Making Love the Way We Used to . . . or Better - Hardcover

Ashner, Laurie

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0809224968 ISBN 13: 9780809224968

Publisher: Contemporary Books, 2000

Synopsis

Offers middle-aged couples advice on overcoming emotional and physical problems that prevent a satisfying sex life, providing information on diagnosing and treating medical conditions, confronting adultery, and enhancing desire.

About this title

About the Author

Alan Altman, M.D., is assistant clinical professor of obstetrics, gynecology, and reproductive biology at Harvard Medical School and is an expert on menopause and midlife sexuality. He lectures nationally on these and other subjects.

Laurie Ashner is an educational therapist and the author of six books, including When Parents Love Too Much.

From the Back Cover

Couples today don't have to settle for less satisfying sex as they age or keep secrets from each other in the bedroom. Recent, groundbreaking research has shown that, in as many as 90 percent of people reaching midlife, age-related sexual problems may have treatable hormonal or other medical causes. Even issues such as sexual boredom and dissatisfaction that may not on the surface seem to be medical problems may have physical roots. This new approach to solving sexuality issues has been called the second sexual revolution because it has now become possible to virtually age-proof your sex life.

Making Love the Way We Used to . . . or Better is a reassuring guide to the latest, best treatments for problems that frequently creep in as midlife approaches. Harvard gynecologist and menopause specialist Alan Altman, M.D., with Laurie Ashner, offers a five-step plan for uncovering your secrets in the bedroom and for ridding yourself of them forever. The authors offer sensitive advice on communicating about the problem with either a long-term or new partner and share cutting-edge information on the steps you can take to revitalize your sex life. You'll find out what to do if:

Sex has become painful You feel too exhausted to respond to your partner You start to feel ambivalent about sex Hormones are wreaking havoc with your life in general Your libido has begun to fade You feel self-conscious about your changing body Your partner is more interested in the Internet than in you Your partner is having performance problems Viagra hasn't turned out to be the instant solution you had hoped for

Dr. Altman also provides his list of ten smart, proven ways to age-proof your sex life.

All couples keep secrets from each other. Discover which ones may be killing your sex life and how to banish them forever.

From the Inside Flap

Couples today don't have to settle for less satisfying sex as they age or keep secrets from each other in the bedroom. Recent, groundbreaking research has shown that, in as many as 90 percent of people reaching midlife, age-related sexual problems may have treatable hormonal or other medical causes. Even issues such as sexual boredom and dissatisfaction that may not on the surface seem to be medical problems may have physical roots. This new approach to solving sexuality issues has been called the second sexual revolution because it has now become possible to virtually age-proof your sex life.

Making Love the Way We Used to . . . or Better is a reassuring guide to the latest, best treatments for problems that frequently creep in as midlife approaches. Harvard gynecologist and menopause specialist Alan Altman, M.D., with Laurie Ashner, offers a five-step plan for uncovering your secrets in the bedroom and for ridding yourself of them forever. The authors offer sensitive advice on communicating about the problem with either a long-term or new partner and share cutting-edge information on the steps you can take to revitalize your sex life. You'll find out what to do if:

Sex has become painful You feel too exhausted to respond to your partner You start to feel ambivalent about sex Hormones are wreaking havoc with your life in general Your libido has begun to fade You feel self-conscious about your changing body Your partner is more interested in the Internet than in you Your partner is having performance problems Viagra hasn't turned out to be the instant solution you had hoped for

Dr. Altman also provides his list of ten smart, proven ways to age-proof your sex life.

All couples keep secrets from each other. Discover which ones may be killing your sex life and how to banish them forever.

Reviews

Can there be great sex after 40? Alan M. Altman and Laurie Ashner (The Estrogen Alternative; etc.) use their knowledge as a physician and a psychotherapist, respectively, to offer new medical treatments and communication techniques for overcoming lost libido and boredom in the bedroom in Making Love the Way We Used to... Or Better: Secrets to Satisfying Midlife Sexuality. With aired-out honesty, Altman and Ashner compassionately state the hushed secrets middle-aged couples keep (e.g., "The little blue pill is causing more problems in our relationship than it solves") and prescribe a plan (e.g., for facing the emotional side of Viagra, it's important to realize that self-esteem is an issue for both men and women) to get things back on track. Agent, Jean Naggar.
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

This collaboration between a gynecologist (Altman) and a psychotherapist/self-help author (Ashner) has resulted in an excellent how-to-correct-problems guide for the 40-60 set. Altman and Ashner prescribe for dry, painful sex, discuss hormonal changes at menopause and at men's midlife, and address negative body image, erection problems, Viagra, and affairsDsexual, intellectual, emotional, and cyber. Their advice is up-to-date, sensitive to individual differences, friendly, well organized, and focused on options relating to medicine/health, including herbal remedies and couples communication. All in all, there are only two noticeable drawbacks: less coverage of nonmedical, technique-based arousal enhancers such as manual and oral stimulation, sex toys, or penile constriction rings and a skimpy resource list. Recommended for its medical coverage, to be supplemented with Lou Paget's excellent technique-based guides, How To Be a Great Lover (LJ 1/99) for women and How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure (LJ 1/00) for men.DMartha Cornog, Philadelphia
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Edition details

• Publisher: Contemporary Books
• Publication date: 2000
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0809224968
• ISBN 13: 9780809224968
• Binding: Hardcover
• Number of pages: 336