running for the shower, I waved to my new Fiestaware plates stacked on the kitchen counter. I hadn't cooked a meal in years, but I would cook soon. I'd start with something simple -- a pasta, maybe? Then came my really weird shower experience. As I unwrapped my loofah and my bathroom filled with steam, I imagined my date -- rumored to be very handsome -- watching me walk oh so elegantly through the steam toward the shower. Like those showgirls through dry ice in Las Vegas. But that wasn't even the weird part. Suddenly I felt oh...so...bogged down, as if I were wearing a wet wool blanket. I went into slow-motion showering, loo...fah...ing, and drying off. The towel was heavy, too, a second wet wool blanket. Was there such a thing as working out too much?

I blow-dried my hair in a hurry, never a problem. My hair was my calling card -- thick chocolate chunks of excellence, very Marlo Thomas in That Girl. My hair had gotten me through a lot in life. When I was posing for my head shot in second grade, I brushed my hair carefully around my slightly chubby face. I knew instinctively how to use my hair to create illusions of lankiness and great beauty. For as long as I could remember, I led with my hair.

As I ran down Columbus Avenue to catch a cab, I had my own That Girl moment. I saw my whole life coming toward me: I saw him and them, a husband and children, as true possibilities. I saw my sisters Valerie and Meredith walking in stride with great purpose. There I was between them, walking confidently. I looked pretty good. Diamonds, daisies, Broadway -- wow. The wind really kicked up. It was so strong it pushed me backward. I sweated and slowed down on the sidewalk just as I had in the shower. I tried to fight the wind. I tried accelerating on the human highway of tourists walking to the St. Patrick's Day Parade, but there was nothing in my tank. I was alone in a sea of Kelly green. I wanted to tell everyone it was a great day for the Irish -- and me, too -- but they just kept passing me. I wanted them to know I was going to Raoul's that night. I wanted to tell them that I was lucky, and that I had my whole life ahead of me. Did I mention the wind? It was really blowing. It had a personality now -- it wanted me dead.

I felt instant relief at the office with my feet up on the desk. My office was absolutely gorgeous, a dramatic departure from the alternative spaces I'd worked in as an off-Broadway theater producer. It was twenty marble-appointed floors up in a luxury midtown high-rise with great air-conditioning and a view of Central Park -- salary so not commensurate. The job itself was a little disappointing. I was doing public relations, which I didn't care for, but in the end my office was the perfect front. Behind closed doors, twenty floors above Central Park, Valerie, Meredith, and I were planning a creative coup. Since high school, my sisters and I had had the idea of starting our own movie studio, and I was finally putting that plan into action. After years of hard work, Valerie, Meredith, and I were finally pursuing our best laid plans of childhood. It had taken us a while, but I felt sure that our hard work was about to pay off.

Meredith walked into my office for one of our top-secret working lunches just as my boss, smiling and totally unsuspecting, was walking out. My boss was a nice enough person. I knew one day she'd forgive me for the empire I was about to create. From across the desk, I watched Meredith lean in to her lunch, a tuna sandwich from Mangia, one of the best places in the city for tuna.

This was the moment I'd lived for, relaxing with my little sister over perfect tuna before an afternoon's worth of hard work. I reached for my sandwich feeling proud not only of Meredith but of my evolving perspective on food. I ate when I was hungry, that was all. I kicked my legs back up on the desk and started writing a few overdue checks.

"I see your legs," Meredith said.

"Who doesn't?" I said.

"No, seriously," she said, and she was right. The twitches in my legs that Valerie, Meredith, and I had seen occasionally over the last few months were going wild. My thigh muscles moved like snakes under my black slacks. They undulated and piled up on one another. I agreed it was bizarre. Meredith put down her sandwich. She saw twitches in my arms, too.

"I don't like it," she said. It was scary when Meredith weighed in. My little sister always meant what she said.

"Maybe I should see a doctor," I said.

"Like now," Meredith said, but I wanted to work. After lunch Meredith and I talked about a movie treatment that Valerie had written. I still felt the twitches in my legs, but I didn't want to look down at them. I wanted to look anywhere else. I wanted to look at my Fiesta plates and start the day over. Don't look down. I wanted to look out of my window at the thousand Kelly green dots of people marching, gliding, walking, running, pushing, strolling, kissing through Central Park. Keep working. I wanted to look at Meredith like this forever, an amazing woman in the prime of her life. Just like me.

"Look down." My heart talks, I listen. The muscles of my legs and arms were rolling like the sea. As usual, my heart knew what my head would learn. Against the backdrop of my picture window, against the eagle's view of New York, my city, the impossible truth was announced: Something was seriously wrong with me.

The doctors invited me to a square dance. My first partner was my internist. I called him Undershorts. Undershorts was so tiny he could have fit under my exam gown. When I pulled up my gown to show him my twitches, he blushed and looked away. Then he climbed up onto a ladder and examined my ears, eyes, and throat. Undershorts didn't find anything wrong, so he swung me out to my second partner, Dr. Hainline, a sport...

About this edition

• Publisher: Atria Books
• Publication date: 2005
• ISBN 10: 0743476832
• ISBN 13: 9780743476836
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 256