Raising a Thinking Preteen: The "I Can Problem Solve" Program for 8- to 12- Year-Olds - Hardcover

Shure, Myrna B.; Israeloff, Roberta

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0805059911 ISBN 13: 9780805059915

Publisher: Henry Holt and Co., 2000

Synopsis

By the author of the national bestseller Raising a Thinking Child, an indispensable guide or parents of preteens.

Raising a Thinking Preteen introduces a unique series of exercises, games, and discussions that parents can share with their eight-to twelve-year-olds and in so doing will help their children recognize and express their feelings, as well as help identify why others behave the way they do. This book can be used by those who are familiar with the "I Can Problem Solve" program from the best-selling Raising a Thinking Child, where it was applied to younger children ages four through seven, or they can easily learn its benefits here for the first time. Using the same pathbreaking technique she described in her first book, Myrna Shure shows parents how her ICPS program can teach the skills all preteens need to learn in order to face challenges confidently and be more successful in nearly every aspect of life now and as adolescents and adults. It also makes a parent's life much easier, as it helps children: Learn to wait for what they want Cope with frustration Get along better with peers Control their impulses and aggressions Resist feelings of depressionThe preteen years are often the last opportunity for parents to teach their children how to think for themselves. This book is the only source with a proven plan to help them do just that.

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About the Author

Myrna B. Shure, Ph.D., a developmental psychologist and professor of psychology at the Medical College of Pennsylvania and Hahnemann University, has won awards from the American Psychological Association and the National Mental Health Association for developing the ICPS program. She lives in Philadelphia. Roberta Israeloff wrote five books and is a contributing editor at Parents magazine. She lives in East Northport, New York.

Reviews

Life is getting more complex for preteens, but not nearly as complicated as it will become when they start to live their own lives and make decisions away from their parents. Fortunately, 8- to 12-year-olds are generally still willing to listen, and thus parents are provided a golden opportunity to hone their children's skills for coping emotionally. After dissecting approaches that she feels don't work, Shure (Raising a Thinking Child) unveils the I Can Problem Solve (ICPS) method. She identifies ways for parents to stop lecturing and start asking the kinds of insightful questions that she believes encourages children to think for themselves. ICPS, which has been used in several school districts, relies on a five-step approach that helps children understand others' motives, learn how to listen and develop solutions for everyday conflicts with friends and family. Shure offers an abundance of games and exercises as well as case studies to show how ICPS works in many exasperatingly familiar situations, from fights with siblings to conflicts over homework to dealing with bullies and unreasonable teachers at school. Parents will also find useful suggestions and some powerful insights, such as "behavior is guided not by what children think, but how." However, implementing the dialogues and interpreting the results without the guidance of a psychologist may be more difficult than Shure has envisioned, and there are times when her enthusiasm for the approach sounds uncomfortably close to a sales pitch. (Apr.)
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Edition details

• Publisher: Henry Holt and Co.
• Publication date: 2000
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0805059911
• ISBN 13: 9780805059915
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 256