Divorce: God's Will? The Truth of Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible for Christians - Softcover

Stephen Gola

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0976721155 ISBN 13: 9780976721154

Publisher: Holy Fire Publishing, 2005

Synopsis

YOU can be FINALLY FREE: From the guilt of divorce or from the guilt of being married again after a divorce, TODAY! Divorce was never a sin in itself---ever!

You NO LONGER have to struggle with the condemnation of guilt from a divorce or being married again.

You NO LONGER have to wonder if the decision to divorce is right or wrong—you will have the Knowledge of the Truth and the Holy Spirit Himself will guide you.

You NO LONGER have to stay single because you have been through a divorce. God wants the guilt to be FULLY cleared from your heart and for you to know what the Scriptures truly have to say about you being married again.

You NO LONGER have to feel far away from God and feel that He is punishing you because of a divorce or being married again. You will find out that your heavenly Father absolutely loves you and He has specifically send this book and website to confirm His love to you.

You NO LONGER have to forfeit your ministry and the calling of God upon your life. God wants you back in His Army and to fully carry-out and fulfill His will for your life.

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About the Author

In 1992 the Lord said to the author, “Son sit down, I want to teach you about divorce.” DIVORCE: GOD’S WILL? and DivorceHope.com is the direct result of God’s command, enabling His people to be set free from the bondages that were created through the wrong teachings regarding divorce and being married again after a divorce.

Stephen Gola is a Bible teacher and preacher who ministers on many different spiritual subjects. His current focus is on helping divorced Christians overcome guilt and experience hope for their future. Stephen has never been divorced.

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INTRODUCTION

A harmonious marriage between a man and a woman is one of the most beautiful and rewarding experiences one can have. But what happens when that beautiful experience is not so beautiful any longer and the love that was so deep has turned into bitterness of heart and hate? What happens when proper counseling has not brought forth the desired fruit, and the hope of the relationship being restored seems lost? And what happens when our spouse turns their back on God, the only true reconciliator of marriages? Is there still hope after all hope appears to be gone? YES!

As painful as this may sound when dealing with a marriage, divorcing or "making one into two" is necessary and needed to save and preserve life. To save a person's life from the destruction of cancer, a surgical separation must take place. To keep our community safe from a known rapist, they must be separated from the community and incarcerated. A rabid animal must be separated so others may not die also. And as painful as it is, there are husbands and wives who are greatly corrupting their spouse and a separation must take place to save and restore them, before both are lost forever.

CARING TOO MUCH FOR THE WRONG THING

You can actually fight God by resisting a divorce. Which is greater in God's eyes: the marriage or the people of the marriage? The priorities in the Church concerning marriage have been greatly misplaced. We have judged the "marriage institution" to be greater than the couples who make up the marriage. The institution is NEVER greater than those who make up that institution. A company is only as good as its people. A strong and mighty nation is made up of courageous people who will stand up for what is right under any circumstances. Moreover, a great marriage is great because the couple has a great relationship, and nothing less. AN INSTITUTION IS ONLY AS GREAT AS THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT MAKE UP THAT INSTITUTION. When a couple no longer has a great relationship, the marriage is no longer great. When we care more about our marriage than our marriage partner, we have misplaced the emphasis of our relationship. Being married does not create a great relationship. But having a great relationship creates a great marriage.

When we are faced with the decision of either saving the institution or the people of the institution, the institution must go! And when we are faced with the decision of either saving a marriage or the people of the marriage, the marriage must go! Whether it be the Sabbath day, a company, the ministry, the nation, or a marriage, the people of these institutions are always more important than the institutions themselves. ALWAYS!

Jesus said, "And IF YOU HAD ONLY KNOWN WHAT THIS SAYING MEANS, I desire mercy [readiness to help, to spare, to forgive] RATHER THAN sacrifice and SACRIFICED VICTIMS, YOU WOULD NOT HAVE CONDEMNED THE GUILTLESS" (Matthew 12:7 AMP). God is not looking for a husband, wife or the kids to be sacrificial victims just to "keep the marriage going". He would rather for the marriage to be dissolved and the people of the marriage to go free and not to be condemned.

When the focus is placed on saving the marriage instead of saving the people of the marriage, the process for the marriage to fail starts to accelerate greatly. If the focus is not shifted to saving the couple and making them whole, within a short time, the marriage will completely fall apart. In general, the primary thrust of what is called "marriage counsel" does little for individuals who really need the help. I'm not saying that we don't need marriage counseling, because we do. We just need to change the focus of the counseling from saving the institution of marriage, to saving the couples of marriage. If a person has outbursts of rage, abusive actions or some major vice that's controlling their life, counseling the couple on how to "deal" with each other's problems is like putting a band-aid on a wound with a severed artery. If the life-threatening problem is not directly addressed, the person will die.

In the marriage, the real problems, those old wounds, scars, fears, and pains that manifest themselves as outbursts of rage, abusive actions and controlling vices must be addressed first. If wholeness is not grown in the person, the marriage won't be whole. But when wholeness is developed in the couple first, the marriage will be sound. The best way to save a marriage is to first save the people of the marriage. God is very able and does restore broken relationships; but He will not restore a relationship that should be broken.

Edition details

• Publisher: Holy Fire Publishing
• Publication date: 2005
• ISBN 10: 0976721155
• ISBN 13: 9780976721154
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 160