When Pets Come Between Partners: How to Keep Love - and Romance - in the Human/Animal Kingdom of Your Home - Softcover

Gavriele-Gold, Joel

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0876056265 ISBN 13: 9780876056264

Publisher: *Howell Book House, 2000

Synopsis

How to Keep Love—And Romance—In the Human/Animal Kingdom of Your Home

• When you're fighting about the dog, is it really about your in-laws? When your boyfriend says, It's either me or the cat," isn't there a way you can keep both?
• And what can you do when your girlfriend's Chihuahua can't get along with your Boxer, but you want to move in together?

Dr. Gold to the rescue, with a practical guide for couples who just want a peaceable kingdom. Sometimes animals take the place of people in relationships, so when we argue about the hamster, we may really be arguing about the children or an old boyfriend. Feelings of jealousy, anger, control, guilt, and fear can all play themselves out through our pets. Dr. Gold explains how conflicts over pets are often signs of deeper conflicts between couples, and shows how you can get at the root of these conflicts, bring them into the open and resolve them."

About this title

About the Author

Joel Gavriele-Gold, PhD, is a clinical psychologist with decades of experience treating patients in difficult relationships. He is the co-founder of Pet Talk, a pet problems support group in New York City. He is also a long-time pet owner, and frequently brings his dogs to therapy sessions.

From the Back Cover

Praise for When Pets Come Between Partners:

"Dr. Gavriele-Gold has come up with a totally new concept in understanding the connection between man and woman and beast. This book is mind-opening in its analysis, and totally practical in its application. The author gives dramatic examples of the psychological roles pets play in our lives?not just as sources of love and companionship?but what they represent in terms of our own individual family backgrounds. But he doesn't leave you hanging there. He helps couples resolve conflicts over pets to everyone's satisfaction?including the pet's!" ?Steven S. Simring, M.D. co-author, Making Marriage Work for Dummies

"It is a fortunate companion animal whose owner reads this book. The author's insights into the psychological aspects of the human/animal bond are fascinating and enlightening. I recommend this book for anyone seeking to improve the quality of life for themselves and their animals." ?Stephanie LaFarge, Ph.D. Director of Counseling Services American Society for the Prevention of the Cruelty to Animals

Pets can be idyllic family members, providing unconditional love while asking only for basic care in return. But as true family members, feelings of jealousy, anger, control, guilt, and fear can all play themselves out through them. In When Pets Come Between Partners, author Joel Gavriele-Gold explains how conflicts over pets are often signs of deeper conflicts between couples. Dr. Gavriele-Gold will show you how you can get at the root of these conflicts, bring them out into the open, and resolve them?without having to give up the pet or the partner. There are chapters on:

• the mechanisms that drive our relationships
• projection, displacement, and the repetition compulsion
• jealousy
• custody cases
• pets and single people
• grief and the loss of a pet
• and much more.

Edition details

• Publisher: *Howell Book House
• Publication date: 2000
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0876056265
• ISBN 13: 9780876056264
• Binding: Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 288