Helping Your Husband with ADHD: Supportive Solutions for Adult ADD/ADHD - Softcover

Sachs PsyD, George

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0996950710 ISBN 13: 9780996950718

Publisher: Sachs Center, 2015

Synopsis

He’s restless. He’s jumpy. He’s impatient, impulsive, and chronically late! He simply refuses to get organized and puts off everything—and I mean everything—until the last minute.

Is this the guy you married? Is this the relationship you want? What the heck happened to your husband? Was he always this way? Or is it all in your head? More importantly, is there anything you can do to fix your relationship, or do you have to suffer with his bad habits for the rest of your marriage?

It’s difficult enough managing your career, the house and the kids. Who has time to micromanage their husband’s life?

If you are the wife of a man with ADD/ADHD this may have struck a painful chord, and for good reason. Beyond the daily difficulties of being on the receiving end of ADD/ADHD, your plight is often ignored by therapists and other professionals. Yes, many books and articles have been written describing the challenges of people with ADD/ADHD, but few focus on those who suffer the most from this condition – namely, their partners.

This book is an attempt to do just that; to offer solid education and practical tips to help you deal with the daily frustrations of a relationship with someone who has ADD/ADHD.

This book is a helpful guide for women who think their husbands might have ADD/ADHD. Or for women who’s husbands have already been diagnosed. You will learn ways to support your husband's growth without enabling him or exhausting yourself.

Book Review

"Instead of divorcing their feckless, shiftless, inconsiderate, childish, chaotic husbands, readers can get them help for their underlying disorder, according to this helpful primer on adult ADHD.

Psychologist Sachs specializes in therapy for people with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder. In this book, he aims to specifically inform and advise the wives of men who have it, although they write that they “hope this book is equally helpful to all individuals (single, straight, gay) living with a significant other who has ADD/ADHD.” They present the syndrome as a physical ailment, citing neurochemical imbalances that lead to such symptoms as impulsive actions, distractibility, the inability to complete tasks, and a volatile temperament.

The result is a husband who can’t do chores, care for kids, pay bills, find keys, hold a conversation, have sex, or, often, hold down a job. The anguished comments of frazzled wives included here attest to the relationship challenges that such men face: “All he wants to do is play video games and talk about electronics,” complains one woman. Fortunately, Sachs and Norman contend that wives, with therapists’ help, can do a lot to minimize these problems.

The tips they offer are indeed practical ones, and they cover such topics as diet, communication, and “sleep hygiene” (using hot showers and shoulder massages to wind him down for the night). They also focus on behavior modification, urging readers to break down projects into short to-do lists, dole out rewards for each step completed, and post signs about where to leave keys, wallets, and coats. The authors’ lucid, down-to-earth account will help many put-upon wives to understand and cope with their husbands’ problems. A reassuring guide to a disruptive and baffling marital predicament." --Kirkus ReviewsMarriage, relationships, ADD, ADHD, Attention Deficit Disorder, husband, Melissa Orlov, Adult ADD, relationship, divorce, hyperactivity, married to distraction, Hallowell, Barkely, Adult ADHD.

About this title

About the Author

Spills happen. But for some reason, spills, mistakes, blunders, snafus, mess-ups, do-overs and screw-ups happen more to adults with ADD and with greater consequences. Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can be a very debilitating disorder if not carefully managed and supported.

If not diagnosed and treated, an adult with ADD can accumulate years of failure, missed opportunities, damaged self-esteem and possible drug and alcohol abuse. Careers, work and home life can suffer greatly. Fortunately, there are answers. Dr. Sachs provides a comprehensive holistic approach to managing and overcoming ADD in adults.

Dr. Sachs is a licensed child and adult psychologist, specializing in the treatment of ADD/ADHD in adults. He understands that relationships and marriage can be greatly impacted by ADD/ADHD.

Dr. Sachs did his clinical training in Chicago at Cook County Hospital, Mt. Sinai Hospital and the Child Study Center. He completed his internship and post doctoral work at the Children’s Institute in Los Angeles, where he supervised and trained therapists in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT).

Dr. Sachs consulted to Juilliard in New York City, providing counseling to their dance, drama, and orchestral students. Dr. Sachs is author of Helping the Traumatized Child and "Helping Your Husband with ADHD.” Dr. Sachs has appeared on NBC Nightly News,

Edition details

• Publisher: Sachs Center
• Publication date: 2015
• ISBN 10: 0996950710
• ISBN 13: 9780996950718
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 138