How to Forgive When You Can't: The Breakthrough Guide to Free Your Heart & Mind - Softcover

Dr. Jim Dincalci

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0982430701 ISBN 13: 9780982430705

Publisher: The Forgiveness Foundation, 2010

Synopsis

Forgiveness: It s easier said than done.
You have been wronged and you cannot get past it. Whatever the cause of your resentment whether it is a fight with a former friend that has lasted for years, an unfaithful spouse, being laid off from a job, or having been the victim of a horrible crime you are finding it extremely difficult to forgive and forget. Maybe you are not even sure you want to.

Who is really being hurt?
It probably does not come as a surprise that the very first step in the forgiveness process, the willingness to pardon another, is often the most difficult. But here's the kicker: The person you are hurting most by holding on to your resentment and anger is yourself. Unforgiven offenses eat at you, whether you know it or not, infusing your life with a bitterness that prevents you from finding peace. Essentially, refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Forgiveness is a process.
How to Forgive When You Cant: The Breakthrough Guide to Free Your Heart & Mind by Dr. Jim Dincalci will help you move past your anger and resentment. This book acknowledges that forgiveness is not as simple as saying the words, I forgive you. It is not that artificial. Instead, forgiveness is a process. Through clear-cut strategies and compassion-inspiring stories, Dr. Dincalci teaches you the techniques that will enable you to work through your emotions on the road to forgiveness and peace.

This book provides proven, powerful methods that will help you get rid of your upsets for good - even those that seem unforgivable.

It presents numerous ways in detail that help heal a lifetime of blame, resentment, grudges, regret, guilt, and self-blame. It deals with heavy trauma, tragedy and abuse. Self-forgiveness is an important facet of this work.

The author, Dr. Jim Dincalci, provides: extensive references to research, case studies, brain studies, and how to maintain gains made.

It can also be used as a guide to help assist others to forgive. Mental health, legal, religious, and medical professionals will find it useful as a guide to help people cope with very difficult problems.

It teaches how to forgive others as well as yourself...and move onto a more peaceful, joyful life.

In the book you will learn:
1- The Eight Essentials and Seven Secrets for dealing with upsets.
2- Which of the 27 powerful forgiveness techniques is best for you.
3- What all trauma survivors and their family members need to know.
4- How to calm the brain mechanisms that prevent forgiving.
5- How to get past the more than 13 blocks to forgiving.
6- The 11 overlooked aids in empowering yourself to forgive.
7- The three best strategies for managing difficult situations.
8- How to get out of the cycle of victimhood and guilt.

About this title

From the Author:

After 15 years of development, the stages and phases of forgiving have been successfully mapped out to make forgiveness permanent--No more continual attempts at forgiving. This book carries you through to forgiving as you read and do the short exercises.

Remember, the person you are hurting most by holding on to your resentment and anger is yourself. Unforgiven offenses eat at you, whether you know it or not, infusing your life with a bitterness that prevents you from finding peace. Essentially, refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

I have included special sections in the book dealing with  trauma,  abuse,  emotional stress,  and  self-forgiveness to help with all types of forgiving.

From the Back Cover:

Imagine your world and your life free of your resentments and anger.
 
Learn how to let go of your upset and show other how to also.
 
"If you are at all interested in forgiving, read this book. It will save you time, money and heartache." Ken Lebensold, JD,PhD

"This is a really good forgiveness book.  It is clear, helpful and wise. Anyone who brings a hurt or grievance to this work will be helped.  I recommend  How to Forgive When You Can't both because of the book and because of Dr. Dincalci."
- Fred Luskin PhD, author of Forgive for Good and Forgive for Love.

About this edition

• Publisher: The Forgiveness Foundation
• Publication date: 2010
• ISBN 10: 0982430701
• ISBN 13: 9780982430705
• Binding: Perfect Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 309