Back from Betrayal: Saving a Marriage, a Family, a Life - Hardcover

Suzy Farbman; Burton Farbman

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0970091729 ISBN 13: 9780970091727

Publisher: Crofton Creek Press, 2004

Synopsis

Back from Betrayal is a beautifully written and brutally honest account of marital infidelity and the long journey back to reconciliation.

Suzy Farbman was living the American dream: great kids, a marriage that had lasted nearly three decades, a successful career, and a comfortable lifestyle. But when she discovered her husband was having an affair, her dream turned to nightmare, her secure world crumbled.

She was not alone. Experts tell us that in this country at least one of every three couples is touched by infidelity. And middle-aged couples today admit to twice the rate of infidelity as the preceding generation. While infidelity usually results in either divorce or an empty relationship, Suzy was determined to fight back. First for her own life. Then, if possible, for her marriage and family.

Suzy Farbman’s personal odyssey is one of the first published by a woman who confronted infidelity and went on to save her marriage. It was a long and difficult struggle, but in the process she learned much about what it takes to rebuild a relationship.

Here, too, are the revelations and insights of her husband, Burton. In his own words, he presents the startling account of how a successful businessman took full measure of himself and then made profound changes to dismantle the layers of his deceptive life.

Back from Betrayal will inspire couples who want to repair a broken marriage, and will also guide those in a healthy partnership to a deeper level of commitment and self-awareness. This courageous story adds a new perspective to our understanding of infidelity and, more important, reveals a process that can lead to healing and renewal.

About this title

About the Author:

Suzy Farbman has been a journalist for more than thirty years. Before resigning to write this book, she spent five years as a regional editor for Better Homes and Gardens and other Meredith Corporation publications. Prior to that, Farbman was a contributing editor for Detroit Monthly magazine, concentrating on decorating, fashion, and the arts. She also wrote for the Detroit News and Women’s Wear Daily, freelanced articles for national magazines, including Cosmopolitan, and worked on projects for her husband’s privately owned real estate firm, the Farbman Group.

Suzy Farbman graduated from the University of Michigan with a B.A. in English. She resides in Michigan with her husband, Burton. They have two grown sons.

From Publishers Weekly:

Though she describes herself as "Generation S"-one of the cultural "straddlers" who came of age in the 1960s-Farbman admits she was more into pruning her rosebushes "than marching for peace." A virgin when she married her real estate developer husband in 1967, Farbman was a faithful, supportive wife for 30 years. She set aside her own career to raise their children, turning down job offers outside her husband's Detroit base of operations. She thought she had a very good marriage. Then her husband admitted-after she'd become suspicious and brought him to "couples therapy"-that he'd been having affairs with other women. Farbman was devastated. But rather than go straight to a divorce lawyer, she decided to deal with her pain and confusion and see if her marriage could be salvaged. She went to Onsite, a crisis intervention center in Tennessee, and also to the Deepak Chopra Institute. She consulted "spirit guides" and an astrologist. She tried realignment by "cranio-sacral massage." Her husband went to The Meadows, an Arizona facility for behavioral disorders, and together they studied "A Course in Miracles." After much rethinking and revising of their interpersonal skills, the Farbmans were able to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary together stronger, wiser and happier. Statistically, it's uncommon for couples to recover from infidelity. Culturally, it seems even odder for middle-aged, upper-crust Midwesterners to consult New Age therapists for healing. Still, readers without the means to participate in such far-flung seminars may find inspiration from reading this story.
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About this edition

• Publisher: Crofton Creek Press
• Publication date: 2004
• ISBN 10: 0970091729
• ISBN 13: 9780970091727
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 288