The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever - Hardcover

Haltzman, Scott; DiGeronimo, Theresa Foy

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0787979597 ISBN 13: 9780787979591

Publisher: Jossey-Bass Inc Pub, 2005

Synopsis

Praise for The Secrets of Happily Married Men

"Manly men rest assured: You can hope to become a better husband without having to get in touch with your feminine side. . . . Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman's insights illuminated by anecdotes from his online discussion forum for married men."
—Psychology Today

"Haltzman . . . launches his eight strategies with remarkable vigor. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed out and convincingly supported with useful 'to do' lists and a multitude of examples. They will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage."
—Publisher's Weekly

"Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and Brown University professor, has been studying marriages good and bad for a long time. . . . View marriage as your most important task, Haltzman urges men, and pursue success as you would anything else that matters."
—Washington Post

"Men are good at fixing problems, not talking about them, so Haltzman advises playing to your strength. The genius of this book is that it . . . asks politically incorrect questions about men and women at home—the neglected front in the gender wars."
—New York Times

"The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way for men and women to understand and appreciate each other. It shows what it really takes to create a loving and lasting relationship."
—John Gray, author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The breakup and divorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couples therapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace, many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creeps who'd better change fast or else. But this new book is totally different, a whole different way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view, men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. Dr. Scott Haltzman, Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University, and founder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com, has devised a proven method for improving relationships, based on a man's special and unique skills, strengths, powers—as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem-solver, partner, husband, and father. Men are different, Dr. Haltzman says. They don't approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do—and viva la difference. Dr.Haltzman therefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which men have revealed in confidential correspondence to his highly successful website, including The First Way: Make Your Marriage Your Job, The Second Way: Know Your Wife, The Third Way: Be Home Now, The Fourth Way: Expect Conflict and Deal With It, The Fifth Way: Learn to Listen, The Sixth Way: Aim to Please, The Seventh Way: Understand the Truth About Sex, The Eighth Way: Introduce Yourself, and finally, Celebrate Your Love. Within each of these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines and techniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences, unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustrate these ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives. For a lasting commitment, a continuing guide to solving inevitable problems and bumps in the road, for more fun, better sex, genuine intimacy, and a life-long partnership—this dynamic new author shows the way in a manner that finally includes an authentic male perspective.

About this title

"At last, a book by real men for real men focused on the prize (a happy and contented wife) and filled with the secrets to getting more and better sex, health, wealth, and happiness. It's a road map for men, women, or anyone who works with them—straight to the promised land. No man who is married, or plans to get married, should be without this book."
—Diane Sollee, founder and director, SmartMarriages.com

"Secrets of Happily Married Men combines an empathy for men with an inspiring and no-excuses challenge to apply their man-made talents toward a better marriage. I recommend this well-written, honest, and non-PC book to any man who cares about love, family, and marriage."
—Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author, Why Men Are the Way They Are and Father and Child Reunion

"Scott Haltzman writes clearly of the gender-specific issues of men and their response to marital conflict.? His commonsense language invites readers, regardless of gender, to want more."
—Andrew Slaby, M.D., Ph.D., M.P.H., clinical professor of psychiatry, New York University; author, 60 Ways to Make Stress Work for You

"Scott Haltzman writes the perfect playbook for marriage. The Secrets of Happily Married Men teaches you all the right moves. It is a powerful book."
—Stephen Baker, "The Touchdown Maker," New York Giants Super Bowl Champion

"The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way for men and women to understand and appreciate each other. It shows what it really takes to create a loving and lasting relationship."
—John Gray, author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"This book is brilliant! It's that rare 'relationship book' that men will actually like. Frankly, if all married couples read this book and followed its guidance, the divorce rate would plummet like a rock and the level of satisfaction in marriage would skyrocket."
—Peggy Vaughan, DearPeggy.com; author, The The Monogamy Myth

From the Inside Flap

Here at last is a new voice speaking up on behalf of men: Men who are different from women, men who want a great relationship with the woman they love, men who have their own way of creating a great marriage. Men have traditionally had a bad rap from conventional relationship books. Many self-help gurus describe men as either commitment phobic, ignorant, or disinterested in the needs of women.

The Secrets of Happily Married Men takes a completely different approach and offers a?positive way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view.

The Secrets of Happily Married Men is filled with stories from real men who are happy in their partnerships—men who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. Written by Dr. Scott Haltzman, founder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com, this unique book reveals his proven method for improving relationships, based on a man's special and unique skills, strengths, and powers?—as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem solver, partner, husband, and father.

Dr. Haltzman presents eight proven techniques that he developed from his research and through the confidential correspondence to his highly successful Web site, including

• Make Your Marriage Your Job
• Know Your Wife
• Be Home Now
• Expect Conflict and Deal with It
• Learn to Listen
• Aim to Please
• Understand the Truth About Sex
• Celebrate Your Love

Written in a humorous and entertaining style, the book provides specific analysis, guidelines, and techniques that are based on male biology, neuroscience, brain differences, and unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. In addition, The Secrets of Happily Married Men contains?compelling true?stories, anecdotes, and confessions written by and for men (and the women who love them).

Edition details

• Publisher: Jossey-Bass Inc Pub
• Publication date: 2005
• ISBN 10: 0787979597
• ISBN 13: 9780787979591
• Binding: Hardcover
• Language: English
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 273