The Seven Conflicts: Resolving the Most Common Disagreements in Marriage - Softcover

Downs, Tim; Downs, Joy

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0802414230 ISBN 13: 9780802414236

Publisher: Moody Publishers, 2003

Synopsis

Marriages are under increasing strain these days, with over half of them ending in divorce. Conflict is seen as grounds to end a marriage, rather than an opportunity to grow closer to each other and to God. The Seven Conflicts is an excellent resource for equipping couples to learn to understand the true nature of their conflicts and deal with them in a way that will actually help their marital fulfillment. Couples will learn to identify their mutual dreams, put differences into perspective, understand each other's underlying motives, and work together as partners who are more in love than ever.

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About the Author

Tim and Joy Downs have been on the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ since 1979, where they founded and directed the Communication Center, a communication training facility, for seventeen years. Since 1985 they have spoken at more than 150 Family Life Marriage and Parenting conferences across the country. Tim's first book, Finding Common Ground, was awarded the Gold Medallion Award in 2000. Tim and Joy live in Cary, North Carolina, with their three children.

From the Back Cover

NOTHING KEEPS AN ARUGUMENT GOING LIKE TWO PEOPLE WHO AREN’T SURE WHAT THEY’RE ARGUING ABOUT.

 

Are there conflicts in your marriage that you seem to revisit over and over again?  Are there topics that always seem to cause a disagreement?  Are there areas of you marriage that you avoid like a marital minefield? 

 

The Seven Conflicts reveals seven hidden issues that are the underlying cause of most of the conflict in married life:

• Security
• Loyalty
• Responsibility
• Caring
• Order
• Openness
• Connection

 

When a couple approached these seven issues from different perspectives, it leads to conflicts that just don’t seem to go away.  In The Seven Conflicts, you will learn why:

 

• Disagreements over money are often not about money at all, but Security.
• In-law arguments are really questions of Loyalty: Who side are you on, anyway?
• Major conflicts begin over the question of Responsibility: What should we do?
• The secret to Caring is found in the words Awareness and Initiative.
• Your biggest conflicts are about the way you disagree.
• Some conflicts will never go away – but you can learn to love each other in spite of them and have a great marriage!

 

The Seven Conflicts will help you identify where you and your mate stand in relation to each of the seven issues – and to each other.  This accessible, practical guide will enable you to understand you mate’s true motives, put your differences in perspective, anticipate areas of disagreement, and learn to live and love as committed partners. 

 

Tim and Joy Downs have been speaking at FamilyLife marriage and parenting conferences since 1985.  Tim’s first book, Finding Common Ground, was awarded the Evangelical Christian Publishing Association’s prestigious Gold Medallion Award.  Tim and Joy are on the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ and live in Cary, North Carolina, with their three children. 

Edition details

• Publisher: Moody Publishers
• Publication date: 2003
• ISBN 10: 0802414230
• ISBN 13: 9780802414236
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 304