Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming - Hardcover

Bandler, Richard

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0757307760 ISBN 13: 9780757307768

Publisher: Health Communications Inc, 2008

Synopsis

Richard Bandler is known worldwide as the cofounder of neurolinguistic programming (NLP). Here, in what will be considered a classic, is Bandler at his best—the most accessible and engaging work yet, detailing his proven methods that have freed tens of thousands of people worldwide of their destructive habits, phobias,and fears.

When conventional therapy and drugs fail, Richard Bandler delivers, often with miraculous results. Richard Bandler cocreated the field of NLP with John Grinder in the early 1970s. Since then, Bandler's work revolutionized the field of personal change; his models and methods have been widely adopted and used successfully in colleges and universities, therapists'offices, professional sports teams, and businesses across the globe.

While many people have written books on NLP, much of what has been written is based on Bandler's ideas. Get The Life You Want shares 'the how' from Bandler himself, with remarkable insights into some of his greatest and most advanced work to date, including compelling true examples from client sessions. With more than thirty exercises that promise rapid relief from any problem or habit, plus a glossary of terms and a detailed index, this is a culmination of a lifetime of work written in a simple, engaging style that both clinicians and laypeople will find effective.

Richard Bandler's books have sold more than half a million copies worldwide. Tens of thousands of people, many of them therapists, have studied Bandler's blend of hypnosis, linguistics, and positive thinking at colleges and NLP training centers in the United States, Europe, and Australia. He is the author of Using Your Brain—for a Change, Time for Change, Magic in Action, and The Structure of Magic. He coauthored Frogs into Princes, Persuasion Engineering, The Structure of Magic Volume II, and Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson Volume I.

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Richard Bandler's books have sold more than half a million copies worldwide. Tens of thousands of people, many of them therapists, have studied Bandler's blend of hypnosis, linguistics, and positive thinking at colleges and NLP training centers in the United States, Europe, and Australia. He is the author of Using Your Brain—for a Change, Time for a Change, Magic in Action, and The Structure of Magic. He coauthored Frogs into Princes, Persuasion Engineering, The Structure of Magic Volume II, and Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson Volume I.

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RUNNING YOUR OWN BRAIN: Changing Your
NeuroChemistry

One of the main focuses in my work has been discovering ways to help people achieve what I call 'personal freedom'. Personal freedom means having the freedom to be able to control your thoughts and to manifest the kinds of feelings you want in your life.

We are often imprisoned by the chains of our thoughts and we allow ourselves to think ourselves into problems. However, since most problems are created by our imagination and are thus imaginary, all we need are imaginary solutions. So, here are some effective ways of controlling your thinking for a change.

Think of a time when you felt really good. Now, step inside that time and see through your eyes, hear through your ears, and feel the really good feeling all the way through your body. Make the images bigger, brighter, more colorful, and you'll probably find yourself feeling even better. Make the sounds louder and crisper, and if there are no sounds, add sounds. Start to intensify the good feeling.

Next, find out where in your body the feeling starts and where it goes. Discover the direction it spins inside your body, and spin it faster and faster and, again, notice your feelings intensify. There lies the control you have over your brain to create powerful feelings inside of you.

You can then attach these feelings to other thoughts. If you keep spinning this feeling inside your body and you think about your future while it's spinning, you will start to associate the feeling with your future. By doing this, you will start to feel better about your future.

How to Feel Wonderful Exercise

1 - Think of a time you felt wonderful.
2 - Close your eyes and imagine that time in vivid detail. See the image clearly, hear the sounds loudly, remember the feelings as they were then.
3 - Imagine yourself stepping into that experience and imagine being in that memory as if it's happening now. See what you'd see, hear what you'd hear, feel how good you'd feel. Make the colors stronger and brighter if that helps. Notice how you were breathing back then, and breathe that way now.
4 - Pay attention to the wonderful feeling in your body and get a sense of where the feeling starts, where it goes, and the direction it moves in. Imagine taking control over the feeling and spinning it faster and faster and stronger and stronger through your body as the feelings increase.
5 - Think of a time in the future where you could use these good feelings. Spin these feelings throughout your body as you think about the future and the things you are doing over the next few weeks. Don't be too surprised if you find yourself feeling really good for absolutely no reason.

Similarly too, if you find yourself in a negative or unresourceful state, you can change your mood by changing the qualities of the feeling.

For example, think about somebody who annoys you, intimidates you, or irritates you. Make an image of him and see him look at you in whatever way he looks at you when he is annoying you. Hear him say whatever it is he says and notice the bad feeling that happens in your body.

Next, take this image and make it black and white. Move it far off into the distance. Make it much smaller, one-eighth its size. Place a clown's nose on his face. Hear him say whatever it is he says, but hear him say it in Mickey Mouse's, Donald Duck's, or Sylvester the Cat's voice. This changes the feeling you have toward him and allows you to deal with him with more confidence and effectiveness.

Changing Bad Feelings Exercise

1 - Think about somebody who annoys you, intimidates you, or irritates you. Make an image of him and see him look at you in whatever way he looks at you when he is annoying you. Hear him say whatever it is he says and notice the bad feeling that happens in your body.
2 - Take this image and make it black and white. Move it far off into the distance. Make it much smaller, one-eighth its size. Place a clown's nose on his face.
3 - Hear him say whatever it is he says, but hear him say it in Mickey Mouse's, Donald Duck's, or Sylvester the Cat's voice.
4 - Notice how you feel differently. Then distract yourelf for a few moments and think of him again. You will still be feeling differently about him.
When you practice using your brain in this way, you will find yourself feeling really good a lot more often. Achieving personal freedom is all about developing new mental habits and skills and getting used to mentally running your brain the way you choose to run it.

The next element I want to cover is the process of dealing with beliefs.

©2008. Richard Bandler. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Get the Life You Want. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc., 3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442

Edition details

• Publisher: Health Communications Inc
• Publication date: 2008
• ISBN 10: 0757307760
• ISBN 13: 9780757307768
• Binding: Hardcover
• Language: English
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 264