Límites - Softcover

Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0829728961 ISBN 13: 9780829728965

Publisher: Vida, 2001

Synopsis

Escrito por Cloud y Townsend, autores de Límites para nuestros hijos, este libro cuenta con consejos bíblicos y prácticos para todo cristiano.

¿Está tu vida sin control? ¿siente que la gente te utiliza? ¿Le es difícil decir que no? ¿Está desilusionado con Dios por falta de respuesta a tus oraciones?

Establecer límites claros es esencial para obtener un estilo de vida sano y balanceado. Un límite es un línea de propiedad personal que marca las cosas de las que somos responsables. En otras palabras, límites es lo que define quiénes somos, o quiénes no somos. Los límites afectan diferentes aspectos de nuestras vidas: Los límites físicos nos ayudan a determinar quién nos puede tocar y bajo qué circunstancia. Los límites mentales nos dan la libertad de tener ideas y opiniones propias. Los límites emocionales nos ayudan a tratar con nuestras propias emociones y a librarnos de las emociones dañinas y manipuladoras de otros. Los límites espirituales nos ayudan a distinguir entre la voluntad de Dios y la nuestra, y nos dan temor de Dios.

Los doctores Henry Cloud y John Townsend ofrecen respuestas bíblicas a preguntas difíciles, a la vez que nos muestran cómo poner límites sanos con nuestros padres, nuestros cónyuges, nuestros hijos, nuestros amigos, nuestros compañeros de trabajo, y hasta con nosotros mismos.

 

About this title

About the Authors

El doctor Henry Cloud es un conferencista de gran popularidad. Junto al doctor John Townsend es anfitrión del programa de radio New Life Live!, además de ambos ser fundadores de la Clínica Cloud-Townsend y de la organización Cloud-Townsend Resources. Es autor de varios libros premiados con el reconocimiento Medalla de Oro, entre ellos Límites y El poder transformador de los grupos pequeños. El doctor Cloud, su esposa y sus dos hijas radican en el sur de California.

El Dr. John Townsend es un consultor de liderazgo, psicólogo y autor reconocido a nivel nacional, que ha vendido más de diez millones de libros, incluida la serie Límites, best seller del New York Times. John es el fundador del Instituto Townsend de Liderazgo y Asesoría y de la plataforma digital en línea «Townsend NOW».También dirige el programa de Liderazgo Townsend. Viaja por todo el mundo para asesorar empresas, dar conferencias y ayudar a desarrollar líderes, sus equipos y sus familias. Él y su familia viven en el sur de California y Texas. Visite DrTownsend.com.

From the Back Cover

Is your life out of control? Do people take advantage of you? Do you have trouble saying no? Are you disappointed with God because of unanswered prayers? Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries helps us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others. Spiritual boundaries help us distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator. Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer Biblically based answers to tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

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Limites / Boundaries

By Henry Cloud

Editorial Vida

Copyright © 2001 Henry Cloud
All right reserved.
ISBN: 9780829728965

Chapter One

Session One

What Is a Boundary?

BEFORE YOU LEAD

Key Points

Boundaries define what is me and what is not me. Boundaries also protect us
from the bad.

Skin, words (especially the word no), truth about God and about who you are,
time (as in "time away from"), geographical distance, emotional distance,
other people, and consequences are some examples of boundaries.

We are responsible for our feelings, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, choices,
thoughts, values, limits, talents, desires, and love, all of which lie within our
boundaries.

The concept of boundaries comes from the nature of God himself.

Boundaries allow us to care for ourselves and others.

Boundaries result in freedom, which leads to love.

Synopsis

We begin our study of boundaries by answering the question, "What is a boundary?"Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundaryshows where each individual ends and someone else begins, leading each person to asense of ownership and responsibility. These boundaries, or "fences" need tohave gates so that we can let good in and bad out.

Just as homeowners set physical property lines around their land, we need to setmental, physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries for our lives to help us distinguishwhat is our responsibility and what isn't. Skin, words (especially the word no), truthabout God and about who you are, time (as in "time away from"), geographical distance,emotional distance, other people, and consequences are some examples ofboundaries. Feelings, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, choices, thoughts, values, limits, talents,desires, and love all lie within our boundaries.

The concept of boundaries comes from the very nature of God. God defines himselfas a distinct being separate from his creation and from us. He has boundarieswithin the Trinity. The Father, the Son, and the Spirit are one, but at the same timethey are distinct persons with their own boundaries. God also limits what he will allowin his "yard." He confronts sin and allows consequences for behavior. He guards hishouse and will not allow evil things to go on there. He invites people in who will lovehim, and he lets his love flow outward to them at the same time.

Created in God's likeness, we too have personal responsibilities within limits-withinboundaries-that we set and maintain. Part of taking responsibility, or ownership,is knowing what is our job and what isn't. It takes wisdom to know what we shouldbe doing and what we shouldn't.

Consider the importance of boundaries. Knowing what we are to own and takeresponsibility for gives us freedom. If we each know where our yard begins and ends,we are free to do with it what we like. But boundaries do more than just allow us tocare for ourselves; they also help us care for others in a healthy, Christlike way.

Maintaining boundaries-or, put differently, taking responsibility for your life-opensup many different options. After all, if you're in control of your life, you'll recognizethat you have choices. You'll no longer be limited by circumstances or the controlof others. You'll find that you have greater control of your time, energy, andresources. And with that greater control comes freedom to serve others in ways thatyou choose: to whom you will give, what you will give, and how much you will give.

In turn, the freedom that comes with knowing boundaries leads to love becauselove requires freedom. If you have to do something for someone and don't have achoice about the matter, you are doing it under compulsion rather than acting in love(2 Cor. 9:7). You are doing it in fear of either the person's withdrawal or attack or toavoid your own feelings of guilt. But if you are free to say no, then when you do chooseto give, you are giving out of love, and your service will be truly Christlike.

Recommended Reading

"A Day in a Boundaryless Life" and "What Does a Boundary Look Like?" chapters1 and 2 in Boundaries

INTRODUCTION

(3 Minutes)

Welcome

1. Call the group together.

2. Welcome the participants to Session 1 of the Boundaries course: "What Is a Boundary?"

3. Introduce yourself: Tell the group your name, a little about yourself, and
why you are excited about teaching this course.

Opening Prayer (1 Minute)

Heavenly Father, thank you for the people who have gathered here and for what you have for us to learn. May we hear your truth with our hearts as well as our ears and apply it to our lives in new and freeing ways. Jesus, we look to you to be our guide and our teacher as we begin learning more about boundaries and your design for our lives. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Overview (1 Minute)

Participant's Guide page 9.

Note: On each facing right-hand page is a copy of the corresponding Participant's Guide page(s).

For the next nine sessions we are going to look at boundaries-what they are and how they can help us live a life that honors and glorifies God. This course is based on Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend's best-selling book Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life.

Hold up the book. At this point you may wish to offer this book for sale as an additional resource or simply mention where a copy can be obtained.

Let's turn to page 9. Today we're going to define "boundaries" and see how
boundaries allow us to care for ourselves and others. We'll look at examples of
boundaries and see what we are responsible for within our boundaries. We'll see
that the concept of boundaries comes from the nature of God himself, and, as
we move through this session, you'll come to understand how boundaries result
in freedom, which leads to love.

DISCOVERY

(38 Minutes)

Video Segment: Sherrie Without Boundaries (8 Minutes)

In this first video segment, we'll see some scenes from chapter 1 in the book Boundaries and hear from Dr. Cloud. But first, let me tell you a little bit about your Participant's Guide. During our nine sessions, we will discuss various topics as a large group. You will also meet together in small groups, talk one-on-one to the person next to you, and occasionally work alone on some exercises. The Participant's Guide will help you stay focused and keep us moving through this challenging and life-changing material.

Participant's Guide page 10.

If you turn to page 10, you'll see that the authors have listed the key points from the video segments so that you don't have to take notes while you're watching. You can use these later, if you want to, to review what was covered. Let's get started.

View Video Segment: Sherrie Without Boundaries (7 minutes)

Boundaries help us to differentiate ourselves from someone else; they show where each person begins and ends. Right now we're going to look at some examples of boundaries as well as what falls within our boundaries, those things for which each of us is responsible.

Let's Talk: Examples of Boundaries and the Responsibilities That Come with Them (15 Minutes)

Participant's Guide pages 11-14.

Please turn to pages 12-13 of your Participant's Guide. There you'll see two lists-one of types of boundaries and another of those things that fall within our boundaries.

Directions

1. In a moment, I will split you into seven small groups and assign each group a
cluster from one of the lists found on pages 12-13.

2. If your group is assigned some examples of boundaries, talk about why each is
considered a boundary and what people can do to keep that particular boundary
strong.

3. If your group is assigned some of the responsibilities that come with boundaries,
talk about what being responsible for each of these areas involves or (perhaps an
easier question to answer) what irresponsibility in each area looks like.

4. When we come back together as a large group, a spokesperson from each group
will share your small group ideas with the rest of us.

5. You'll also notice some "Boundary Building" questions at the end of each page.
You will find "Boundary Building" questions throughout this and subsequent sessions.
These important questions-intended for later, after the session-can help
you build healthy boundaries for yourself.

6. You will have 8 minutes to complete this exercise.

Any questions?

After dividing your large group into seven small groups, assign each group a cluster of topics to discuss (see clusters A-G below).

Examples of Boundaries (4 groups)

Cluster A: Skin (What good does skin keep in and what bad does it keep out?);
words (especially the word no)

Cluster B: Truth (about God and about who you are); time (as in "time away
from")

Cluster C: Geographical distance (removing yourself from a situation); emotional
distance (guarding your heart)

Cluster D: Other people (How can other people help you set and keep boundaries?);
consequences (Why are consequences necessary to strong boundaries?)

Responsibilities That Come with Boundaries (3 groups)

Cluster E: Feelings, attitudes/beliefs, desires

Cluster F: Behaviors, choices, values, thoughts

Cluster G: Limits, talents, love/trust

Continues...

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Edition details

• Publisher: Vida
• Publication date: 2001
• Language: Spanish
• ISBN 10: 0829728961
• ISBN 13: 9780829728965
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 360