Twice Blessed - A Diary Of Secondary Infertility: One Woman's Journey - Softcover

Beavers, Ninotchka

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0975330802 ISBN 13: 9780975330807

Publisher: Booklocker.Com Inc, 2004

Synopsis

Twice Blessed, A Diary of Secondary Infertility: One Woman's Journey is a candid memoir of one woman's struggle to cope with Secondary Infertility. With a foreword by Angela Angel M.D., this book is a must-read for couples trying to conceive.

About this title

About the Author:

Ninotchka Beavers is a Mother of 2 and Freelance Writer based in Dallas, Texas.

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Introduction

In 1995 I was a young girl married to the man of my dreams and eager to start a family. Just a short nine months into our marriage, my husband announced that he was ready. We laid out a plan to start actively trying to become pregnant in six months. One short month later we found ourselves huddled over that "magic stick" that would tell us our fate. God smiled upon us that day and through tears and laughter we celebrated the fact that we were pregnant! We coined our first daughter, now seven years old, our "planned miracle."

Although we had said we were ready to start trying, someone out there didn’t see the need to wait the ever so sensible six months. Someone said: you’re ready NOW! And off we went, hurled at breakneck speed into parenthood and simply giddy about it.

Our daughter was and is the joy of our lives. From day one, it’s been nothing but a pleasure having her. I had a wonderful pregnancy, easy delivery. She nursed like a champ from the get go and despite the fact that I worked full time outside of the home, did so for an admirable 22 months. Initially we had planned to have our children 2 years apart. But as that time approached we realized we were not ready to embark on second time parenthood. I was terribly distraught over this. Things weren’t going *as planned* and I was growing impatient.

The following year we purchased our first home and once again *planned* to become pregnant a year later. This brought us to the year 2000. This was going to be it and boy was I ever ready! I had dreamed of this time and here it was. In March of that year we decided that we would start trying to become pregnant in July. Upon hearing the news my sister warned me to proceed with caution. "Remember what happened the last time you guys decided to get pregnant," she said. To this I laughed. After 4 years of hoping for an "accident" or "surprise", I would have loved to become pregnant sooner than expected.

What’s a few months? But being the conscientious people we are, we did in fact proceed with caution.

As July approached I became excited and giddy with anticipation. This was it! We were going to become pregnant! Finally! Then my husband thought we should wait some more. Admittedly I wanted to KILL him. Somehow we decided August would be the month. Perhaps that death threat proved effective. Of course, I’m joking. Nevertheless, August was here and, hot dog!, we were going to try to have a baby! Foolishly, we thought we could select the gender of our next child. We had a girl and the "luxury" of deciding when our next child would be born, so why not try for a strapping boy? Gender selection calendar in hand, off we went into the choppy waters of preconception. I just KNEW we were going to get pregnant. How could we not? I was, after all, a "Fertile Myrtle." In fact, coming from a family of seven, five of whom were girls, and not a fertility problem in sight, it was inherent that I’d be pregnant immediately.

How wrong I was.

Before my experience with Secondary Infertility, infertility was something that only happened to other people. Infertility was something that happened only to women lacking overall reproductive health. This was not I. First of all, I had conceived easily once. Furthermore, I had never experienced any reproductive problems. My Cycles were regular and I was a healthy young woman. This false sense of security along with the shock that is infertility, is what affected me most. And so it began...

What follows is a series of journal entries and reflections chronicling my journey with Secondary Infertility. There were tears, there was laughter, there was hope. I’m no expert on infertility. Nor do I pretend to be. I must warn you, what follows is not pretty. I tend to have the mouth of a sailor, so let me apologize for that in advance. My account of Secondary Infertility is raw, honest and sometimes brutal, but it’s real. My ultimate goal with this book is to reach out to the hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions, of women out there experiencing Secondary Infertility. Women who, like me, feel misunderstood, under-validated and so alone in this journey. Ultimately, my goal is to say to you: you are NOT alone. It happened to me.

About this edition

• Publisher: Booklocker.Com Inc
• Publication date: 2004
• ISBN 10: 0975330802
• ISBN 13: 9780975330807
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 124