Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband? (Surviving Infidelity, Advice from a Marriage Ther) - Softcover

Madden PhD, Caroline

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0990772853 ISBN 13: 9780990772859

Publisher: Train of Thought Press, 2014

Synopsis

You've discovered that your husband has cheated on you. Maybe you've discovered incriminating emails or text messages from his lover, or, worse yet, have actually seen them together. Your world is crashing down. You feel like a nuclear bomb just decimated your entire world, and you are trying to shield yourself from the fallout. This is very likely the most painful experience you've ever had. You've been sucker punched in the soul.  Infidelity in marriage makes you doubt everything, including your own judgement.

You are so confused. Your emotions are volatile - one minute you're so angry you could claw his eyes out, the next moment you're devastated with grief because you fear he will to leave you for his affair partner.   

You never wanted a divorce, but somehow you are now in this position. Do you take him back or blow up your family? What about the kids? It's all so unfair!

Ever since you were a young woman, you told all your friends that if your man ever cheated on you, you would be so out of there. But life isn't black and white anymore, is it? You love your husband. Sure, there might have been issues, but you know that marriage is work. 

You've built a life together. You have a home. You have children. You cringe at the idea of being a single mother and hitting the dating scene. He seems sincere in wanting to work things out. You want to stay married. But then you think to yourself, "Only weak women stay with cheaters. Strong women walk!" Then you loop and want a divorce, until you think of your kids being spilt between two homes.... and now you want to stay married. Rinse, Repeat.

You can't even think straight and you keep going through a never ending loop of ambivalence. You will never get unstuck until you develop criteria around if your husband is sincere in wanting your marriage to recover after infidelity. 

Dr. Caroline Madden, is a Licensed Marriage & Family therapist who specializes in helping women recover from their husband's infidelity.  In Fool Me Once, she shares the criteria she uses to determine if a man is truly remorseful and determined to save his marriage or if he is likely to cheat again. 

Here is some of the information she shares: 

• 5 Things That Look Suspicious (But Probably Aren't)
• 5 Signs You Should Consider Giving Him Another Chance 
• 7 Signs He is Going to Cheat Again (And You Will Be Hurt Again)

Infidelity in marriage is traumatic and you need to take time to assess the situation. Fool Me Once will give you the tools you need to evaluate your relationship. It will help you determine whether you should trust your husband or not and decide if your marriage is worth saving. 

As they say "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."  

About this title

From the Author

Since you were a young woman you told all your friends that if your man ever cheated on you, you would be so out of there.

At times you want to stay married. But then you think to yourself, "Only weak women stay with cheaters. Strong women walk!" Then you loop and want a divorce, until you think of your kids being spilt between two homes.... and now you want to stay married. Rinse, Repeat.
 
You can't even think straight and you keep going through a never ending loop of ambivalence. You will never get unstuck until you develop criteria around if your husband is sincere in wanting your marriage to recover after infidelity.

I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in helping women decide what to do after their husband's infidelity in marriage. In Fool Me Once, I share the criteria I use to determine if a man is truly remorseful and determined to save his marriage or if he is likely to cheat again.

From the Back Cover

Dr. Caroline Madden does in this brief work what many others fail to do with more words. Concise and appropriately lengthed, this book gives plenty of information. It defines the basic types of affair and shows behaviors that indicate a repentant husband who has a sincere desire to make his marriage right versus behaviors that warn of a possible chronic cheater. I was particularly grateful for the section that listed some common pitfalls of injured spouses aiming to reconcile. Trust after betrayal is a tricky thing and it is easy to forget that both partners need sympathetic healing.
 -Beth Durkee, award-winning author of Navigating Marital Abandonment and The Disposable Noble Wife

Edition details

• Publisher: Train of Thought Press
• Publication date: 2014
• ISBN 10: 0990772853
• ISBN 13: 9780990772859
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 52